Anonymous
02/03/2017 18:09
Subject: Re:How many hate Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We go to church then eat a big family meal together. The rest of the day we just enjoy hanging out with each other.
I am usually not snarky, but I'll say what a lot of us must be thinking. How can you work a full time, high pressure job and not crave time with your kids on the weekend? If I worked full time outside the home (I don't), I would LIVE for weekends with my babies.
Maybe she has teenagers? No one I know "craves time" with their teenager, although some have better relationships with their kids than others. It's like having a particularly challenging toddler who is taller than you and hormone-addled. And, often, can drive.
I do crave some time with my 16 y. DD. She is a sweet heart, but so busy with the school and sports that I barely see her. I love going shopping with her, hiking, traveling and doing all other sort of things.. I am scare that the time when she goes to colleage is around the corner and I am not sure if I am ready.
Anonymous
02/03/2017 17:24
Subject: Re:How many hate Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't dislike Sundays, but Sunday nights can be despressing. I enjoy having fun with friends, having children over to our home, going out to lunch or dinner on a whim, watching movies. I like my job, but am looking forward to quitting one day. I feel like life is too short to work - DH loves his job and makes good $$$, so he can take over the lion's share of $$ as far as I'm concerned.
I hate to hijack the thread, but why do so many women feel this way. Like their jobs but would rather not work. Are women in general just bad lazier than men, have less ambition (if so, why), have lower expectations of themselves, don't enjoy challenging themselves (at work and at balancing work/life)?
Perhaps they aren't defined by their jobs and find great satisfaction and fulfillment in engaging with their families. For most mothers I know (many dads too) a great part-time job is like the holy grail, but it is an option for very few.
What I don't understand is people who go out of their way to cast aspersions on other people's well-considered life choices.
I'm not solely defined by my career but it is a piece of who I am. I'm also a mother, wife, daughter, sister, friend, school activity coordinator, coach, runner, crossfit trainer, on and on.... I'm just trying to understand the perspective of many women that don't feel the need that pull at work. Like pp described of her DH I get a high from my career and couldn't marine my life without it. Just like I can't imagine my life without my kids, DH, and family. I don't find it difficult but more of an exciting challenge to balance work life and I enjoy every minute of it. I'm just trying to figure out why this lifestyle choice is more prevalent in men. My neighborhood is mostly SAHMs and I get a few comments about how they can't figure out how I have the time to do all that I do, but it's really not that hard and I imagine I'd be bored to tears to stay home as most men would be. I'm wondering why you don't feel this drive.
Honestly, I would be disappointed if my DD became a SAHM and wasted her talents that could impact the community, country , or possibly the world as well as her family.
How many people have jobs that have any significant impact on their community, country, and world? If that's your goal, seems like you could make more of an impact through volunteering.
Anonymous
02/03/2017 10:25
Subject: How many hate Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Lots of judging going on here. Wow. I love my family but do not like Sundays especially in fall and winter. They are boring, too much "down time" for my taste. My kids are older so thy do their own things often and planned family activities only work for families with young kids.
So for those doling out advice like that it applies really if your kids are under 13. I like the hustle and bustle of Sat. and all weekdays,everyone seems to have a purpose/agenda/schedule. I like it that way and therefore agree do not like Sundays very much unless we have something fun going on. I need add I am pretty type A and don't do well with a surplus of downtime.
Okay, I don't get this. I admit my kids are all under 13, but one of the things I'm loving about them being s bit older is that if I want to do something and they don't want to, I say "fine. You stay here. Don't burn the house down. I'll be home later." (A lot of times that then motivates at least some of them to say "oh, okay, I'll come too.") If you kids don't want to go places with you, just go by yourself! Go to a museum, go to a yoga class, go for a bike ride, go to the mall and try on formal wear you don't need, go to a casino, go to a movie, whatever! I think its harder when you've got the napping fusssy kids you can't take anywhere.
Anonymous
02/03/2017 10:24
Subject: How many hate Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Funny I am not a fan of Sundays either. My H and sons watch football all day and I have nothing to do so normally garden or go to Barnes and Noble or to a movie.....not my favorite day.
