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Anonymous wrote:OP- You are making this way more difficult that it needs to be. You are in Virginia, right? Just go to the website http://www.dss.virginia.gov/family/dcse/ and apply for child support. They will take it from there. If you truly believe he is hiding income from his job, then you'll likely need an attorney. However, the child support office can get his tax returns. They can get his employment records. They'll help you get the child support your child is entitled to.

You need to let go of the stepmother thing. You are not going to get her money. It just isn't going to happen. My ex and his wife were taking exotic vacations and living the life of luxury while I was a struggling single mom. I was getting about $700 a month in support based on my ex husband's income. His wife made about $300,000 a year. She does not owe my children any of that. She is a wonderful person and included my children in their vacations. She bought them all kinds of really neat gifts. My ex had every other weekend and the kids always had a great time during visitations because they lived in a beautiful home on a lake with a sailboat, jet ski, .... My kids did benefit from her income. But only because of her generosity. She certainly didn't owe it to them or to me. And in a million years it never would have occurred to me to go after her income.

Thanks I guess my question is more how hard will the state look at his paper work? It's clear to me it doesn't add up but I know how much he makes and she makes. She makes less than him but is able to buy a house etc.... Not soon after he sold his he made a significant profit but is now claiming poor. He's is actually transferring money to her and she is buying assets in her name only

If it was sold in the divorce, the wife may have gotten the money. We bought our house using my savings and a large gift from my family. Our lifestyle sometimes does not make sense but my family is comfortable and will help pay for things like cars, down payment for house, etc.

No wife did NOT get the money.

You do not know that. You would not know I had money or family money as we don't brag or live like that. Enough complaining. Assuming your kid is 3-6 years old, file already.

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Anonymous wrote:OP- You are making this way more difficult that it needs to be. You are in Virginia, right? Just go to the website http://www.dss.virginia.gov/family/dcse/ and apply for child support. They will take it from there. If you truly believe he is hiding income from his job, then you'll likely need an attorney. However, the child support office can get his tax returns. They can get his employment records. They'll help you get the child support your child is entitled to.

You need to let go of the stepmother thing. You are not going to get her money. It just isn't going to happen. My ex and his wife were taking exotic vacations and living the life of luxury while I was a struggling single mom. I was getting about $700 a month in support based on my ex husband's income. His wife made about $300,000 a year. She does not owe my children any of that. She is a wonderful person and included my children in their vacations. She bought them all kinds of really neat gifts. My ex had every other weekend and the kids always had a great time during visitations because they lived in a beautiful home on a lake with a sailboat, jet ski, .... My kids did benefit from her income. But only because of her generosity. She certainly didn't owe it to them or to me. And in a million years it never would have occurred to me to go after her income.

Thanks I guess my question is more how hard will the state look at his paper work? It's clear to me it doesn't add up but I know how much he makes and she makes. She makes less than him but is able to buy a house etc.... Not soon after he sold his he made a significant profit but is now claiming poor. He's is actually transferring money to her and she is buying assets in her name only

IF what you're saying is true, I still think you're out of luck. On paper, it looks as if he sold the house but no longer has the money. Money sitting in his bank account is much different than money that was made from the sale of a home then parted with quickly. It's not unusual for a husband to give his wife money that she then uses to buy whatever she wants. Bottom line is that you're heading for an uphill battle if you're going to attempt to prove that he has more money than paperwork is showing, is hiding money, etc.

The posters who state that only his INCOME will be considered in the child support computation are correct. It's been broken down for you in so many ways that I don't know why you don't get it. Sadly, you may come across to the court and bitter and vindictive if you start going on a witchhunt for money that no longer exists, was given to his WIFE, etc. And for the life of me, I don't know how you know how much she makes, what was purchased in her name, or why in the world with a 2 year old you'd take the time to investigate. You're way too concerned about what's going on in his marriage when you really should be worried about your child and building a life for yourself.

And if you're spending time counting the new wife's money and plotting ways to get it, you are certainly NOT focused on building your own life.

I know how much she makes because she's a fed
Real estate records show house sells and purchases
Tax assessments etc
He is doing a very sloppy job of laundering money

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Anonymous wrote:OP- You are making this way more difficult that it needs to be. You are in Virginia, right? Just go to the website http://www.dss.virginia.gov/family/dcse/ and apply for child support. They will take it from there. If you truly believe he is hiding income from his job, then you'll likely need an attorney. However, the child support office can get his tax returns. They can get his employment records. They'll help you get the child support your child is entitled to.

