Anonymous
03/13/2013 12:05
Subject: Does anyone elses spouse stay out overnight frequently
You are a troll...ignore my post @12:03
You both have a problem:
A DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM
You both have a problem:
A DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM
Anonymous
03/13/2013 12:03
Subject: Does anyone elses spouse stay out overnight frequently
Not ok -- ever.
My DH knows to call if he is stuck in traffic and I know he left work a long time prior...he will call to say...stuck around Tyson's Corner, etc.
1) your husband has a drinking problem
2) a disrespect problem
3) maturity problem
4) time management problem
5) an affair/sleeping around problem
6) any or all of the above
Really OP -- this is not ok...you need to have a sit down with him -- explain, calmly, why this is a problem and how it is unacceptable.
Tell him the next time it happens, he will come home to locked doors he will not be able to open.
My DH knows to call if he is stuck in traffic and I know he left work a long time prior...he will call to say...stuck around Tyson's Corner, etc.
1) your husband has a drinking problem
2) a disrespect problem
3) maturity problem
4) time management problem
5) an affair/sleeping around problem
6) any or all of the above
Really OP -- this is not ok...you need to have a sit down with him -- explain, calmly, why this is a problem and how it is unacceptable.
Tell him the next time it happens, he will come home to locked doors he will not be able to open.
Anonymous
03/13/2013 12:02
Subject: Does anyone elses spouse stay out overnight frequently
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Sorry but you must be a troll...from your last post I cannot believe you are for real.
lol, I'm not a troll. Believe it or not, there are people out there who don't need 100% monogamy to be in a loving relationship. A little variety once in a while can be nice.
Oh and now you have seen other women and are apparently a lesbian? I think you are a pathological liar.
Anonymous
03/13/2013 12:00
Subject: Does anyone elses spouse stay out overnight frequently
Anonymous wrote:Sorry but you must be a troll...from your last post I cannot believe you are for real.
lol, I'm not a troll. Believe it or not, there are people out there who don't need 100% monogamy to be in a loving relationship. A little variety once in a while can be nice.
Anonymous
03/13/2013 12:00
Subject: Re:Does anyone elses spouse stay out overnight frequently
What a great solution: shift the burden of informing you that he's crashed out/on a bender to a friend. Really, it's perfect. Now he has zero responsibility and you have lost your right to complain when friend doesn't text you. GL!
Anonymous
03/13/2013 11:56
Subject: Does anyone elses spouse stay out overnight frequently
Anonymous wrote:OP, have you/will you also see someone else on the side?
I have "seen" other girls in the past, but not men. It's not something weve done frequently, and neither of us have done it in years. We've been together for almost 15 years, and our relationship is quite good all in all. He's a good father, very attentive with our son.
Anonymous
03/13/2013 11:51
Subject: Does anyone elses spouse stay out overnight frequently
Sorry but you must be a troll...from your last post I cannot believe you are for real.
Anonymous
03/13/2013 11:49
Subject: Does anyone elses spouse stay out overnight frequently
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Anonymous
03/13/2013 11:40
Subject: Does anyone elses spouse stay out overnight frequently
Anonymous wrote:"You have an open relationship - nuff said. I knew he was hooking up with somebody else. Call it whatever you want. Your marriage is doomed OP. Sorry. And he wants to just text you to get rid of you and not have to call when he is with the other women or whoever. It's easier to text you from the bathroom than call you when the chick is right there."
Why do you say he's hooking up with someone else? If I'm ok with him hooking up with someone else from time to time, then he would TELL me about it, wouldn't he? He always has before. He doesn't have to lie about it.
wow, you just DONT GET IT. Look, your marriage has serious issues, and you have serious issues. So, just know that your husband does the dip on you once per month because you and your marriage have issues.
I know, you don't understand. Just go see a good therapist, print this thread, let them read it, and then let them explain it to you.
Anonymous
03/13/2013 11:40
Subject: Re:Does anyone elses spouse stay out overnight frequently
QUOTE: "Plus, we have a sort of open relationship."
Honey, let me know when you're ready to take on another man in your life. I can fill in the gaps he's leaving opened!
Honey, let me know when you're ready to take on another man in your life. I can fill in the gaps he's leaving opened!
Anonymous
03/13/2013 11:36
Subject: Does anyone elses spouse stay out overnight frequently
OP, have you/will you also see someone else on the side?
Anonymous
03/13/2013 11:35
Subject: Does anyone elses spouse stay out overnight frequently
Anonymous wrote:Ok WTF? Seriously....what kind of marriage do you have?
You have a baby, have an open relationship apparently now, your DH does not drink...but then goes out and gets hammered and does not call or come home.
You seem to have an equal part in creating this mess. Goodluck getting out of it.
I didn't say he doesn't drink AT ALL, I said he doesn't drink AT HOME. He only drinks when he is out with friends (which is not very often). He has barely any alcohol tolerance and gets drunk very fast.
Anonymous
03/13/2013 11:30
Subject: Does anyone elses spouse stay out overnight frequently
"You have an open relationship - nuff said. I knew he was hooking up with somebody else. Call it whatever you want. Your marriage is doomed OP. Sorry. And he wants to just text you to get rid of you and not have to call when he is with the other women or whoever. It's easier to text you from the bathroom than call you when the chick is right there."
Why do you say he's hooking up with someone else? If I'm ok with him hooking up with someone else from time to time, then he would TELL me about it, wouldn't he? He always has before. He doesn't have to lie about it.
Why do you say he's hooking up with someone else? If I'm ok with him hooking up with someone else from time to time, then he would TELL me about it, wouldn't he? He always has before. He doesn't have to lie about it.
Anonymous
03/13/2013 11:09
Subject: Re:Does anyone elses spouse stay out overnight frequently
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'll try to address multiple questions here
Plus, we have a sort of open relationship. He's allowed to have sexual encounters with other women once in a while, as long as there is no romantic relationship, and as long as he tells me about it. We have a few "friends" who he hooks up with now and then. Honestly, he's home too much to be having an emotional affair with anyone else.
When he doesn't come home when he has said he would, I try to tell myself, hey, he's probably just asleep at so-and-so's house....but then there's still that nagging possibility that he did try to come home, and something happened. I admit, I'm a worry-wart, just like my mom is.
I talked with him about it again last night, and I think we found a solution. He promised to have whatever friend he is with when he goes out text me to let me know if he has fallen asleep at their place and will be staying over there for the night. If they will actually do that, then I'll be happy.
You have an open relationship - nuff said. I knew he was hooking up with somebody else. Call it whatever you want. Your marriage is doomed OP. Sorry. And he wants to just text you to get rid of you and not have to call when he is with the other women or whoever. It's easier to text you from the bathroom than call you when the chick is right there.
Next time, don't have an open marriage and it might work.
Anonymous
03/13/2013 11:05
Subject: Does anyone elses spouse stay out overnight frequently
Ok WTF? Seriously....what kind of marriage do you have?
You have a baby, have an open relationship apparently now, your DH does not drink...but then goes out and gets hammered and does not call or come home.
You seem to have an equal part in creating this mess. Goodluck getting out of it.
You have a baby, have an open relationship apparently now, your DH does not drink...but then goes out and gets hammered and does not call or come home.
You seem to have an equal part in creating this mess. Goodluck getting out of it.