Anonymous wrote:The other mom sounds like a piece of work too. "Oh our kids are doing nothing but raiding their fort" as if that isn't anything. They are deliberately disrupting other children's project and game. Thats not nothing.

Honestly, you are way too involved in this. You are just going at it, narcing on the other mom to her boss, gathering allies with another mother.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate to break it to you--but your kids are getting what they deserve. This is called a natural consequence.

It's a pretty simple equation--- if you pick on people, some of them are going to get ticked off and lash out at you. The message to your son should be -- "i'm sorry that your friend lost his temper, I guess you shouldn't pick on him again." I would focus on that rather than whether it's "worse to tease or be physical." Yes, it would be lovely if all kids and adult could give your child a better consequence than pysical retaliation. But, in the real world, if you act like a jerk, occassionally you're going to meet someone that will call you out for your crappy behavior. In boy world that is occassionally going to be phsical.

You are not doing your son any favor by trying to make his "friends" put up with his crap. Work with him to learn how to interact more appropriately and read the social cues to learn when he is crossing the line and to STOP when people are getting irritated. Querry--would you be happier if the boy that your kids was teasing marshalled all his friends to verbally tease your boys in retaliation? Would that be better?

I have come across kids like yours in my son's grade. Their parents think they are the victims when they are really the instigators. Often the same parents, if they are around at all, have the nose in the I-phone and conveinently miss the crappy thing their kid did to irritate their "friends."

+1000!

Anonymous wrote:I think both your kids are contributing to an ongoing problem and both sets of parents need to be in touch with the school to insist on appropriate supervision. Nobody should be betting hurt at all. And teasing needs to be addressed too.

Anonymous wrote:My advice...if you don't want your pipsqueak twins to get their asses kicked tell em to watch who they mouth off to.

Anonymous wrote:OP here..I am not going to go see a mediator; I am not going to spend a couple of hours in some sort of touchy-feely mediation session (I am not going to pay for some such and I wouldn't go even if it was free.) Um, this isn't rocket science. It is a simple issue. These kids are in 2nd grade.

I am going to tell my kids to stop teasing and the other parent can tell her kid to KEEP HIS HANDS TO HIMSELF.

I am also going to have the principal and the playground monitor and/or teachers do the same. Maybe I will put signs up on the playground - KEEP YOUR HANDS TO YOURSELF. DO NOT SUFFOCATE OTHER CHILDREN. DO NOT SQUEEZE OTHER CHILDREN.

Anonymous wrote:I hate to break it to you--but your kids are getting what they deserve. This is called a natural consequence.

It's a pretty simple equation--- if you pick on people, some of them are going to get ticked off and lash out at you. The message to your son should be -- "i'm sorry that your friend lost his temper, I guess you shouldn't pick on him again." I would focus on that rather than whether it's "worse to tease or be physical." Yes, it would be lovely if all kids and adult could give your child a better consequence than pysical retaliation. But, in the real world, if you act like a jerk, occassionally you're going to meet someone that will call you out for your crappy behavior. In boy world that is occassionally going to be phsical.

You are not doing your son any favor by trying to make his "friends" put up with his crap. Work with him to learn how to interact more appropriately and read the social cues to learn when he is crossing the line and to STOP when people are getting irritated. Querry--would you be happier if the boy that your kids was teasing marshalled all his friends to verbally tease your boys in retaliation? Would that be better?

I have come across kids like yours in my son's grade. Their parents think they are the victims when they are really the instigators. Often the same parents, if they are around at all, have the nose in the I-phone and conveinently miss the crappy thing their kid did to irritate their "friends."

Anonymous wrote:OP here...I think the "raiding" is part of the game in a way.

the two big kids also guard a certain piece of playground equipment and tell the other kids they can't use it so my kids try to use it.

I think what is happening is that the two big kids are being controlling jerks so the 4 other kids bug them in return.

I don't know...I think we may all sit down and talk about. the mother of the other kids who is being squeezed is concerned..and she asked her son, what exactly are you all doing to "tease" that is bugging the two big boys and her son was at a loss to think of anything besides "raiding" the fort...so she told me, Stand your ground on the teasing thing..Do not concede that your kids are actually doing any teasing because we have no evidence that they are actually doing any teasing..