Anonymous wrote:

She will think I am warm, welcoming and funny. She will think I have had an interesting life. She will think I raised a great son. Maybe if I am lucky we will spend time together.

You asked.

This. And that I will love her unconditionally because my son loves her unconditionally. We may not be besties but I will always have her back.

Anonymous wrote:Anyone willing to be honest and lay it on the line? Will she hate you with the white hot fury that you feel for your MIL?

Wow, you need therapy asap if you feel that way about the woman who raised the man you love.

I have two sons and whether I end up with DILs or SILs, I hope they think the same of me as I do of my MIL. She is truly a second mom to me and has always treated me with love and respect. Probably more than I deserve. She had an awful MIL so she tends to overcompensate but I love her for it. She just wants to have the opposite relationship with me. And she does. She's just a good person--she's a hard person not to like.

My grandmother was a great MIL and I was raised to treat your ILs with respect. So my mother set a very good example, even thought she and my SIL aren't the best of friends. They get along fine but they are very different.