You need to let go of the stepmother thing. You are not going to get her money. It just isn't going to happen. My ex and his wife were taking exotic vacations and living the life of luxury while I was a struggling single mom. I was getting about $700 a month in support based on my ex husband's income. His wife made about $300,000 a year. She does not owe my children any of that. She is a wonderful person and included my children in their vacations. She bought them all kinds of really neat gifts. My ex had every other weekend and the kids always had a great time during visitations because they lived in a beautiful home on a lake with a sailboat, jet ski, .... My kids did benefit from her income. But only because of her generosity. She certainly didn't owe it to them or to me. And in a million years it never would have occurred to me to go after her income.

Thanks I guess my question is more how hard will the state look at his paper work? It's clear to me it doesn't add up but I know how much he makes and she makes. She makes less than him but is able to buy a house etc.... Not soon after he sold his he made a significant profit but is now claiming poor. He's is actually transferring money to her and she is buying assets in her name only

If it was sold in the divorce, the wife may have gotten the money. We bought our house using my savings and a large gift from my family. Our lifestyle sometimes does not make sense but my family is comfortable and will help pay for things like cars, down payment for house, etc.

No wife did NOT get the money.

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Anonymous wrote:OP- You are making this way more difficult that it needs to be. You are in Virginia, right? Just go to the website http://www.dss.virginia.gov/family/dcse/ and apply for child support. They will take it from there. If you truly believe he is hiding income from his job, then you'll likely need an attorney. However, the child support office can get his tax returns. They can get his employment records. They'll help you get the child support your child is entitled to.

You need to let go of the stepmother thing. You are not going to get her money. It just isn't going to happen. My ex and his wife were taking exotic vacations and living the life of luxury while I was a struggling single mom. I was getting about $700 a month in support based on my ex husband's income. His wife made about $300,000 a year. She does not owe my children any of that. She is a wonderful person and included my children in their vacations. She bought them all kinds of really neat gifts. My ex had every other weekend and the kids always had a great time during visitations because they lived in a beautiful home on a lake with a sailboat, jet ski, .... My kids did benefit from her income. But only because of her generosity. She certainly didn't owe it to them or to me. And in a million years it never would have occurred to me to go after her income.

Thanks I guess my question is more how hard will the state look at his paper work? It's clear to me it doesn't add up but I know how much he makes and she makes. She makes less than him but is able to buy a house etc.... Not soon after he sold his he made a significant profit but is now claiming poor. He's is actually transferring money to her and she is buying assets in her name only

If it was sold in the divorce, the wife may have gotten the money. We bought our house using my savings and a large gift from my family. Our lifestyle sometimes does not make sense but my family is comfortable and will help pay for things like cars, down payment for house, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:OP- You are making this way more difficult that it needs to be. You are in Virginia, right? Just go to the website http://www.dss.virginia.gov/family/dcse/ and apply for child support. They will take it from there. If you truly believe he is hiding income from his job, then you'll likely need an attorney. However, the child support office can get his tax returns. They can get his employment records. They'll help you get the child support your child is entitled to.

You need to let go of the stepmother thing. You are not going to get her money. It just isn't going to happen. My ex and his wife were taking exotic vacations and living the life of luxury while I was a struggling single mom. I was getting about $700 a month in support based on my ex husband's income. His wife made about $300,000 a year. She does not owe my children any of that. She is a wonderful person and included my children in their vacations. She bought them all kinds of really neat gifts. My ex had every other weekend and the kids always had a great time during visitations because they lived in a beautiful home on a lake with a sailboat, jet ski, .... My kids did benefit from her income. But only because of her generosity. She certainly didn't owe it to them or to me. And in a million years it never would have occurred to me to go after her income.

