7 years. I never cheated on her. We are no longer together. Looking back I should have bailed a lot sooner. I'm throwing it in whatever comes by.

Anonymous wrote:Current marriage: 6 years. DH doesn't initiate and rejects advances. He's not having an affair. Says family life is too stressful. 4 kids, 3 teenagers. Been married 17 years next September. It's pretty soul crushing. We're both in decent shape and attractive. I think people would be pretty shocked to look at us. I'm very affectionate with him--he is tepid to cold in response. Most days I feel like I'm just walking under water.

Go and have an affair.

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Anonymous wrote:Current marriage: 6 years. DH doesn't initiate and rejects advances. He's not having an affair. Says family life is too stressful. 4 kids, 3 teenagers. Been married 17 years next September. It's pretty soul crushing. We're both in decent shape and attractive. I think people would be pretty shocked to look at us. I'm very affectionate with him--he is tepid to cold in response. Most days I feel like I'm just walking under water.

You're a better woman than I am. In your shoes, I had a long term affair (which I do not regret for one minute).

Good for you, and I say that with no sarcasm. It's not fair for one spouse to cut another off like that; it's crazy.

Anonymous wrote:Current marriage: 6 years. DH doesn't initiate and rejects advances. He's not having an affair. Says family life is too stressful. 4 kids, 3 teenagers. Been married 17 years next September. It's pretty soul crushing. We're both in decent shape and attractive. I think people would be pretty shocked to look at us. I'm very affectionate with him--he is tepid to cold in response. Most days I feel like I'm just walking under water.

You're a better woman than I am. In your shoes, I had a long term affair (which I do not regret for one minute).

Current marriage: 6 years. DH doesn't initiate and rejects advances. He's not having an affair. Says family life is too stressful. 4 kids, 3 teenagers. Been married 17 years next September. It's pretty soul crushing. We're both in decent shape and attractive. I think people would be pretty shocked to look at us. I'm very affectionate with him--he is tepid to cold in response. Most days I feel like I'm just walking under water.

These are all over the map...we're pregnant and have attempted exactly once since the conception (August) - about two weeks ago. She was in pain so we stopped, pretty quickly. I'm fearful this will go on until well after the pregnancy.

Anonymous wrote:I do not understand how people are too exhausted to have sex. If its a weeknight it takes no longer that a shower to have sex. Speaking of showers, we quite often multitask and have sex in the shower.

I think it's great when two low drive people find each other. However being a working woman in a predominantly male industry there are loads and loaes of people having affairs. I'm sure this is what keeps one of the "happy" partners happy in a sexless marriage.

Ha. SAHM in an affair too.

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Anonymous wrote:My dh and I routinely go a month. We are really in love and have a happy marriage. And we snuggle all the time, of course. Sometimes it's just a while before I have the energy again!

Same here. I think this can be totally normal in a happy healthy relationship but on DCUM it is grounds for divorce!

This is us too. We have a happy marriage and two kids under 3. We are always 'planning' to do it, then just get to exhausted in the evenings...

Yup, us too.

As long as both partners want hat, it works. It doesn't woek when one wants daily, the other monthly or yearly,

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Anonymous wrote:My dh and I routinely go a month. We are really in love and have a happy marriage. And we snuggle all the time, of course. Sometimes it's just a while before I have the energy again!

Same here. I think this can be totally normal in a happy healthy relationship but on DCUM it is grounds for divorce!

This is us too. We have a happy marriage and two kids under 3. We are always 'planning' to do it, then just get to exhausted in the evenings...

Yup, us too.

Anonymous wrote:15 years. And counting. And know what? It's not the big deal I thought it was. Not desperate at all. I give myself an orgasm when I need it and then I'm done with it. The need to have sex with another person just never seems to equal the hassle.

Not knocking madtirbation at all but my irgasms with another person have always been 100x better. You are missing out. Give it a try.

We didn't have sex at all very late in my pg.s or during the first 6-8 weeks pp. So probably 4-3 month dry spells during those times? We have 3 kids.

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Anonymous wrote:2.5 weeks, postpartum with DH. A year when I was younger and single. I wasn't the type of a girl to sleep around. DH and I have sex nightly. I can appreciate a hard situation but its laughable when some women claim working and children make them too tired for sex. I work FT and have two children ( 2yo and 8m). DH and I have sex every day. If you are committed to your relationship and your partner, you will make time for sex.

I thought you had to wait at least 6 weeks after giving birth to resume intercourse?

NP here, we waited three weeks. I had a c section, don't know if that makes a difference. Our sex life goes in waves, but we never go a few days without having it. In dry spells it is 2 times a week. Now it is almost daily. My drive has increased and so now it is DH has to keep up with me. I can understand people who say they are too tired at the end of the day, I've definitely been there. But I can say that making an effort to have it more has benefits outside the bedroom for sure, my husband is more affectionate and attentive and seems in a much better mood. I seem less uptight too.

Anonymous wrote:2.5 weeks, postpartum with DH. A year when I was younger and single. I wasn't the type of a girl to sleep around. DH and I have sex nightly. I can appreciate a hard situation but its laughable when some women claim working and children make them too tired for sex. I work FT and have two children ( 2yo and 8m). DH and I have sex every day. If you are committed to your relationship and your partner, you will make time for sex.

I thought you had to wait at least 6 weeks after giving birth to resume intercourse?

Anonymous wrote:4 or 5 years. Didn't consumate the marriage until 11 months after the wedding. Divorced now and it's been 3 years. I'm depressed

Why didn't you consummate the marriage for almost a year? Maybe I'm asking because it's been a long time forme, and I can't fathom why people in relationship go so long withou sex and hurt each other in process.

4 or 5 years. Didn't consumate the marriage until 11 months after the wedding. Divorced now and it's been 3 years. I'm depressed