Anonymous wrote:My DS's school has nut-free tables. PB&J is one of the few foods he will eat and the only one that keeps well for lunches, so we send it. FWIW, my 2yo is (probably) peanut allergic and we still have peanut butter in the house and the other two kids eat it. We just make sure they wipe their hands and faces well afterwards. I expect that, as the 2yo gets older, certainly by elementary school, he will be the one primarily responsible for ensuring that he does not eat anything he is not sure is okay. He already seems to have a decent grasp on the fact that he can't eat a lot of the foods that other people eat (he is also allergic to dairy, wheat and eggs, so there's not much he *can* eat in social situations).
If I had an issue with my school's policy regarding nuts/nut butters in lunches, I would take it up with the school, not expect individual parents to second guess the school policy. But I subscribe to the school of thought that the allergic child needs to learn to live safely in the world as it is. I can't put him in a bubble, and better that he learns young what precautions he needs to take.
This is a fine attitude for child maybe third grade or second grade and above..not for nursery or first grade..they are too young and should have to die because of a screw up.