Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I understand what you are saying. I am new wealth and live VERY conservatively. That is why posting about wealth would be offensive to all my middle class family, friends, and colleagues. After years of regular living, we are in a position to enjoy our wealth a bit.

You have money, but many people will say that if you don't use it, you'd might as well not have it. Why not enjoy yourself more?

It is impossible NOT to post about wealth on FB. FB is all about vacations (I travel to exotic destinations frequently). FB is about food (fancy restaurants and meals and dinner parties). FB is about sharing that new handbag you purchased. Or a new car. Or that new stainless steel refrigerator. Even if you make donations or pursue advanced degrees, people know that you need money to do that. People can be envious that they don't have money to do the same.

My point is that most FB posts are about how you live, which is directly associated to your wealth.

Whoa. This is why I am not a fan of "new money" people. Here is what I've posted on FB in the last two weeks:
1. Something I saw in a store that I would have loved when I was 5 yrs old (I did not buy it, and nobody could tell the store was Gap)
2. A pic of DD's feet while the rest of her body is hidden in the tree she just climbed
3. An article by David Sedaris that I liked and knew many of my friends would also enjoy
4. A simulation of flying through 17th century London done by university students that I thought was pretty cool

In that same two-week period I went to two fancy restaurants and firmed up plans to vacation next month at a beautiful place in Mexico. None of that made it onto my Facebook page. Why? Because I don't brag. It really IS what you make it. You are CHOOSING to use Facebook to brag. Facebook is not at ALL about purchases. Unless you make it that way.

Anonymous wrote:OP -- you should step away from this thread. These folks aren't going to tell you what you want to hear. This is why I have a love/hate relationship with DCUM. Sometimes you get some really solid stuff but most of the time it's a bunch of folks with deep rooted self hatred.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been a poster who has posted frequently on this thread and am also wealthy. I have never had the reactions OP says she has towards her vacations or other ways she spends her money. OP, perhaps it is time that you look at how you write these emails and determine if they are off putting, regardless of money. I suspect they are and that is why you get the cold shoulder on them. But I also suspect you are not the type of person to self reflect like that. Oh well. To each their own. I'm sure you will fit in just fine with those who like to talk about how expensive their hotel room was etc.

EVERYONE is insisting and implying that I like to boast. I say the opposite, and get messages about how I am the problem. Maybe you are right that my writing style is off putting or somehow confusing. My conversations to date are like everybody elses. But in the future, I am trying to meet more people who can discuss things like fancy hotel rooms in exotic destinations. I don't think that makes me a bad person.

This thread started mostly as a question but has become a personal attack. I also resent being called a troll. Why is it that if people don't like a post, they call people trolls?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been a poster who has posted frequently on this thread and am also wealthy. I have never had the reactions OP says she has towards her vacations or other ways she spends her money. OP, perhaps it is time that you look at how you write these emails and determine if they are off putting, regardless of money. I suspect they are and that is why you get the cold shoulder on them. But I also suspect you are not the type of person to self reflect like that. Oh well. To each their own. I'm sure you will fit in just fine with those who like to talk about how expensive their hotel room was etc.

EVERYONE is insisting and implying that I like to boast. I say the opposite, and get messages about how I am the problem. Maybe you are right that my writing style is off putting or somehow confusing. My conversations to date are like everybody elses. But in the future, I am trying to meet more people who can discuss things like fancy hotel rooms in exotic destinations. I don't think that makes me a bad person.

This thread started mostly as a question but has become a personal attack. I also resent being called a troll. Why is it that if people don't like a post, they call people trolls?

Anonymous wrote:I have been a poster who has posted frequently on this thread and am also wealthy. I have never had the reactions OP says she has towards her vacations or other ways she spends her money. OP, perhaps it is time that you look at how you write these emails and determine if they are off putting, regardless of money. I suspect they are and that is why you get the cold shoulder on them. But I also suspect you are not the type of person to self reflect like that. Oh well. To each their own. I'm sure you will fit in just fine with those who like to talk about how expensive their hotel room was etc.

Anonymous wrote:[quote=Anonymous
No, I don't share vacation photos. The more you write, the more obvious it is becoming that you are boring. I would look at that as the reason people are avoiding you.