Anonymous
02/16/2015 19:18
Subject: Re:Did I screw this mom over?
Anonymous wrote:"So sorry I haven't been in touch since the party, things have been a bit crazy. Thanks again for the amazing cake pops and cookies. Let me know how much I owe you".
This. Just act like you always meant to pay her but it got lost in the chaos of the moment. If she refuses, at the very least, send her a really nice gift card or something. She probably wants your recommendations to friends as much as your money, although it's unclear in this case whether she was offering to do it for free or not.
Anonymous
02/16/2015 19:10
Subject: Did I screw this mom over?
I would just assumed from the get-go that you would have had to pay her...I would have offered her money because that would have been the right thing to do after all.
Anyway, what you should do is contact her and let her know you appreciated the cake and pops and ask her what you owe her for them.
Anyway, what you should do is contact her and let her know you appreciated the cake and pops and ask her what you owe her for them.
Anonymous
02/16/2015 18:34
Subject: Re:Did I screw this mom over?
OP here. I think I should be ok. I messaged her that I pay paled her the payment and I really appreciated her hard work and she said... "thank you so much, look forward to future parties. 
" So i don't think she will be insulted I paid her. Looking back it was silly for me to think otherwise.
" So i don't think she will be insulted I paid her. Looking back it was silly for me to think otherwise.
Anonymous
02/16/2015 18:32
Subject: Re:Did I screw this mom over?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op here! Yikes I was totally in the wrong! I pay paled her the exact amount I owed her according to her list prices.
Yikes! How could you be so dumb.
Despite the posts here, you were under no obligation to pay her nor was she expecting it. It sounds like she needs advertising and to get the word out for her business and she felt kid bday parties was a good option. She wanted to use your kids party for advertising bc she thought your party would have a good audience for her product.
If she was making them with the expectation she would be paid, there would have been several conversations about it between you and her and there would have been no question that she expected payment. I have special ordered everything from personalized chocolates to decorated cookies from momprenauer friends and all orders involved several go arounds of questions, pics, confirmations, etc.
I do wonder if we're about to see a thread from the baker about how insulted she is that her friend just paid her for her generous, personal gift.
OP, nothing wrong with what you did. This was a weird situation. I'm glad you paid her, but I can see how that may actually backfire. Just be prepared. And good luck!
Anonymous
02/16/2015 18:32
Subject: Re:Did I screw this mom over?
When I got married, a friend starting a flower business offered to do the flowers and I thought we agreed on the price in advance but kept asking for it in writing. All sorts of things happened, and it became clear she wasn't thinking through the business side of her skill. If the cake pop person is a close enough acquaintance I'd consider telling her that it wasn't clear whether she was doing this as an opportunity to advertise / drum up business or as a paid gig. It could help her run her business even better in the future. That said, glad you paid her OP!!
Anonymous
02/16/2015 18:28
Subject: Did I screw this mom over?
Am I the only one that doesn't know wtf a cake pop is?
Anonymous
02/16/2015 18:12
Subject: Did I screw this mom over?
The friend likes baking, offered to make some cake pops for some children, and now has received money for the gift she gave. How insulted she now feels.
Anonymous
02/16/2015 18:08
Subject: Re:Did I screw this mom over?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op here! Yikes I was totally in the wrong! I pay paled her the exact amount I owed her according to her list prices.
You had no idea this was a business - the baker is at fault too. I think ppl are being way too hard on OP. OP graciously admitted she was wrong without being defensive and paid. I think she's a class act.
OP DID know---baker has a FB that list prices!
Anonymous
02/16/2015 18:08
Subject: Re:Did I screw this mom over?
Anonymous wrote:Op here! Yikes I was totally in the wrong! I pay paled her the exact amount I owed her according to her list prices.
Yikes! How could you be so dumb.
Despite the posts here, you were under no obligation to pay her nor was she expecting it. It sounds like she needs advertising and to get the word out for her business and she felt kid bday parties was a good option. She wanted to use your kids party for advertising bc she thought your party would have a good audience for her product.
If she was making them with the expectation she would be paid, there would have been several conversations about it between you and her and there would have been no question that she expected payment. I have special ordered everything from personalized chocolates to decorated cookies from momprenauer friends and all orders involved several go arounds of questions, pics, confirmations, etc.
Anonymous
02/16/2015 18:07
Subject: Re:Did I screw this mom over?
Anonymous wrote:Op here! Yikes I was totally in the wrong! I pay paled her the exact amount I owed her according to her list prices.
Well done! A little sad though that you had to come here to clarify that this was the right thing to do
Anonymous
02/16/2015 18:05
Subject: Re:Did I screw this mom over?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op here! Yikes I was totally in the wrong! I pay paled her the exact amount I owed her according to her list prices.
You had no idea this was a business - the baker is at fault too. I think ppl are being way too hard on OP. OP graciously admitted she was wrong without being defensive and paid. I think she's a class act.
The baker is not "at fault", because she never asked for payment. OP found out she ran a business, and paid accordingly because that's the right thing to do. Don't see how the baker did anything wrong at all.
Anonymous
02/16/2015 18:03
Subject: Re:Did I screw this mom over?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op here! Yikes I was totally in the wrong! I pay paled her the exact amount I owed her according to her list prices.
You had no idea this was a business - the baker is at fault too. I think ppl are being way too hard on OP. OP graciously admitted she was wrong without being defensive and paid. I think she's a class act.
No, the baker isn't "at fault too." That she's charging only a $1 for a cake pop - labor intensive little suckers - and still learning how to navigate business-social relationships suggests she's just starting out. She'd be equally "at fault" if she was an old hand.
Anonymous
02/16/2015 18:02
Subject: Did I screw this mom over?
You need to pay her. You told her how many people were going to be at the party and she made them.
Anonymous
02/16/2015 17:53
Subject: Re:Did I screw this mom over?
Sounds like you were kind of a sucker. But pay up for the services provided.
Anonymous
02/16/2015 17:52
Subject: Re:Did I screw this mom over?
Anonymous wrote:Op here! Yikes I was totally in the wrong! I pay paled her the exact amount I owed her according to her list prices.
You had no idea this was a business - the baker is at fault too. I think ppl are being way too hard on OP. OP graciously admitted she was wrong without being defensive and paid. I think she's a class act.