Update from OP:

I sent Bro coins. I said i didn't need appraisal, or money from them, just that enjoy them or do what he wanted. I kept one coin each, one for each of my two sons, bro was fine with that.

I made one last effort to make amends with my sister, but she says "she's too hurt for that". I'm sorry, I don't get how she's the victim here. Can anyone explain that to me?

Oh well. I'm moving on.

Sadly, your sister is scummy. There is nothing you can do. Decide to be friendly or don't.

Anonymous wrote:I would want nothing to do with a sister like OP's sister.

Yup. I've got one and I'm anticipating a similar fight when my parents pass. She's already told us she plans to assess everything and take the most valuable stuff. She's a nasty witch and I've already cut her off. I have no need for this in my life. OP, I'm sorry your sister is a greedy bitch. I would consider this relationship beyond repair but that's only my opinion.

Anonymous wrote:OP says: I'm really shocked at all the excuses people have tried to find for my millionaire sister -from her taking $3000 plus more additional expenses for stamps, gas and photo copies when i took nothing, to stealing. I've already made up my mind. A person like that isn't worth it.

I suspect there have been a lot of people in your life that you've decided aren't worth it.

I take care of my mom. You would not believe the extra expense. Heat bc she is cold all the time so electric bill is a lot higher. A LOT. Food...I have another adult in the household. And it's not like my 5 year old is drinking a lot more coffee these days. Extra gas. Overtime for the nanny bc I have to help mom with stuff or take her places. I tried to avoid taking money but it was eating into my own savings...why should I? So I can save more for my 2 siblings -who do nothing to help -to inherit?

I'd let it go by letting her go. That's it. She's a thief, plain and simple. And, I'd tell her exactly why.

As for your brother, I'd make sure that he is not acting on your sister's behalf. I'd ask him. If he is, I'd keep the coins. I'm all for being the bigger person in most instances. But, sometimes it's not warranted. That's the case here in my view. If he is sincere that this is for him only, then I'd part with the coins.

PS- I don't have a lot of issue with your sister charging for legit expenses for caring for your mom. You probably should have done the same. Or, at least, when she started charging, point out that you covered things for 5 years and so, no dice. It's too late to begrudge her that now.

Anonymous wrote:Re the 3000 a month. Maybe the sister cut back hours on her job or hired home health care to help with the mom. In which case I could understand why she thought that should come out of money her mom had, unless op and her brother were willing to chip in for expenses, which it sounds they were not.

$3000 a month for rent and elder care is a bargain. Does your sister take in others?