This is my experience (as a man), in my 50's.

At 20, the girls are mostly interested in excitement and looks. They will drop boys for extremely superficial reasons.

At 25, the young women have matured. But they, are craving passion and excitement, and think that that is what Love is. They want it all. Passion career, looks, family. They will date with long checklists, and drop people based on that (Allergic to Cats -- no way)

At 30, the woman has figured out who she is, and her value is not defined by the man...but, she also hears the tic kicking of the biologic clock. She is more accepting of little things, and the big things are different. For example, a calm person who treats people with respect is more valuable than the edginess of an ....She knows who she is and what she wants.

FWIW, I married a woman in her early 30's when I was in my mid 30's.

At 15-22, I was too nerdy to attract anyone. I was funny and smart. At 22-28, I was in grad school, and too poor to date. I was passionate about my field, funny, smart, and could talk about a lot of things. Oh, and I lost on Jeopardy. In my 30's, I was a professional, making decent (not great) money, still had my health and hair, a good sense of humor, and could talk about many things.

Today, at 51, I am witty, earn good money (by anywhere but DCUM standards), am a good father, faithful (sorry), can talk about anything, still have my hair in 95% original color, though a salt and pepper beard....tragically, my health did not make 50, as I have had two types of cancer and cardiac issues. And Mr Happy still works, but not has well as 20 years ago.


What I was on the outside at 25 changed. On the inside, it has not -- funny witty, and smart.

Anonymous wrote:But it shouldn't be that hard and I certainly have zero interest in having to "teach" a man.

Teach him what? To cum, or not to cum, in your mouth?

Anonymous wrote:But it shouldn't be that hard and I certainly have zero interest in having to "teach" a man.

Nicole, is that you?

What a cold-hearted bitch you are.

Anonymous wrote:He wants to have a joined bank account with me after just two months of dating.

Are you serious?

He wants to have a joined bank account with me after just two months of dating.

If we go out, he doesn't look at other women boobs but stares at his IPhone.

Character hits. Signs of selfishness. Not understanding the importance of family.

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Anonymous wrote:I hope some men are taking notes!

Good list. Keep it coming, ladies!

Yeah, most decent men are mostly unqualified, according to you unappreciative skanks.

^^
Go back to the hellhole you crawled out from!

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Anonymous wrote:Expects that you will put out because they paid for the date.

Then pay for your own share, whore.

Angry man alert! He gets dropped by women all the time - and now he is realizing that his whole personality is toxic. Probably a rapist mentality too - cause lots of anger towards women.

No sense of humor

Anonymous wrote:I hope some men are taking notes!

Good list. Keep it coming, ladies!

Yeah, most decent men are mostly unqualified, according to you unappreciative skanks.

Anonymous wrote:Expects that you will put out because they paid for the date.

Then pay for your own share, whore.

Anonymous wrote:Like a sharp guy who stands up to me.

What do you do that needs standing up to? And why don't you just stop doing that?

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In the mean time, I will continue to say that you are fucking idiots. In a few years, you'll be complaining bitterly that you can't find a husband, or that can't get pregnant because it too you to long to get married and you are too old, or that you can't believe your non-geeky DH just knocked up the OW. Keep chasing the cool guys, ladies. Have fun.

No one is looking for "cool guys". If you are looking for decent men and find that certain behavior from your dates raises red flags for you - go with your gut. I want to say that some women also have the same habits as listed on this thread. It depends on what you are willing to overlook and what you are not willing to overlook.

PP, you made a big leap here. It is not necessary for everyone to like geeky guys. It does not translate to "your ovaries will shrivel up" and "your DH will cheat". I also want to comment that thinking a geeky husband will not be an asshole or cheat with OW is pretty delusional. Their geekiness (behaviour and appearance) is not an antidote to cheating.

Right. Who was that guy who overdosed on his yacht with a prostitute? He looked geeky.

He did not overdose. He was given a fatal shot by the prostitute who has done the same thing before. He was married with 5 kids and regularly had liaisons with hookers. I feel sorry for his wife.

Right. Yes, feel sorry for his wife and kids.

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Anonymous wrote:

In the mean time, I will continue to say that you are fucking idiots. In a few years, you'll be complaining bitterly that you can't find a husband, or that can't get pregnant because it too you to long to get married and you are too old, or that you can't believe your non-geeky DH just knocked up the OW. Keep chasing the cool guys, ladies. Have fun.

No one is looking for "cool guys". If you are looking for decent men and find that certain behavior from your dates raises red flags for you - go with your gut. I want to say that some women also have the same habits as listed on this thread. It depends on what you are willing to overlook and what you are not willing to overlook.

PP, you made a big leap here. It is not necessary for everyone to like geeky guys. It does not translate to "your ovaries will shrivel up" and "your DH will cheat". I also want to comment that thinking a geeky husband will not be an asshole or cheat with OW is pretty delusional. Their geekiness (behaviour and appearance) is not an antidote to cheating.

Right. Who was that guy who overdosed on his yacht with a prostitute? He looked geeky.

He did not overdose. He was given a fatal shot by the prostitute who has done the same thing before. He was married with 5 kids and regularly had liaisons with hookers. I feel sorry for his wife.