Boys tend not to keep in touch as close as girls do. I have to remind my DH to call his mom and my brother isn't good about calling our mom at all. I know they would do anything for their mom just don't talk as much. Meanwhile me and my SIL are extremely close to our mothers.

It just seems like boys go off into their own world when they become adults and especially after they marry. So while I would love a son I do fear having one and reading all of the MIL/DIL drama on this site doesn't help.

I am a single mom of one boy and I feel very lucky to have him and not a girl. I thought I would want a girl because, well, I am one but having a boy has been wonderful. I see my friends/neighbors who have to deal with the girl drama day in and day out and I breathe a sigh of relief. I have always been a bit of a tomboy too so I am not missing the clothes shopping, manicures/pedicures, etc.

Nobody is Goin to have to care for.me. I'm only 25yrs older than my youngest child. No sandwich generation here.

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Anonymous wrote:I overheard two women talking about how they were so glad that they had at least one girl and that they felt sorry for women who only had sons. They went on to talk about how lonely it would be to not have daughters when you are old. I have 2 boys and I keep thinking about these women and their comments.

I've heard this, too, and to be honest, as a woman with plenty of female pals, we are all close to our mothers and take on the bulk of their care.

I have a son and a daughter. I'm hoping we'll all be close as they age, but you never know.

Maybe I'll die young like my mom, so no one will have to care for me.

Anonymous wrote:I feel blessed not to have girls. They are Tasmanian Devils when puberty hits.

Love my two boys!!

Anonymous wrote:I overheard two women talking about how they were so glad that they had at least one girl and that they felt sorry for women who only had sons. They went on to talk about how lonely it would be to not have daughters when you are old. I have 2 boys and I keep thinking about these women and their comments.

I've heard this, too, and to be honest, as a woman with plenty of female pals, we are all close to our mothers and take on the bulk of their care.

I have a son and a daughter. I'm hoping we'll all be close as they age, but you never know.

I don't feel "sorry" for moms of boys, per se, but I know I personally would have been a little sad to have never had a daughter.

When my friends have babies and talk about the differences between boys and girls, I tend to say that I think each sex has different phases that are a little tougher. I think boys are often little whirling dervishes of activity at early ages (2,3) and that can get exhausting. And the moms of boys I know say that stuff gets broken a lot. Whereas girls are more about psychological torture. Ages 4 and 5 were VERY difficult for me and my daughter, and I dread the teenage years. But property damage was never an issue.

So I think it's a toss-up.

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Anonymous wrote:I have just one son and with him I am well pleased. I literally have never given one thought in my life to missing a daughter. I grew up in a house full of crazy-ass women and thank my lucky stars every day that I don't have to deal with another menstruating bitch in my home, EVER.

+1 I had all sisters and now am a mom to 3 boys.

This is hilarious. I'm also glad to be mom of a boy for this reason!

Ha! Weird. I'm glad to have my son and am not at all sad for not having a daughter. Honestly, I'm not even close with my mom. She was never very nice to me, so there are no guarantees that mothers of girls will have those special adult relationships.

Anonymous wrote:I only wanted boys.

I am thrilled I have all boys.

I am extremely close to my 3 college-age nephews.

We are a testosterone-filled family and as a no-drama, athletic woman. I relate to men so much better.

The whole Frozen-crap makes me cringe.

Don't cry for me.

I am competitive as hell and much prefer to take my boys in a race, a soccer match, basketball, etc. I played a Div-1 sport so they come to me for sports advice.

Just to comment - One can have daughters that are like the above. They are not all princess obsessed pansies. Geez. (For the record I have two of each)

We had three sons together, before DH and I had our daughter. I love all of my children, and I think that boys are wonderful, but I am so very grateful for a daughter. She is magnificent! Go for your third OP, but be prepared to be a happy with a boy as well.

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Anonymous wrote:I only wanted boys.

I am thrilled I have all boys.

I am extremely close to my 3 college-age nephews.

We are a testosterone-filled family and as a no-drama, athletic woman. I relate to men so much better.

The whole Frozen-crap makes me cringe.

Don't cry for me.

I am competitive as hell and much prefer to take my boys in a race, a soccer match, basketball, etc. I played a Div-1 sport so they come to me for sports advice.

You sound like an absolute nightmare and I'm a mom to all boys.

You really do sound like a nightmare PP. Let me guess, you don't get along with other women because you think they're all "jealous" of you.

They are generally bitches as you two lovely ladies have demonstrated.

Dysfunctional as predicted.

For sure when your boys marry their wives will make sure to keep the monster in law far far away.

I adore my boy, and would love to have another one, but if it's a girl, I would be thrilled too
I am a pretty possessive person in terms of people, so, IMO, having a daughter would help me become a nicer MIL when time comes.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, you know what your adult relationship and frequency of visits depends on? Who your kid marries and how close your kid-in-law is to THEIR parents relative to your kid's closeness to you. And geography. And your kid's personality - are they sweet, globe-trotting, a big a-hole?

Male and female has little to do with it. But do expect to visit your grandkid(s) at birth second if you have a son - most girls probably do want their moms to be closest for that experience. I did, and I know this is likely with my son's family. Doesn't mean much in the end, and it's largely an intimate privacy issue.

What a level-headed response!

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Anonymous wrote:eeeeeh fuck 'em.

You get what you get with kids. You could have either gender and be lonely. They are just justifying their lives.

I've heard parents of only boys say "oh tg, I wouldn't know what to do with a girl" and vice versa parents of only girls. People validate what they live.

As evidenced by the comments you're seeing on this thread.

No joke. "I'm so glad I don't have girls because [insert anti-girl stereotype here]." So many people can't just say, "I like what I have"; it has to be about denigrating what they don't.