Thanks I guess my question is more how hard will the state look at his paper work? It's clear to me it doesn't add up but I know how much he makes and she makes. She makes less than him but is able to buy a house etc.... Not soon after he sold his he made a significant profit but is now claiming poor. He's is actually transferring money to her and she is buying assets in her name only

IF what you're saying is true, I still think you're out of luck. On paper, it looks as if he sold the house but no longer has the money. Money sitting in his bank account is much different than money that was made from the sale of a home then parted with quickly. It's not unusual for a husband to give his wife money that she then uses to buy whatever she wants. Bottom line is that you're heading for an uphill battle if you're going to attempt to prove that he has more money than paperwork is showing, is hiding money, etc.

The posters who state that only his INCOME will be considered in the child support computation are correct. It's been broken down for you in so many ways that I don't know why you don't get it. Sadly, you may come across to the court and bitter and vindictive if you start going on a witchhunt for money that no longer exists, was given to his WIFE, etc. And for the life of me, I don't know how you know how much she makes, what was purchased in her name, or why in the world with a 2 year old you'd take the time to investigate. You're way too concerned about what's going on in his marriage when you really should be worried about your child and building a life for yourself.

And if you're spending time counting the new wife's money and plotting ways to get it, you are certainly NOT focused on building your own life.

I know how much she makes because she's a fed
Real estate records show house sells and purchases
Tax assessments etc
He is doing a very sloppy job of laundering money

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Anonymous wrote:OP- You are making this way more difficult that it needs to be. You are in Virginia, right? Just go to the website http://www.dss.virginia.gov/family/dcse/ and apply for child support. They will take it from there. If you truly believe he is hiding income from his job, then you'll likely need an attorney. However, the child support office can get his tax returns. They can get his employment records. They'll help you get the child support your child is entitled to.

You need to let go of the stepmother thing. You are not going to get her money. It just isn't going to happen. My ex and his wife were taking exotic vacations and living the life of luxury while I was a struggling single mom. I was getting about $700 a month in support based on my ex husband's income. His wife made about $300,000 a year. She does not owe my children any of that. She is a wonderful person and included my children in their vacations. She bought them all kinds of really neat gifts. My ex had every other weekend and the kids always had a great time during visitations because they lived in a beautiful home on a lake with a sailboat, jet ski, .... My kids did benefit from her income. But only because of her generosity. She certainly didn't owe it to them or to me. And in a million years it never would have occurred to me to go after her income.

Thanks I guess my question is more how hard will the state look at his paper work? It's clear to me it doesn't add up but I know how much he makes and she makes. She makes less than him but is able to buy a house etc.... Not soon after he sold his he made a significant profit but is now claiming poor. He's is actually transferring money to her and she is buying assets in her name only

IF what you're saying is true, I still think you're out of luck. On paper, it looks as if he sold the house but no longer has the money. Money sitting in his bank account is much different than money that was made from the sale of a home then parted with quickly. It's not unusual for a husband to give his wife money that she then uses to buy whatever she wants. Bottom line is that you're heading for an uphill battle if you're going to attempt to prove that he has more money than paperwork is showing, is hiding money, etc.

The posters who state that only his INCOME will be considered in the child support computation are correct. It's been broken down for you in so many ways that I don't know why you don't get it. Sadly, you may come across to the court and bitter and vindictive if you start going on a witchhunt for money that no longer exists, was given to his WIFE, etc. And for the life of me, I don't know how you know how much she makes, what was purchased in her name, or why in the world with a 2 year old you'd take the time to investigate. You're way too concerned about what's going on in his marriage when you really should be worried about your child and building a life for yourself.

And if you're spending time counting the new wife's money and plotting ways to get it, you are certainly NOT focused on building your own life.

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Anonymous wrote:OP- You are making this way more difficult that it needs to be. You are in Virginia, right? Just go to the website http://www.dss.virginia.gov/family/dcse/ and apply for child support. They will take it from there. If you truly believe he is hiding income from his job, then you'll likely need an attorney. However, the child support office can get his tax returns. They can get his employment records. They'll help you get the child support your child is entitled to.

You need to let go of the stepmother thing. You are not going to get her money. It just isn't going to happen. My ex and his wife were taking exotic vacations and living the life of luxury while I was a struggling single mom. I was getting about $700 a month in support based on my ex husband's income. His wife made about $300,000 a year. She does not owe my children any of that. She is a wonderful person and included my children in their vacations. She bought them all kinds of really neat gifts. My ex had every other weekend and the kids always had a great time during visitations because they lived in a beautiful home on a lake with a sailboat, jet ski, .... My kids did benefit from her income. But only because of her generosity. She certainly didn't owe it to them or to me. And in a million years it never would have occurred to me to go after her income.

