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Anonymous wrote:Ok- here we go- my DH misses the toilet. Every other little quirky thing he does I could forgive if he could 1. Acknowledge missing the toilet and 2. Clean it up.

I've left sticky notes, papers, drawn around it. I wish I didn't have to force him to clean it. The nagging him has escalated to full on screaming matches.

I'm so glad I'm not suffering alone with this. Men should have a separate bathroom that contains nothing but a 10-foot wide toilet.

Anonymous wrote:Mine takes his IPhone to the bathroom after lunch or dinner, spends lot of time seated on the throne, reading the news, e-mails and who knows what else.

Anonymous wrote:DH can't sleep without the ceiling fan and a small fan on. It's not about the cool air, it's the white noise. We've tried sound machines, and it's "just not the same."

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Anonymous wrote:
DH is constantly having explosive bowel movements and spends most of his day in the loo. We often get sick because of his germs left behind, thought I scrub the toilets every day to try to prevent it. He mentions everyday (like a child) that his "belly is upset", but refuses to eat right (a left over from his family with food issues).

He does not pick up after himself; and refuses to pitch in for "women's work" (anything) around the house. But he LOVES making a mess, and leaving piles of stuff everywhere. His favorite is covering any blank space (countertops, tables, et al) with piles - his "contribution" to the household.

Vacations are a time for him to act out his hostility the most, just like his birth family. If I am enjoying something, he sees it as his personal mission to make it not so; often ending in an eruption of his being "tired" (fill in the blank with whine, anger and hostility here).

His unmet needs by his parents and siblings are just the start of it.

No one in our neighborhood (he has no friends) would have any idea that he is a terror to live with, prone to emotional meltdowns, triangulating against me (for his reasonings that don't exist - gas lighting) and scaring the children regularly. They would think he is the nicest, smartest guy they have ever met.

In fact, he is an angry, inconsiderate cad all around. Glad you asked, OP?


I'm married to a guy like yours and usually think he is an asshole.

I am sorry -- sounds like his issues are emotional. I hope he is able to work thru this so as to make your family life more enjoyable.

Anonymous wrote:He leaves clothes on his bathroom floor every morning and wait for me to pick them up.

He leaves dirty dishes and cups beside the kitchen sink. Instead of IN the kitchen sink (and yes, even when the sink is empty).

His clothes have to be hung up just so, otherwise he takes it to mean that I don't truly care about him.

He is a horrible backseat driver.

He never apologies when he makes mistakes. Never.

I could go on for days. A shorter thread would be to name the things about your spouse that doesn't irritate you.

Anonymous wrote:
DH is constantly having explosive bowel movements and spends most of his day in the loo. We often get sick because of his germs left behind, thought I scrub the toilets every day to try to prevent it. He mentions everyday (like a child) that his "belly is upset", but refuses to eat right (a left over from his family with food issues).

He does not pick up after himself; and refuses to pitch in for "women's work" (anything) around the house. But he LOVES making a mess, and leaving piles of stuff everywhere. His favorite is covering any blank space (countertops, tables, et al) with piles - his "contribution" to the household.

Vacations are a time for him to act out his hostility the most, just like his birth family. If I am enjoying something, he sees it as his personal mission to make it not so; often ending in an eruption of his being "tired" (fill in the blank with whine, anger and hostility here).

His unmet needs by his parents and siblings are just the start of it.

No one in our neighborhood (he has no friends) would have any idea that he is a terror to live with, prone to emotional meltdowns, triangulating against me (for his reasonings that don't exist - gas lighting) and scaring the children regularly. They would think he is the nicest, smartest guy they have ever met.

In fact, he is an angry, inconsiderate cad all around. Glad you asked, OP?

Anonymous wrote:Ok- here we go- my DH misses the toilet. Every other little quirky thing he does I could forgive if he could 1. Acknowledge missing the toilet and 2. Clean it up.

I've left sticky notes, papers, drawn around it. I wish I didn't have to force him to clean it. The nagging him has escalated to full on screaming matches.

Anonymous wrote:What is up with men wanting to go to Costco?

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Anonymous wrote:Change! There's is change all over my house!!! Where does it all come from!

In my house it is random bits of paper -- gum wrappers, candy wrappers, receipts from goodness knows what!
What are you a 45 yr old man or a squirrel??