Anonymous wrote:I'd be incredibly flattered if someone said this to me.

Why?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:IM flattered when people compliment my husband's looks. And I know when they say "your husband is handsome," they really mean "wow, that's great that YOU found someone so good-looking. That's quite an achievement."

It sounds like that woman is just the jealous type. I don't think you have anything to apologize for. I imagine that could even !make the situation worse. Let it die.

an achievement?

lol

OK, June Cleaver! glad you could earn your MRS degree in college

+1

An achievement, really? And how is saying someone's DH is handsome a compliment, exactly?

Anonymous wrote:IM flattered when people compliment my husband's looks. And I know when they say "your husband is handsome," they really mean "wow, that's great that YOU found someone so good-looking. That's quite an achievement."

It sounds like that woman is just the jealous type. I don't think you have anything to apologize for. I imagine that could even !make the situation worse. Let it die.

I'm this poster. I was being sarcastic and overly-dramatic. Sheesh!

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Anonymous wrote:Or they've dealt with a woman stalker type. Years ago I had to deal with a couple of girls who had it in their head my boyfriend was *meant* to be with her and he just didn't know it yet. How this happened to me twice with two different guys and two different "friends" I don't know but it can be pretty stressful depending on how delusional/obsessed she is.

+1. My husband had an ex-girlfriend (who lived on the other side of the country, no chance of affair) ask him for our address. He gave it to her, thinking she was sending a Christmas card. She sent him diamond Movado watch. We been married for 7 years and together for 10 at this point. He sent them back and blocked her number from his phone. He also will not get a Facebook account because of her.

Another co-worker declared herself his backup wife if we ever get divorced. At first he thought it was funny, but she kept mentioning it. He had to put a stop to it, which of course she replied she was only joking. Very uncomfortable.

He can get a FB account. He can set his privacy settings to only show his comments to his FB friends and block everyone else. Then if she tries to friend him, decline and she won't be able to see anything unless a mutual friend shares it.

Anonymous wrote:Or they've dealt with a woman stalker type. Years ago I had to deal with a couple of girls who had it in their head my boyfriend was *meant* to be with her and he just didn't know it yet. How this happened to me twice with two different guys and two different "friends" I don't know but it can be pretty stressful depending on how delusional/obsessed she is.

+1. My husband had an ex-girlfriend (who lived on the other side of the country, no chance of affair) ask him for our address. He gave it to her, thinking she was sending a Christmas card. She sent him diamond Movado watch. We been married for 7 years and together for 10 at this point. He sent them back and blocked her number from his phone. He also will not get a Facebook account because of her.

Another co-worker declared herself his backup wife if we ever get divorced. At first he thought it was funny, but she kept mentioning it. He had to put a stop to it, which of course she replied she was only joking. Very uncomfortable.

Anonymous wrote:IM flattered when people compliment my husband's looks. And I know when they say "your husband is handsome," they really mean "wow, that's great that YOU found someone so good-looking. That's quite an achievement."

It sounds like that woman is just the jealous type. I don't think you have anything to apologize for. I imagine that could even !make the situation worse. Let it die.

How is that an achievement?

I'd be incredibly flattered if someone said this to me.

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Anonymous wrote:I find that usually it is the "handsome" husband who is looking at other women, rather than other women having designs on the "handsome" men.

Once a person is married, they can only be a good prospect for a no-strings attached affair. It is not as if the "handsome" man will leave his wife to marry someone else.

I find insecure wives of handsome men most tiring. No one wants your DH to father their children. Chill!

Not always. I've worked with a few hot married men who were definitely on the prowl.

My point exactly. There are hot married men who are on the prowl for an affair. A married mom is less likely to want a long term commitment from another married man, y wrecking her own family.

A single childless young woman may have less to lose when she goes after a hot married man - especially if there is a chance that he can divorce his wife.

I'm really surprised that some PPs actually think OP's comment was somehow inappropriate or offensive. How on earth do you people get through life? Bunch of real dour weirdos around here.

Yeah, you were wrong. You just don't say stuff like that.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a creepy thing to say

+100

I'm married to the 'eye candy' of our elementary school. The shit people say and even worse the shit people tell me they say when I'm not around.

One woman's eye candy is another woman's cavity.

Don't flatter yourself too much.

Anonymous wrote:IM flattered when people compliment my husband's looks. And I know when they say "your husband is handsome," they really mean "wow, that's great that YOU found someone so good-looking. That's quite an achievement."

It sounds like that woman is just the jealous type. I don't think you have anything to apologize for. I imagine that could even !make the situation worse. Let it die.

an achievement?

lol

OK, June Cleaver! glad you could earn your MRS degree in college

Anonymous wrote:I find that usually it is the "handsome" husband who is looking at other women, rather than other women having designs on the "handsome" men.

Once a person is married, they can only be a good prospect for a no-strings attached affair. It is not as if the "handsome" man will leave his wife to marry someone else.

I find insecure wives of handsome men most tiring. No one wants your DH to father their children. Chill!

Not always. I've worked with a few hot married men who were definitely on the prowl.

IM flattered when people compliment my husband's looks. And I know when they say "your husband is handsome," they really mean "wow, that's great that YOU found someone so good-looking. That's quite an achievement."

It sounds like that woman is just the jealous type. I don't think you have anything to apologize for. I imagine that could even !make the situation worse. Let it die.

OP, She may have just been taken aback. I went to a xmas party with my husband several years ago and we said hello to a coule we knew pretty well and the woman just looked at me and said "wow, you are a beautiful woman" and her husband said quietly," yes she is". It was sweet but a little odd. But I knew she was just saying what was on her mind. If she had said something typical, "don't yu look nice". It would have been less odd. Making personal comments like that can startle people.