Thanks I guess my question is more how hard will the state look at his paper work? It's clear to me it doesn't add up but I know how much he makes and she makes. She makes less than him but is able to buy a house etc.... Not soon after he sold his he made a significant profit but is now claiming poor. He's is actually transferring money to her and she is buying assets in her name only

OP, I think you're still missing the point: do you think that he is hiding money that he EARNED FROM HIS JOB or do you think he is hiding money he RECEIVED AS A PROFIT FROM SELLING A HOME? Which is it?

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Anonymous wrote:OP- You are making this way more difficult that it needs to be. You are in Virginia, right? Just go to the website http://www.dss.virginia.gov/family/dcse/ and apply for child support. They will take it from there. If you truly believe he is hiding income from his job, then you'll likely need an attorney. However, the child support office can get his tax returns. They can get his employment records. They'll help you get the child support your child is entitled to.

You need to let go of the stepmother thing. You are not going to get her money. It just isn't going to happen. My ex and his wife were taking exotic vacations and living the life of luxury while I was a struggling single mom. I was getting about $700 a month in support based on my ex husband's income. His wife made about $300,000 a year. She does not owe my children any of that. She is a wonderful person and included my children in their vacations. She bought them all kinds of really neat gifts. My ex had every other weekend and the kids always had a great time during visitations because they lived in a beautiful home on a lake with a sailboat, jet ski, .... My kids did benefit from her income. But only because of her generosity. She certainly didn't owe it to them or to me. And in a million years it never would have occurred to me to go after her income.

Thanks I guess my question is more how hard will the state look at his paper work? It's clear to me it doesn't add up but I know how much he makes and she makes. She makes less than him but is able to buy a house etc.... Not soon after he sold his he made a significant profit but is now claiming poor. He's is actually transferring money to her and she is buying assets in her name only

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Anonymous wrote:OP- You are making this way more difficult that it needs to be. You are in Virginia, right? Just go to the website http://www.dss.virginia.gov/family/dcse/ and apply for child support. They will take it from there. If you truly believe he is hiding income from his job, then you'll likely need an attorney. However, the child support office can get his tax returns. They can get his employment records. They'll help you get the child support your child is entitled to.

You need to let go of the stepmother thing. You are not going to get her money. It just isn't going to happen. My ex and his wife were taking exotic vacations and living the life of luxury while I was a struggling single mom. I was getting about $700 a month in support based on my ex husband's income. His wife made about $300,000 a year. She does not owe my children any of that. She is a wonderful person and included my children in their vacations. She bought them all kinds of really neat gifts. My ex had every other weekend and the kids always had a great time during visitations because they lived in a beautiful home on a lake with a sailboat, jet ski, .... My kids did benefit from her income. But only because of her generosity. She certainly didn't owe it to them or to me. And in a million years it never would have occurred to me to go after her income.

Thanks I guess my question is more how hard will the state look at his paper work? It's clear to me it doesn't add up but I know how much he makes and she makes. She makes less than him but is able to buy a house etc.... Not soon after he sold his he made a significant profit but is now claiming poor. He's is actually transferring money to her and she is buying assets in her name only

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Anonymous wrote:OP- You are making this way more difficult that it needs to be. You are in Virginia, right? Just go to the website http://www.dss.virginia.gov/family/dcse/ and apply for child support. They will take it from there. If you truly believe he is hiding income from his job, then you'll likely need an attorney. However, the child support office can get his tax returns. They can get his employment records. They'll help you get the child support your child is entitled to.

You need to let go of the stepmother thing. You are not going to get her money. It just isn't going to happen. My ex and his wife were taking exotic vacations and living the life of luxury while I was a struggling single mom. I was getting about $700 a month in support based on my ex husband's income. His wife made about $300,000 a year. She does not owe my children any of that. She is a wonderful person and included my children in their vacations. She bought them all kinds of really neat gifts. My ex had every other weekend and the kids always had a great time during visitations because they lived in a beautiful home on a lake with a sailboat, jet ski, .... My kids did benefit from her income. But only because of her generosity. She certainly didn't owe it to them or to me. And in a million years it never would have occurred to me to go after her income.

