Anonymous
Post 12/20/2013 07:30     Subject: A dreaded holiday dliemma need your input!
Anonymous wrote:Sister lives out of state, almost every year they come along with my parents for Christmas. She is very type A, we are close but I know when i need a break from her as much as I adore her. She has 4 kids and we are more than happy to host all of them, though its A LOT of work! This year we have also 3 more people also coming (aunt uncle and child)...so its going to be a very full house. We have a large home but in addition to all the guests, we are a family of 6, so its going to be a lot of people. They have a dog who like everyone else, they love. We had gotten into an argument years ago when they just assumed they could bring him here for a visit. My husband was livid. Hes a big dog on top of that. We have many antiques in our home and it is not a conducive home to other peoples pets.We have an older very mellow dog who only stays in the kitchen/family room.

I was very taken aback when my mom told me she was confirming that sister had made boarding arrangements for the dog and my sister reacted indignantly like how dare my mother imply she not bring her do to our house for 4 days for Christmas!!!! She told my mom that she IS bringing him!!! Iam very upset. Not doing anything yet, trying to collect my thoughts before i overreact.


PLEASE give me your honest opinions....am I being difficult or is she overstepping her boundaries?? I mean its 6 of them and they want to come here with their 90 pound lab and are assuming this is OK? My husband who is a neat nut will go nuts if he hears this. PLEASE tell me what you think!! And how would you handle this? I do not want it to erupt into a big argument around the holidays....we love them and look forward to their visit but not their dogs!!! Our dog is 11 and very very mellow and we simply do not need the commotion. Help!


That you confine your dog to a couple areas because of your things and because your husband is a neat nut, tells me that he is the issue and you are walking on tiptoes as a result of that. Had you told me about allergies or some such, I could see a point.

I don't understand putting personal possessions over living creatures. If the dog is not going to actively destroy things in your house, then tell your husband to unclench.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 17:24     Subject: A dreaded holiday dliemma need your input!
I love dogs but that doesn't mean I want them peeing on my furniture and leaving hair everywhere. I love to play with other people's dogs outside of my home.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2013 19:51     Subject: A dreaded holiday dliemma need your input!
Yay! I'm so glad it worked out!
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2013 19:22     Subject: A dreaded holiday dliemma need your input!
Hi its me OP wanted to update you Sis has arranged for dog sitting..was overall fairly good natured about it and even joked which was a shock. Almost made me think she knew there was no way he was coming but wanted to test me to see if it was at all possible. Whatever the case is I am just glad this dilemma is over..it was very stressful! Thanks to all for your advice and support. I would NEVER EVER think of imposing my pet on anyone.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2013 22:59     Subject: A dreaded holiday dliemma need your input!
Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised by all these people saying they don't allow dogs. I agree that OP should say no if she doesn't want dogs visiting, but I haven't encountered anyone who didn't want my dog visiting. All of our parents, grandparents and siblings welcome my dog.


So you think.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2013 20:20     Subject: A dreaded holiday dliemma need your input!
Anonymous wrote:Who gives a shit if the post is clean. Man, there are some uptight people here, and YES PP I AM TALKING TO YOU!!!!

Op hope it all worked out. Fill us in.


I think you're the one who's uptight. Let it go.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2013 16:27     Subject: Re:A dreaded holiday dliemma need your input!
I have a sister and brother-in-law who have no boundaries, are fairly self-centered, and who insist on bringing their dog with them to family events and other gatherings. The dog nipped me and my Mom out of the blue the first time we met her, we weren't trying to pet the dog or anything (the dog has done the same to other people). Because of that experience, I get nervous around dogs that remind me of her (Doberman) whereas I was never nervous in the past and have always loved dogs (my own and other peoples). My sister and brother-in-law repeatedly showed up with their dog without asking. I finally drew the line, told them I was afraid of their dog because she bit my hand, and told them to please leave her home if she was coming to something I was hosting. They got upset and told me the dog was like her kid and they should not have to leave her home (she has no kids). I explained that my husband and I don't assume that our children are invited everywhere with us and we bring them only when they are welcome. We hire a babysitter or stay home if we are invited to something that is not appropriate for children. I really think your sister is over stepping. She can board the dog or bring the dog with her but stay at a dog friendly hotel instead of your house.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2013 07:03     Subject: A dreaded holiday dliemma need your input!
Who gives a shit if the post is clean. Man, there are some uptight people here, and YES PP I AM TALKING TO YOU!!!!

