Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here again. Here's an excerpt from MIL's e-mail (names are fake):
"I am still upset that all of you are not coming to Fred and Ginger's wedding. This is an important and joyous occasion that will happen once in a lifetime. Can't you find a way to save the money? It's over 6 months away. We don't need Christmas presents this year."
I did not respond and forwarded to DH. Sigh.
Anonymous wrote:Yeah, totally agree. I HATE destination weddings. What an imposition (and huge expense) put on everyone. We just RSVP no to all of them and put them in the circular file. It might be fun for the bride and groom but for the rest of us that have lives, kids, tuition payments, homework, college looming, it's just not a wise expenditure of time or money
Anonymous wrote:braces, school expenses, activity fees, doctor's visits, instruments, shoes, clothes, feeding a family...
Anonymous wrote:Just acknowledging that what some think of as a destination wedding really might not be. Not necessarily this case, of course.
Fo example
Bride from HI. Groom from NY. Both live in It is a travel nightmare for some family regardless. Add in the fact they might live in a third place currently. In that case HI isn't a destination wedding. Maybe they pick a resort for simplicity since folks would have to travel regardless.
Just saying dont assume motivations for a wedding location are ill intended.
Of course you still are always free to decline and no one should say boo about that.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here again. Here's an excerpt from MIL's e-mail (names are fake):
"I am still upset that all of you are not coming to Fred and Ginger's wedding. This is an important and joyous occasion that will happen once in a lifetime. Can't you find a way to save the money? It's over 6 months away. We don't need Christmas presents this year."
I did not respond and forwarded to DH. Sigh.
Beyond your completely correct position on not going to this ridiculous wedding, your mother-in-law sounds like a truly terrible person. "Can't you find a way to save the money?" How dare she? This makes me indignant on your behalf, and it goes far beyond her failure to comprehend that forcing her son to schlep his five-person family out to HAWAII for a wedding is ridiculous. You are far kinder than I'd be in response.
Anonymous wrote:I'm probably going to be the only one saying this, but I'd make more of an effort. What kind of destination? Somewhere you could actually make a vacation out of?
I do think mil is overstepping it a bit with her comments. Also, not the most considerate of uncle.
I will say, if you don't go, you sure as hell better not be taking any Disney vacations or anything like that for the next couple of years. If I was uncle and found out about a Disney vacation that year, I'd be really pissed.
Anonymous wrote:OP here again. Here's an excerpt from MIL's e-mail (names are fake):
"I am still upset that all of you are not coming to Fred and Ginger's wedding. This is an important and joyous occasion that will happen once in a lifetime. Can't you find a way to save the money? It's over 6 months away. We don't need Christmas presents this year."
I did not respond and forwarded to DH. Sigh.