Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Be kind.

Be honest/trustworthy.

Be funny. You don't have to crack up a room, but need to have a sense of humour compatible with mine. I don't want to live a life where I'm not laughing often.

Be charismatic/confident/interesting. I lump these three together because generally, if you have reason to be charismatic/confident about something, whether it's your job, hobbies, volunteer work, whatever, you will be interesting when you talk about those because you'll be passionate about them.

Let me know how you feel about me - I'm not talking overwrought stuff, like the "cherishing" upthread. Buy me a stupid (but well-tailored to my interests) souvenir from a business trip so I know you were thinking about me, or text me when something random makes you think of me. Let me know you're sexually attracted to me personally, not just an available female.

This next one is a big one for me, as a woman who is dating:

Be a competent adult. Way, way, too many men in their 30s & 40s, that I meet, I wonder how they survive alone, and I'm not talking about living on takeout and getting all their clothes cleaned out. Oops, they didn't check the mail for their insurance renewal, so it got cut off before they realized it. Want to go on a trip, whoops, passport's gotta be express-renewed. Planned a date, uh oh, need to reschedule - didn't realize they double-booked themselves.

That last one, men knowingly double or even triple book dates. In DC women flake, even on high value guys. Many times it isn't intentional, people are busy, shit comes up. This isn't flyover country and you go home ever night at 530pm. I'm currently talking to 5 women right now. They fall on a hierarchy of what I think of them. I currently have dates planned with three of them on different days, but I've asked the two others to go out on days i already have plans. If those two say yes, then i'll bump the current time slot holders.

Women in their 20's and 30's who have loads of suitors do this all the time, even more than guys. an attractive woman in her 20's probably has 20+ guys she can go out with on a drop of a hat with sending a text or fb message out to them.

You do you, as they say, but only as long as you are OK with realizing that the woman you "bump," especially if she has the other suitors you think she does, will likely switch you to the bottom of her rotation, or out of it altogether, for doing so.

This is what I think is very attractive:

funny
Smart
Affectionate
Makes me feel desired
Great lover
Makes time to have fun as a couple
Kind
Responsible

Anonymous wrote:Be kind.

Be honest/trustworthy.

Be funny. You don't have to crack up a room, but need to have a sense of humour compatible with mine. I don't want to live a life where I'm not laughing often.

Be charismatic/confident/interesting. I lump these three together because generally, if you have reason to be charismatic/confident about something, whether it's your job, hobbies, volunteer work, whatever, you will be interesting when you talk about those because you'll be passionate about them.

Let me know how you feel about me - I'm not talking overwrought stuff, like the "cherishing" upthread. Buy me a stupid (but well-tailored to my interests) souvenir from a business trip so I know you were thinking about me, or text me when something random makes you think of me. Let me know you're sexually attracted to me personally, not just an available female.

This next one is a big one for me, as a woman who is dating:

Be a competent adult. Way, way, too many men in their 30s & 40s, that I meet, I wonder how they survive alone, and I'm not talking about living on takeout and getting all their clothes cleaned out. Oops, they didn't check the mail for their insurance renewal, so it got cut off before they realized it. Want to go on a trip, whoops, passport's gotta be express-renewed. Planned a date, uh oh, need to reschedule - didn't realize they double-booked themselves.

That last one, men knowingly double or even triple book dates. In DC women flake, even on high value guys. Many times it isn't intentional, people are busy, shit comes up. This isn't flyover country and you go home ever night at 530pm. I'm currently talking to 5 women right now. They fall on a hierarchy of what I think of them. I currently have dates planned with three of them on different days, but I've asked the two others to go out on days i already have plans. If those two say yes, then i'll bump the current time slot holders.

Women in their 20's and 30's who have loads of suitors do this all the time, even more than guys. an attractive woman in her 20's probably has 20+ guys she can go out with on a drop of a hat with sending a text or fb message out to them.

Be kind.

Be honest/trustworthy.

Be funny. You don't have to crack up a room, but need to have a sense of humour compatible with mine. I don't want to live a life where I'm not laughing often.

Be charismatic/confident/interesting. I lump these three together because generally, if you have reason to be charismatic/confident about something, whether it's your job, hobbies, volunteer work, whatever, you will be interesting when you talk about those because you'll be passionate about them.

Let me know how you feel about me - I'm not talking overwrought stuff, like the "cherishing" upthread. Buy me a stupid (but well-tailored to my interests) souvenir from a business trip so I know you were thinking about me, or text me when something random makes you think of me. Let me know you're sexually attracted to me personally, not just an available female.

This next one is a big one for me, as a woman who is dating:

Be a competent adult. Way, way, too many men in their 30s & 40s, that I meet, I wonder how they survive alone, and I'm not talking about living on takeout and getting all their clothes cleaned out. Oops, they didn't check the mail for their insurance renewal, so it got cut off before they realized it. Want to go on a trip, whoops, passport's gotta be express-renewed. Planned a date, uh oh, need to reschedule - didn't realize they double-booked themselves.

I find the fact that DH still finds me attractive and wants to have sex with me after all these yrs together very attractive and sexy. He makes me feel attractive and sexy and wanted and that's very attractive in itself.

So be more like Darth Vadar and less like Hans Solo?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry chicks. Men get it. Haven't you figured that out yet. Men just don't give a shit about meeting your homemaking expectations. Outsource or DIY. Nagging is pointles.

Well, have fun living with your mom. Why would anybody else want you in the house, even as a roommate?

x2. LOL for days.

-1. DH can't fix shit nor want to if he could... but he will hire a pro to get it done right so no complaints or nagging.

Outsource

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Science suggests that women find narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy attractive.
http://scottbarrykaufman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/The-Dark-Triad-Personality.pdf

the problem is most men are not natural dark triads, and those who try, the vast majority end up looking really stupid

Yep. As a woman who is probably at least somewhat dark triad and comes from a family (unfortunately) full of em, I can smell it a mile away. And I WILL call you out on it. So that's the risk you run...

Anonymous wrote:Science suggests that women find narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy attractive.
http://scottbarrykaufman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/The-Dark-Triad-Personality.pdf

the problem is most men are not natural dark triads, and those who try, the vast majority end up looking really stupid

Anonymous wrote:Don't shave off all your body hair.

I like it all shaved off... I dont like finding any hair, and men can be so damn hairy. it's gross.

Don't shave off all your body hair.

Science suggests that women find narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy attractive.
http://scottbarrykaufman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/The-Dark-Triad-Personality.pdf

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry chicks. Men get it. Haven't you figured that out yet. Men just don't give a shit about meeting your homemaking expectations. Outsource or DIY. Nagging is pointles.

Well, have fun living with your mom. Why would anybody else want you in the house, even as a roommate?

x2. LOL for days.

Anonymous wrote:Sorry chicks. Men get it. Haven't you figured that out yet. Men just don't give a shit about meeting your homemaking expectations. Outsource or DIY. Nagging is pointles.

Well, have fun living with your mom. Why would anybody else want you in the house, even as a roommate?

If I want something done, I'll do it myself. I expect the same of you.