Op hope it all worked out. Fill us in.
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2013 13:52     Subject: A dreaded holiday dliemma need your input!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My sister in law insisted upon bringing her dog much to my husbands and I's dismay and he ended up being so stressed by the new environment that he pee'd on my husbands brand new Persian rug in his office (6k) To this day despite many attempts the stain and reminder of that horrible incident remain. NEVER AGAIN.


What is I's dismay?


Are you the spelling police? I get what she said- let me guess your the same person who think dogs understand Christmas- haha


You are = you're
Your = possessive

This is not spelling, either.


CHILL OUT. I hate people like this. Get a life dude. Who gives a shit about if she misused a word. WOW just WOW...uptight much?
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Come on, you know the rule. If you're going to be all snarky, make sure your post is clean!!
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2013 10:38     Subject: A dreaded holiday dliemma need your input!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised by all these people saying they don't allow dogs. I agree that OP should say no if she doesn't want dogs visiting, but I haven't encountered anyone who didn't want my dog visiting. All of our parents, grandparents and siblings welcome my dog.


Are you sure or are they just not telling you?


NP here: if people are asked about a guest request but can't say no, that is on the host. If I'm hosting and someone says they smoke, i say sorry, not in my house. If someone asks to bring their dog, I prefer that they ask and I make it clear that I don't want the dog rather than just have them show up with dog in tow. If people can't speak up for themselves, they have a problem.
ThatSmileyFaceGuy
Post 12/12/2013 09:35     Subject: A dreaded holiday dliemma need your input!
Tell the sister that the dog is welcome but she has to stay home
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2013 08:28     Subject: A dreaded holiday dliemma need your input!
Anonymous wrote:We were in a similar situation years back. We regretted every miserable moment about relenting to let our house guests bring their annoying little dog who started barking at 5:40 am and didn't stop until around 9pm. It was HELL. NEVER AGAIN.

This is not a question of if you like dogs or not, this is a matter of what you are comfortable doing in YOUR home home and at a time when you will have 12 other bodies there, that is in itself a huge undertaking. No one needs it. And your husband sounds like a trooper to allow it, so at the very least do it to honor his wishes. I dont' blame him one bit. Your sister has overstepped her bounds and this has zero to do with if you like dogs or don't, it is merely a matter of common courtesy and respect for the hosts.

What is up with the yapping little dog. The owner always just stands there like they are deaf...
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2013 06:43     Subject: A dreaded holiday dliemma need your input!
Yes she is totally out of line. She is not at all being thoughtful to the fact that you are hosting many people and do not need the extra stress of a smelly dog around the house to also disrupt your dogs life. That is ridiculous and you should have no problem and bear no guilt in telling her so.

We have two labs that are like family members but I would never think about asking to bring them to someones home. We have a few pet sitters and home is where they stay and are most comfortable. Common sense in my opinion.
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2013 06:39     Subject: A dreaded holiday dliemma need your input!
We were in a similar situation years back. We regretted every miserable moment about relenting to let our house guests bring their annoying little dog who started barking at 5:40 am and didn't stop until around 9pm. It was HELL. NEVER AGAIN.

This is not a question of if you like dogs or not, this is a matter of what you are comfortable doing in YOUR home home and at a time when you will have 12 other bodies there, that is in itself a huge undertaking. No one needs it. And your husband sounds like a trooper to allow it, so at the very least do it to honor his wishes. I dont' blame him one bit. Your sister has overstepped her bounds and this has zero to do with if you like dogs or don't, it is merely a matter of common courtesy and respect for the hosts.
Anonymous
Post 12/12/2013 06:36     Subject: A dreaded holiday dliemma need your input!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My sister in law insisted upon bringing her dog much to my husbands and I's dismay and he ended up being so stressed by the new environment that he pee'd on my husbands brand new Persian rug in his office (6k) To this day despite many attempts the stain and reminder of that horrible incident remain. NEVER AGAIN.


What is I's dismay?[/quote

Are you the spelling police? I get what she said- let me guess your the same person who think dogs understand Christmas- haha


You are = you're
Your = possessive

This is not spelling, either.


CHILL OUT. I hate people like this. Get a life dude. Who gives a shit about if she misused a word. WOW just WOW...uptight much?
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