Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. He got a job in August 2013 and lost it again exactly two years later (August 2015). Here I am again...he's unemployed and doesn't do anything other than blame me for his low self esteem. I'm holding my breath for him to get a job because now I'm clear that I am not the one for him. He needs someone much more giving than I am. Sad for my kid. Hope he gets a job soon. We fight all the time and are in counseling.
Assuming he's depressed, how can I help him get on the job search if I don't feel very much empathy for him? I want empathy but my resentment gets in the way: I don't know what he does all day. He doesn't do daycare as we pay for afterschool. He doesn't cook. He doesn't clean. He rarely does errands. He doesn't manage playdates, summer camp planning, etc. He doesn't walk the dog. He won't sit down with me and figure out a way to cut expenses so we can at least live within the new income level (mine). He keeps buying bottled water, luxury juices, glass bottled milk ($7 a quart). He says I don't appreciate him because he does things that I don't see, but he won't tell me what those are.
OMG....he would get a time limit and if nothing changed he would be GONE!
Anonymous wrote:He sounds like a lazy ass. Make it clear you are no sugar mama and if you were you would be supporting a hot and ripped 23 year old, not him. Maybe that will motivate him to start sending that resume out
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow... so the majority of people on this thread think that we should divorce or show some sort of tough love to every spouse who stays at home.
Double standards are alive and well in America and on DCUM!
You guys must have missed the beginning of this thread- second time in two years, husband isn't even trying.
Who believes her? I find it hard to believe he hasn't even sent a single resume in four months. Just another bullshit man-bashing DCUM blood in the water thread.
Anonymous wrote:Money is a woman's biggest aphrodisiac.
Anonymous wrote:Indeed -- just another bullshit man-bashing DCUM blood in the water thread.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow... so the majority of people on this thread think that we should divorce or show some sort of tough love to every spouse who stays at home.
Double standards are alive and well in America and on DCUM!
You guys must have missed the beginning of this thread- second time in two years, husband isn't even trying.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow... so the majority of people on this thread think that we should divorce or show some sort of tough love to every spouse who stays at home.
Double standards are alive and well in America and on DCUM!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No I just want him to help out one way or another. I'll take cooking cleaning childcare. I'll take divorce, no strings attached. But being blamed for his problems? Sorry.
Then put up or shut up.
Anonymous wrote:No I just want him to help out one way or another. I'll take cooking cleaning childcare. I'll take divorce, no strings attached. But being blamed for his problems? Sorry.