Anonymous wrote:Anyone know attorney as good as David Masterman? We are dealing with David Masterman right now and we need help.

So how is the outcome of dealing with David Masterman? Is he really good?

OP, are you still around on DCUM? What happened?

Ron Bergman of Bergman Law hands down

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Anonymous wrote:OP, what did you do that your DH sought solace in the arms of another woman? Were you meeting his emotional and sexual needs as a good wife does? Or were you putting him down, seeing him more for his wallet than as a man, giving him a "honey-do" list every time he came home from work, bitching about wanting a new car or sofa? Did you deny him the last piece of pie? Or were you grateful for the hard work he was putting in to put a roof over your head and the heads of your little ones, the food on your table and did you show it? Gratitude and respect - and the occasional blowjob - go a long way in making a hubby happy! You should try it sometime.

You are not only completely ignorant as to the causes of infidelity, but a complete and utter asshole as well.

I would bet that you are a cheater trying to rationalize his own character and moral failings.

+1000

Anonymous wrote:Cheryl New (New and Lowinger). Avoid Offit Kurman would be my advice.

+1. XDH is using Offit/Kurman. For the life of me I can't understand how they justify their fees--the lawyer's proposals seem to be written by a 10-year-old, with zero foresight into how every ridiculous suggestion they make is going to work out for XDH. On occasion I have wondered if XDH authored some of their communications himself, and the lawyer didn't bother to read or filter it before putting her name on it.

OP, I didn't read the entire thread so I don't know if you've decided on an attorney, or not. But if she hasn't been mentioned yet, you would be remiss if you don't at least give Pawnee Davis's office a call. Her firm is nothing short of incredible. Seriously. http://pdavislawfirm.com/

Best of luck to you!

Because there are some of us who are still interested in current information

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Anonymous wrote:Take meetings with all the best lawyers even if you don't intend to hire them. Then they can't represent your husband.

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This is such excellent advice. Oh why wasn't this thread posted two years ago. At the very least go to the top three firms now before your husband gets there.

Is this a joke? This thread IS two years old. The OP is from 2014.

http://www.pasternakfidis.com/attorneys/anne-jan-w-white/

LOVE. She's fierce.

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Anonymous wrote:Start meeting with lawyers ASAP so your husband can't hire them. Take some time off work (a few days at least) and don't tell your husband or kids. See lawyers and go through papers in the home office and start making lists of everything and photocopying everything before things disappear.

I don't think it's quite that easy to conflict a lawyer out of working for your DH.

Yes, it is, as others have told you here, dummy.

Are any of these lawyers in the $300 range? I don't have a big budget.

We did not have a custody battle, but we battled over pretty much everything else. We were prepared for litigation and settled the date of the trial.

After firing a very disappointing "top lawyer", I used Jeff Lowinger at New & Lowinger. He is incredibly smart and understands the financial stuff better than any other lawyer I interviewed or worked with. His hourly rate is high (as are all the really good divorce lawyers) but he bills fairly. He doesn't run up the billable hours just to get more money out of you.

I found him level headed, calm, honest and he was a good negotiator. He's not all touchy/feely -- so you'll need to get a therapist or counsellor for that aspect of things. I'd recommend either Jeff or his partner, Cheryl New.

Not sure how many PP have actually litigated divorce/custody, but it can and will get ugly.

Definitely get a lawyer. Meet with several, find one who is a good fit for you.

TRY TO SETTLE if at all possible. Try to be rational and not emotional about the likely outcomes and your priorities and needs. Get a therapist you can talk to about the emotional part of separation/divorce, don't use your lawyers.

If you litigate, you will likely spend between $300K-$500. Just you. Your husband will spend an equal amount. This is money that you will never get back. Compare to around $30K-50K if you are able to settle.

If you litigate, particularly about custody, it will likely get awful. Prepare to have your life taken over by the litigation, which can last up to a year or two.

Change lawyers if you need to. Sometimes the right lawyer for settlement is not the right lawyer for litigation.

Don't write angry emails. They will get turned over to your spouse. Know that you are always creating a record which will be used against you.

Good luck. I hope you are able to settle.

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Anonymous wrote:Take meetings with all the best lawyers even if you don't intend to hire them. Then they can't represent your husband.

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This is such excellent advice. Oh why wasn't this thread posted two years ago. At the very least go to the top three firms now before your husband gets there.

If we didn't want to marry anyone with "alcoholism in their genes" us Catholics would never marry.