NP mom here. Nannies will NOT work amongst extended family in the house. Most will not work with parents in the house, unless they are getting paid way above average for the area. Who would want a grandparent in the house with them? Thats just creepy. I don't think moms realize this.

Besides, if you have grandparents living in your house (FREE CHILDCARE), WHY ON EARTH DO YOU "NEED" PAID HELP????!!!

YES, I AM YELLING.

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Anonymous wrote:It's annoying for the nanny? Deal with it. It is part of your job to have friends and family of the dc around. It is not healthy for him to grow up in a bubble with no family allowed around bc the nanny doesn't want to deal with it. I grew up with a nanny and my relatives dropped by to p,ay with me all the time and the nanny was sweet and welcoming. I can't imagine if bc of the nanny my grandma had not been welcome over.

A nanny's job is to provide safe, quality care for her charge/es. Not to play hostess to your irritating family.
The occasional visit from Grandma is, of course, wonderful. This post is talking about having Grandma, Grandpa, Aunt and great Aunt Helen over several days per week, every single week. THAT is way, way beyond the scope of a nanny'a responsibility.

And while we are at it, it is absolutely not the responsibility of a child care provider to facilitate family relationships. It is the responsibility of the parent.

Anonymous wrote:It's annoying for the nanny? Deal with it. It is part of your job to have friends and family of the dc around. It is not healthy for him to grow up in a bubble with no family allowed around bc the nanny doesn't want to deal with it. I grew up with a nanny and my relatives dropped by to p,ay with me all the time and the nanny was sweet and welcoming. I can't imagine if bc of the nanny my grandma had not been welcome over.

A nanny's job is to provide safe, quality care for her charge/es. Not to play hostess to your irritating family.
The occasional visit from Grandma is, of course, wonderful. This post is talking about having Grandma, Grandpa, Aunt and great Aunt Helen over several days per week, every single week. THAT is way, way beyond the scope of a nanny'a responsibility.