Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is a troll

OP is a douche.

Agree OP is an idiot who needs to grow up.

Love and sex overlap, but neither one requires the other. This is why someone can love their spouse with all their heart, but fuck that other person in ways they'd never consider with their spouse.

All this stuff about doing more for her, to help her out, does nothing for you. If she legitimately needs help, help. Offering to do more for the sake of sex makes it a trade at best.

1) Trade sex may or may not happen because, "just because you did all that for me does not *entitle* you to sex..."
2) Do you really expect to have good, passionate, wild sex from trade?

Chances are, you're the chump doing the extra domestic help and the other guy is getting all the sexual performances from your wife that you want (or used to get).

This stuff if all too common and happens frequently.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. She could probably be cheating on me. I wouldn't put it past her. This is a woman who can't finish one project without getting bored. We would have half cooked meals if it wasn't for the fact that our kids need to eat. She's changed jobs and careers. SHe loses interest in hobbies at a drop of a hat. Probably sees me as just a lamp post a decoration for the house. I won't cheat because that's not my style, but I WILL go out without my ring on when I travel and flirt just to keep my tank full.

OP, this and your other posts really make me doubt that you love your wife. Sex isn't going to happen if there isn't love and respect from both parties. It could be that your relationship is over.

Plenty of people have sex - good sex - without love and respect. Plenty of people who love and respect each other live like roommates. The connection between these things is tenuous at best.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She could probably be cheating on me. I wouldn't put it past her. This is a woman who can't finish one project without getting bored. We would have half cooked meals if it wasn't for the fact that our kids need to eat. She's changed jobs and careers. SHe loses interest in hobbies at a drop of a hat. Probably sees me as just a lamp post a decoration for the house. I won't cheat because that's not my style, but I WILL go out without my ring on when I travel and flirt just to keep my tank full.

OP, this and your other posts really make me doubt that you love your wife. Sex isn't going to happen if there isn't love and respect from both parties. It could be that your relationship is over.

Anonymous wrote:DT you show your wife affection? Honestly? Or do u just initiate sex the minute she climbs into bed? Have you tried foreplay?
I had no interest in sex with my husband because he basically used me as a means of masturbation. Never satisfied me. It was all about him. I communicated to him many times over many years that I would like some enjoyment also. Rarely took place. Finally I said me first or not at all. No sex for a few weeks, and suddenly he tried not to be so selfish. Guess what? We were having sex 4+ week.
Sigh, sadly he has returned to it being too much work giving me 5 minutes of foreplay. So we are back to I don't want to have sex. Why would I?

It's a shame you are so helpless. Maybe you could initiate some foreplay instead of just being passive.

Darn. Point sadly taken.

Sorry about your luck, PP. I really like foreplay, happy to do it with DW any time she wants for basically as long as she wants. Still have sex only about twice a month.

Point being, there are plenty of low sex couples out there where the lack of sex has nothing to do with the DH's attentiveness.

DT you show your wife affection? Honestly? Or do u just initiate sex the minute she climbs into bed? Have you tried foreplay?
I had no interest in sex with my husband because he basically used me as a means of masturbation. Never satisfied me. It was all about him. I communicated to him many times over many years that I would like some enjoyment also. Rarely took place. Finally I said me first or not at all. No sex for a few weeks, and suddenly he tried not to be so selfish. Guess what? We were having sex 4+ week.
Sigh, sadly he has returned to it being too much work giving me 5 minutes of foreplay. So we are back to I don't want to have sex. Why would I?

Anonymous wrote:OP is a troll

OP is a douche.