Thanks I guess my question is more how hard will the state look at his paper work? It's clear to me it doesn't add up but I know how much he makes and she makes. She makes less than him but is able to buy a house etc.... Not soon after he sold his he made a significant profit but is now claiming poor. He's is actually transferring money to her and she is buying assets in her name only

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Anonymous wrote:OP- You are making this way more difficult that it needs to be. You are in Virginia, right? Just go to the website http://www.dss.virginia.gov/family/dcse/ and apply for child support. They will take it from there. If you truly believe he is hiding income from his job, then you'll likely need an attorney. However, the child support office can get his tax returns. They can get his employment records. They'll help you get the child support your child is entitled to.

You need to let go of the stepmother thing. You are not going to get her money. It just isn't going to happen. My ex and his wife were taking exotic vacations and living the life of luxury while I was a struggling single mom. I was getting about $700 a month in support based on my ex husband's income. His wife made about $300,000 a year. She does not owe my children any of that. She is a wonderful person and included my children in their vacations. She bought them all kinds of really neat gifts. My ex had every other weekend and the kids always had a great time during visitations because they lived in a beautiful home on a lake with a sailboat, jet ski, .... My kids did benefit from her income. But only because of her generosity. She certainly didn't owe it to them or to me. And in a million years it never would have occurred to me to go after her income.

Thanks I guess my question is more how hard will the state look at his paper work? It's clear to me it doesn't add up but I know how much he makes and she makes. She makes less than him but is able to buy a house etc.... Not soon after he sold his he made a significant profit but is now claiming poor. He's is actually transferring money to her and she is buying assets in her name only

Anonymous wrote:OP- You are making this way more difficult that it needs to be. You are in Virginia, right? Just go to the website http://www.dss.virginia.gov/family/dcse/ and apply for child support. They will take it from there. If you truly believe he is hiding income from his job, then you'll likely need an attorney. However, the child support office can get his tax returns. They can get his employment records. They'll help you get the child support your child is entitled to.

You need to let go of the stepmother thing. You are not going to get her money. It just isn't going to happen. My ex and his wife were taking exotic vacations and living the life of luxury while I was a struggling single mom. I was getting about $700 a month in support based on my ex husband's income. His wife made about $300,000 a year. She does not owe my children any of that. She is a wonderful person and included my children in their vacations. She bought them all kinds of really neat gifts. My ex had every other weekend and the kids always had a great time during visitations because they lived in a beautiful home on a lake with a sailboat, jet ski, .... My kids did benefit from her income. But only because of her generosity. She certainly didn't owe it to them or to me. And in a million years it never would have occurred to me to go after her income.

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Anonymous wrote:OP--can you provide a rational reason why you feel you are entitled to increased CS based on the new wife's income? I guess what I'm asking is why should she be financially obligated for a child she did not have?

I just don't read the OP this way. Her XH is hiding behind his new wife. OP is interested if there are any options at all.

I think her XH sounds like a cheat. Sadly, I don't think there's a lot OP can do, except realize these are all reasons why they are divorced and to thank god every day she's rid of him.

Yes, he is hiding assests in her name. He sells a house with wife 3. Wife #4 buys a house (not jointly) a few months after settlement etc... There are other instances. In addition, he is postering for voluntary impoverishment (He is plannin on losing his job and being unable to find another) this kind of nonsense.

So, which wife are you or are you an affair. Nothing makes sense. Why would you have a child with a man who probably has several other kids and married 4 times. Sounds like a bad decision on your part. Divorced once, ok, but 3 times and on wife 4, something isn't right. He may have not gotten any money from wife 3 and she took the money from the house or they may have not gotten anything. Wife #4 could have a good job, savings and bought the house with her money and was smart enough to protect herself. When we bought our house, I put the downpayment down, not my husband.

No. He's hiding money from wife 3. I can see it and know about some but I've not told her all I know-can't show my hands it he'll owe her a chunk too

So which wife are you? #1, #2, an affair or break between wives. Sorry, no empathy if you knew all this about him and still choose to have a child. Stop complaining and file for child support. You can complain on here all you want, but you have to file and let the court or child support office deal with it. Assuming he may be paying alimony to some wives and may have other kids, your child support amount may be really low. Next time pick a better man to have a child with.