Anonymous wrote:Maybe she is going to have a professional photographer there to take pictures and you would stick out like a sore thumb in your hot PINK dress?

Go to Ross or Marshall's. You can often luck out and find something appropriate to wear - at least navy blue is a color that you're likely to wear again.

Who gives a shit if she's having photos taken? Guests are not props for your photos. Asking guests to wear a particular color to a party is over the line. Where do these people get this sense of entitlement?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm obviously in the minority here but people on this site are total killjoys. It's a little silly but having a party where you ask everyone to wear a certain color is not unheard of, it's actually a "thing" in some circles and can even be kind of fun. If you don't want to wear blue, don't wear it. But the name calling and other vitriol is a bit over the top. Maybe she thought it would just be a cute little thing to do and that people would accept it it in the spirit in which it was intended.

+1 - If you do not want to comply with the wishes of the guests of honor, do not attend. If someone threw a housewarming party and asked you to take your shoes off, but you were wearing embarrassing socks, would you refuse the request? If someone dictated a black tie dress code for a birthday party, would you show up in jeans? A little silly (in most circles) to wear formal gear to a birthday celebration, but if you do not want to do it, you just don't go.

+1

Anonymous wrote:I thought conventional etiquette is not to bring gifts to an engagement party. Am I wrong? That said, I am sure you aren't supposed to make your guests dress alike. They aren't three year old twins.....

I always give money, 200$

I don't see the problem. Bride requests navy attire. If I have a navy dress (which I do), I'll wear it. If not I'll wear the closest thing I have to it, like a black dress with some sort of navy and white accessory. I wouldn't buy anything. Bride can throw a public fit if things aren't perfect and she wishes to alienate everyone.

I'd either go along with her request or respectfully decline the wedding, but I wouldn't go in a standout outfit. That's just an insult and unnecessary.

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Anonymous wrote:The navy thing is ridiculous IMO, I would just wear black if I couldn't find something navy in my closet. I wear lots of black, which looks hideous with navy..

Not true. Black and navy can look good together.

In a bruise[i]!

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Anonymous wrote:OP,

This is ridiculous. I was in my friend's wedding (a male). The bride wanted all of us to wear these huge flowers in our hair. I had (and still do have) short hair which I had cut a week before the wedding. She got SO angry at me that she made me "AQUANET" the flower in my hair. It was the only thing that literally glued the flower on my head.

A year later, they were divorced.

These demands are just symptoms associated with a controlling personality.

Well, now you've made the navy bride seem fairly reasonable in contrast!

I suppose I'd prefer navy to Aquanet.

OP here. Wow, this has taken on a life of its own. This makes me feel better actually. I just wanted confirmation and sympathy that this is 1. annoying and 2. I'm not a monster for just wearing something nice, probably in black. When this party happens (in a month) I will be a couple months post-partum and the same age as the bride, so while I do not want to compete with her, I don't really feel like wearing a old crappy navy sweater and looking like shit just because of the color theme. I already look frumpy and crappy much of the time and have giganto breastfeeding boobs and dammit I am going to look good the one day we have a family event.

I am going to make a real effort to get something in blue because even though she is being insane, I can be a bigger person and just give her what she wants on her "special day" (one of many apparently). I also know that since my parents are hosting that I will probably be helping prepare and arrange the party and picking up flowers and doing whatever other errands bride-to-be wants.

I can also say that bride to be is an extremely charismatic person. She makes friends very easily and everyone likes her when they meet her. I wish I were more like her in this respect. This is part of the reason she always gets what she wants, including a rich fiance!

Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing...events--dinners, weddings, parties, etc. were always designed to MAKE THE GUESTS FEEL COMFORTABLE. It's called 'hospitality'. The tables have turned in our narcissitic society. Now the people throwing the events do everything possible to make it about them and make their guests have to go out of their way.

This is SO true, but apparently thinking about your guests' comfort seems to have gone completely out of style ( just see the shoeless house threads for evidence of this too). It's sad and really shows the self absorption.

Good luck, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:The navy thing is ridiculous IMO, I would just wear black if I couldn't find something navy in my closet. I wear lots of black, which looks hideous with navy..

Not true. Black and navy can look good together.

One of the Project Runway All Stars contestants won high praise for pairing the two in a design a few weeks ago.

Why am I imagining that the bride to be has some elaborately choreographed flash mob thing she'll upload and hope it goes viral?

I can just see all the navy and white clad sheep being forced to carry American flags and bunting banners and wear Uncle Sam hats and being marched into the local high school football field for a laser light show and command performance where each will have to flip over a card spelling out the wedding date.

DON'T GO TO THE SECOND LOCATION! Save yourselves!

So, so awful!

OP, your cousin is ridiculous. I would not put up with this sh**.

This is just the beginning, by the way. This is going to be one hell of a long engagement, full of self centered demands and oddball requests, all in the name of "our special day."

I can see via my crystal ball that this cousin will have the most complicated, self absorbed wedding showers, bridesmaids' shopping trips and weekends away, save the date cards, groomsmen gatherings...it all will culminate in an exhausting, over planned wedding weekend.

I so wish people like this would elope.

Wait til she's pregnant. Dear God.

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Anonymous wrote:wear a Navy Blue Bra under a sheer top

And navy panties under white pants....ha!

Don't forget the navy blue lipstick and eye shadow. A must.

Anonymous wrote:wear a Navy Blue Bra under a sheer top

And navy panties under white pants....ha!

Here's the thing...events--dinners, weddings, parties, etc. were always designed to MAKE THE GUESTS FEEL COMFORTABLE. It's called 'hospitality'. The tables have turned in our narcissitic society. Now the people throwing the events do everything possible to make it about them and make their guests have to go out of their way.