Anonymous
Post 03/16/2014 14:56     Subject: Found 2 movie tickets on bf, should I approach him?
Dump him OP.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2014 14:54     Subject: Found 2 movie tickets on bf, should I approach him?
I'm sorry, OP. that excuse sounds had to believe. And I think you wouldn't be this freaked out if you didn't already have some kind of trust issues. If you stay with him, take things realllllllly slowly.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2014 14:44     Subject: Found 2 movie tickets on bf, should I approach him?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would, in a polite, nonaccusatory way. Do it in person.

You could also go the "I really want to see x movie" route and so if he volunteers that he went.


+1

It could have been a friend, but I am suspicious that he has both tickets. Did you find a receipt? If he paid for it then I can't imagine a senario involving paying for a friend. Sorry OP.


You can't? My friends and I do this all the time. We take turns buying movie tickets, lunches, drinks out. What kind of movie was it, OP?


My friends do this too. One if us gets to the theater first? Buy the tickets. Especially for new movies. Alternate paying for meals or rounds in a bar.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2014 13:45     Subject: Found 2 movie tickets on bf, should I approach him?
I'd keep your eyes open.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2014 13:41     Subject: Found 2 movie tickets on bf, should I approach him?
O.K., OP, but don't rush into anything like marriage because this whole scenario sounds creepy and far-fetched.Good luck.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2014 13:36     Subject: Found 2 movie tickets on bf, should I approach him?
Dammit this is why men get away with cheating for years. Their partners tell them everything they've seen so that they can stay one step ahead. And the partners believe even the lamest of excuses in order to avoid the painful feelings that come along with knowing you are being played.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2014 11:21     Subject: Found 2 movie tickets on bf, should I approach him?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is it possible he has a female friend he took, but doesn't want you to know about? Maybe bc you said you are a jealous person he kept it from you? Maybe a woman he worked with but not telling you bc u are the
Jealous type?


OP here. I wish it was this, but he denied they are his tickets. He has female friends but I met them all and they always say how he talks about me constantly. I told mind him going out with his friends by the way, but he is an open person and would tell me.


PP here...if you have met his female friends and he's very open and talks about you all the time, and there are no other signs of trouble in your relationship (or his psyche) then maybe he is telling the truth.
Have you ever had suspicions before? Any other signs?
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2014 11:18     Subject: Found 2 movie tickets on bf, should I approach him?
Why would he have put his roommates' ticket stubs in his pocket? That makes no sense. Especially if he is someone who keeps lots of papers, etc on his dresser...it's not like he is a neat freak and was tidying up the common area he shares with his roommates. He was taken by surprise and couldn't come up with a better excuse. What reason did he give you for having those stubs in his pocket?
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2014 11:12     Subject: Re:Found 2 movie tickets on bf, should I approach him?
Anonymous wrote:OP, are you really satisfied with his answer/explanation? Think it through. You know in your gut.

If his explanation is 100% plausible in his living situation and in your relationship, then ok. But...you mentioned that you might marry this guy and if you have doubts now, I will tell you strait-it won't get better, you deserve more than that.


OP here. Even if I have no proof? Yes, the story sounds funny but what if it is true?
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2014 10:37     Subject: Found 2 movie tickets on bf, should I approach him?
No, you don't have to believe him.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2014 10:36     Subject: Re:Found 2 movie tickets on bf, should I approach him?
OP, are you really satisfied with his answer/explanation? Think it through. You know in your gut.

If his explanation is 100% plausible in his living situation and in your relationship, then ok. But...you mentioned that you might marry this guy and if you have doubts now, I will tell you strait-it won't get better, you deserve more than that.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2014 10:33     Subject: Found 2 movie tickets on bf, should I approach him?
Anonymous wrote:I don't know if he is telling the truth -- you'll have to wait and see. I do wish you all the best, OP. Good luck.


OP here. Thanks, I appreciate that and I will see.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2014 10:32     Subject: Re:Found 2 movie tickets on bf, should I approach him?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I didn't read through the post but thought you all deserve an update. We went out to eat and he asked if something was on my mind and I said yes. I said I saw two movie tickets on his dresser, and with whom did he go with? He said what tickets? And I told him the movie name, date and time. Side note, he has room mates. He said they aren't his and probably his room mates. I said but why on your dresser? Side note again, he has a bunch of crap on his dresser, papers and everything. He said he probably put it in his pocket, and then put it on the dresser. I told him I went through text and around that time, he said he was asleep. He once again said, they aren't his. We get back to the car after dinner and of course we are silent. He said I'm snooping. I decided to just say ok fine, I believe you. I don't know what else to do or say and I have to believe him, right? I feel like I was prepared for him to say it was with a friend, I didn't think he would say they aren't mine.


Eh. Should've read through the posts first. You spoke too soon. One of the suggested conversations here, particularly mine (hehe), would've been better.


OP here. Lol maybe I went about it the wrong way but I didn't want to play games with him and try to "catch him in a lie." I just wanted to be relaxed and direct.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2014 10:31     Subject: Found 2 movie tickets on bf, should I approach him?
Anonymous wrote:Is it possible he has a female friend he took, but doesn't want you to know about? Maybe bc you said you are a jealous person he kept it from you? Maybe a woman he worked with but not telling you bc u are the
Jealous type?


OP here. I wish it was this, but he denied they are his tickets. He has female friends but I met them all and they always say how he talks about me constantly. I told mind him going out with his friends by the way, but he is an open person and would tell me.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2014 10:30     Subject: Found 2 movie tickets on bf, should I approach him?
I don't know if he is telling the truth -- you'll have to wait and see. I do wish you all the best, OP. Good luck.