Anonymous wrote:Op said that she plans to contribute grocery $ but doesn't have the $ for a hotel room. This is understandable somehow but the in-laws not forking out $$ for luxury accommodations is somehow "thoughtless", "selfish".

It's not like the in-laws are asking these people to sleep on the kitchen floor. They are getting their own room in a beach house. I say - go and have fun! Or if you think that you won't be able to deal with it stay home. But please don't act bratty, put upon....

Wait, so the choices are: "suck it up", "sleep on the kitchen floor", or "get your own hotel room"????!!! Are you serious? Do you have a family? Do you have parents? Does anyone give a flying care about you? Because you come across as rather crass, mean spirited, bitter and selfish yourself. OP, decline the "invitation". I'd rather rearrange my sock drawer personally. These people are not doing you any favors.

Just because you have less money, doesn't mean you should be treated like a second class citizen. I know someone who gave their sister a great paying job for ten plus years, yet all she did was whine, complain, gossip and basically, look a gift hours in the mouth. There is no way she would have had such a job without her brother; but she is a spoiled brat, used to getting her way or pitching a complete fit. Did I mention she is 50 (!!!) years old. She is so ungrateful, she makes sure her brother ends up in the crappiest room, and she gets the most beautiful spacious room, every trip. Everyone sees her true spoiled colors. She is fooling no one. Every year the brother considers not going. Every year its the same old crap. Being nice to some people gets you less than zero, OP.

Just bc you have kids does not mean you deserve the biggest bedroom in the house, even if you were paying,and you are not!!

Gosh, do people really get this worked up unless every little detail is to their liking? The time spent with loved ones doesn't trump these minor inconveniences?

eh, show up and make do. You might have fun. It might be the worst vacay of your life. Either way, you'll have some good stories to tell...

We'll be waiting to hear them!

Sounds awful. I wouldn't go. Too much headache for too little reward.

Op said that she plans to contribute grocery $ but doesn't have the $ for a hotel room. This is understandable somehow but the in-laws not forking out $$ for luxury accommodations is somehow "thoughtless", "selfish".

It's not like the in-laws are asking these people to sleep on the kitchen floor. They are getting their own room in a beach house. I say - go and have fun! Or if you think that you won't be able to deal with it stay home. But please don't act bratty, put upon....

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are entitled to one small bedroom. There are 2 other bedrooms, but they will be occupied by the 2 couples paying for the house. We are not paying - I figured we would end up paying for a grocery run.

You wouldn't be "entitled" to anything. You are being graciously offered something.

Bingo. Op, you sound a little bit like an entitled brat. Sorry. I hope you aren't...a brat.

BS. OP, I would decline if I were you. It's your vacation time, too. If you can afford to kick in money, fine. If not, they still invited you. Its not like they have to put you in the crappiest accommodations just because. Did they at least warn you first? I don't understand inviting anyone anywhere without some warning if the accommodations are going to suck. That's just rude.

OP doesn't sound like a freeloader, she plans to contribute.

Just because someone doesn't agree with you, doesn't mean they are not also entitled to answer the question OP asked. Sounds like an over sensitive, inconsiderate MIL/SIL is on this board!

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are entitled to one small bedroom. There are 2 other bedrooms, but they will be occupied by the 2 couples paying for the house. We are not paying - I figured we would end up paying for a grocery run.

You wouldn't be "entitled" to anything. You are being graciously offered something.

Bingo. Op, you sound a little bit like an entitled brat. Sorry. I hope you aren't...a brat.

Good grief - it's for **2** days. TWO days.

You really expect the in-laws to rent a big house with three luxury bedroom suites for an entire week - just to keep Op comfortable for 2 days.

It's the beach. It's free. In-laws want to spend time with their grandkids but don't want to have to blow their money like it's going out of style. This is "selfish" of them? Hmm.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are entitled to one small bedroom. There are 2 other bedrooms, but they will be occupied by the 2 couples paying for the house. We are not paying - I figured we would end up paying for a grocery run.

You wouldn't be "entitled" to anything. You are being graciously offered something.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure they aren't quite thinking of the logistics the way you are. Tell them you and DH can take the twin beds and put DC#1 on the floor between them and ask if they think DC#2's pack n play will fit at the bottom.

Mostly this is a matter of personal preference and tolerance. Some folks do okay with cramped quarters all in the name of togetherness. My family is like that - I've slept on many a floor at relatives' homes! My ILs however would die before having anything less than private space. They stay in hotels even when visiting their own parents. There's no right or wrong - just what keeps you comfortable.

Disagree completely. You don't invite someone on VACATION, for this kind of set up. Holy cow!

Did you read what she wrote? Some people don't mind!!!!! I don't like beets, but I don't "disagree" because others find them tasty!

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OP, we have the same thoughtless MIL, and perhaps a selfish SIL (who claims the biggest room for two people!!!) in the mix. Oh joy, what a "vacation".

I am so sorry to hear that someone else is treated this way. Vacation time is much to short, some people just refuse to get it.

Before you make the long trip, tell MIL that your family of 4 (!!!) will NOT be stuffed into a tiny two bed room on "vacation". God, I feel sick just thinking about what awaits us. Don't tell me, OBX, right? "Looks great on paper".......

Not inclined to read all of the posts. I feel for you.

Calm down - to each his own

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure they aren't quite thinking of the logistics the way you are. Tell them you and DH can take the twin beds and put DC#1 on the floor between them and ask if they think DC#2's pack n play will fit at the bottom.

Mostly this is a matter of personal preference and tolerance. Some folks do okay with cramped quarters all in the name of togetherness. My family is like that - I've slept on many a floor at relatives' homes! My ILs however would die before having anything less than private space. They stay in hotels even when visiting their own parents. There's no right or wrong - just what keeps you comfortable.

Disagree completely. You don't invite someone on VACATION, for this kind of set up. Holy cow!

OP, we have the same thoughtless MIL, and perhaps a selfish SIL (who claims the biggest room for two people!!!) in the mix. Oh joy, what a "vacation".

I am so sorry to hear that someone else is treated this way. Vacation time is much to short, some people just refuse to get it.

Before you make the long trip, tell MIL that your family of 4 (!!!) will NOT be stuffed into a tiny two bed room on "vacation". God, I feel sick just thinking about what awaits us. Don't tell me, OBX, right? "Looks great on paper".......

Not inclined to read all of the posts. I feel for you.

I'm sure they aren't quite thinking of the logistics the way you are. Tell them you and DH can take the twin beds and put DC#1 on the floor between them and ask if they think DC#2's pack n play will fit at the bottom.

Mostly this is a matter of personal preference and tolerance. Some folks do okay with cramped quarters all in the name of togetherness. My family is like that - I've slept on many a floor at relatives' homes! My ILs however would die before having anything less than private space. They stay in hotels even when visiting their own parents. There's no right or wrong - just what keeps you comfortable.