Omg, this sounds like an awesome day. A day to YOURSELF!
Anonymous
02/03/2017 10:20
Subject: How many hate Sundays?
This is such a long thread! Can't read it all. But OP if you're still reading quiet days at home just don't work for all families. My kids start to fight after an hour or two. It's like wild cats caged at the zoo.
If we don't have sports events or parties, we plan an outing. Even if it's just the indoor pool at the gym. But there's also museums, festivals, trampoline places, rock climbing places, places to go hike or for a family bike ride. As an individual, I'd be fine puttering around the house. As a family, that's basically disasterous for us.
So don't have a "relaxing" Sunday if that's not relaxing for you!
If we don't have sports events or parties, we plan an outing. Even if it's just the indoor pool at the gym. But there's also museums, festivals, trampoline places, rock climbing places, places to go hike or for a family bike ride. As an individual, I'd be fine puttering around the house. As a family, that's basically disasterous for us.
So don't have a "relaxing" Sunday if that's not relaxing for you!
Anonymous
02/03/2017 07:17
Subject: Re:How many hate Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We go to church then eat a big family meal together. The rest of the day we just enjoy hanging out with each other.
I am usually not snarky, but I'll say what a lot of us must be thinking. How can you work a full time, high pressure job and not crave time with your kids on the weekend? If I worked full time outside the home (I don't), I would LIVE for weekends with my babies.
Maybe she has teenagers? No one I know "craves time" with their teenager, although some have better relationships with their kids than others. It's like having a particularly challenging toddler who is taller than you and hormone-addled. And, often, can drive.
You must have missed the poster who does miss her teens and wished she did more family time! I also enjoy being with my teen..walking the dog, familly game night, dinner, and especially going to the movies.
Anonymous
02/03/2017 07:13
Subject: Re:How many hate Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't dislike Sundays, but Sunday nights can be despressing. I enjoy having fun with friends, having children over to our home, going out to lunch or dinner on a whim, watching movies. I like my job, but am looking forward to quitting one day. I feel like life is too short to work - DH loves his job and makes good $$$, so he can take over the lion's share of $$ as far as I'm concerned.
I hate to hijack the thread, but why do so many women feel this way. Like their jobs but would rather not work. Are women in general just bad lazier than men, have less ambition (if so, why), have lower expectations of themselves, don't enjoy challenging themselves (at work and at balancing work/life)?
Yes, one woman posts this and suddenly "all women" are lumped together. So should we do the same with men? Also, what the heck do you mean by "just bad lazier than men?" I don't know how you can judge all women to "have less ambition, lower expectations and don't enjoy challenging themselves" and the last one is a lol....you claim women don't want to balance work/life? What the heck? I am a women and this exact issue has come up time and time again in the media, news and with my family and friends!
Personally,, I think the majority of women are extremely hard workers because we have to prove we are good at the office and a good mother at home. Where as men are normally only judged at work and given high praise if they do more than the average work at home.
Anonymous
02/03/2017 06:40
Subject: How many hate Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised and depressed that so many people go to church.
Maybe you are depressed because you don't.
Anonymous
02/03/2017 06:33
Subject: Re:How many hate Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:We go to church then eat a big family meal together. The rest of the day we just enjoy hanging out with each other.
I am usually not snarky, but I'll say what a lot of us must be thinking. How can you work a full time, high pressure job and not crave time with your kids on the weekend? If I worked full time outside the home (I don't), I would LIVE for weekends with my babies.
Maybe she has teenagers? No one I know "craves time" with their teenager, although some have better relationships with their kids than others. It's like having a particularly challenging toddler who is taller than you and hormone-addled. And, often, can drive.
Anonymous
02/03/2017 00:15
Subject: How many hate Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:and I usually bake something really delicious on Sunday afternoon, and enjoy plotting the recipe. I work full time and love having the weekends with my family.
That is the difference between you and OP, you like your family. She started a family because that is what was expected of her.
More likely she wanted to get the same share of inheritance as her siblings with children.
Anonymous