Anonymous wrote:I know lots of people who were molested by babysitters. But not all of them see it as being molested. But if it makes you feel better to have a piece of paper that says Sally Sue hasn't been caught doing anything, then cling to the paper tight and hope that 30 years from now your child isn't confessing that Sally made him play doctor and peek a boo genitals.

Just because someone doesn't trust Sally, it doesn't mean they trust Uncle Joe either. Family doesn't mean everyone in your family.

Go away, troll.

Anonymous wrote:I know lots of people who were molested by babysitters. But not all of them see it as being molested. But if it makes you feel better to have a piece of paper that says Sally Sue hasn't been caught doing anything, then cling to the paper tight and hope that 30 years from now your child isn't confessing that Sally made him play doctor and peek a boo genitals.

Just because someone doesn't trust Sally, it doesn't mean they trust Uncle Joe either. Family doesn't mean everyone in your family.

Did you ever babysit? A lot of my friends and I babysat as kids. (For the record, I am not a child molester, and neither are my friends.) Why do you think it is normal or common for people to abuse kids? I am no stranger to abuse myself, and I still don't understand the mentality of "everyone is a pedophile". I have far too many examples of kind, loving people in my life to believe that.

I know lots of people who were molested by babysitters. But not all of them see it as being molested. But if it makes you feel better to have a piece of paper that says Sally Sue hasn't been caught doing anything, then cling to the paper tight and hope that 30 years from now your child isn't confessing that Sally made him play doctor and peek a boo genitals.

Just because someone doesn't trust Sally, it doesn't mean they trust Uncle Joe either. Family doesn't mean everyone in your family.

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Anonymous wrote:Try to do date nights at home after the kids are in bed. We don't do babysitters either so we only get real dates maybe once a year when family is in town.

Too many crazies, pedos, and satan worshippers around. They present themselves very well so nope, the babysitter thing won't change for me. Maybe your wife feels the same, or maybe she has her own reasons.

Sorry, but you sound like one of the crazies.

If that makes you feel better about leaving your kids with someone you know very little about then ok. Do what works for you and I will do the same.

I see your kids in therapy for mommy issues somewhere down the road.

It works both ways....

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Anonymous wrote:Try to do date nights at home after the kids are in bed. We don't do babysitters either so we only get real dates maybe once a year when family is in town.

Too many crazies, pedos, and satan worshippers around. They present themselves very well so nope, the babysitter thing won't change for me. Maybe your wife feels the same, or maybe she has her own reasons.

Sorry, but you sound like one of the crazies.

If that makes you feel better about leaving your kids with someone you know very little about then ok. Do what works for you and I will do the same.

NP here. I agree re: babysitters--I will not let complete strangers alone with my kids. Nobody comes to your home telling you they are Jerry Sandusky. I did a rotation at Childrens' Hospital and most of the patients coming in were young girls (under 10) who were sexually assaulted. I don't give a shit what anyone else thinks about this. My parents watch the kids, no one else.

You must have your stats wrong (or are making them up).

I worked in prisons with sex offenders, I know how they think and how completely awful they are - yet I leave my kids with babysitters.

You probably also know, you are more likely to be abused by a family member (I.e. your father or grandfather) than a stranger. So, your parents are more likely to rape or molest your kids then the babysitter from care.com.

Have a nice day!

Ditto. I work for CPS and as paranoid as I am, I knew for my own sanity, DHs, and the stability of our marriage, we needed date nights. We don't have any family or friends who could be to to sitters so we spent a lot of time and used common sense (& the background check function on sitter websites - not fool-proof but a start) to start interviewing candidates. Found a great college student who DC still talks about missing today even though we moved and haven't used her for 1 1/2 year.

Seriously. WTF is wrong with these crazy posters who think that the people they need to worry about are the babysitter from church or the nanny with 20 years experience and stellar references. I know a lot of victims of child abuse and they were all abused by their family members. Are you people really so stupid? Sorry to add to this off topic side show but I just can't help myself... OP, get a babysitter, don't listen to these crazy women.

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Anonymous wrote:Try to do date nights at home after the kids are in bed. We don't do babysitters either so we only get real dates maybe once a year when family is in town.

Too many crazies, pedos, and satan worshippers around. They present themselves very well so nope, the babysitter thing won't change for me. Maybe your wife feels the same, or maybe she has her own reasons.

Sorry, but you sound like one of the crazies.

If that makes you feel better about leaving your kids with someone you know very little about then ok. Do what works for you and I will do the same.

NP here. I agree re: babysitters--I will not let complete strangers alone with my kids. Nobody comes to your home telling you they are Jerry Sandusky. I did a rotation at Childrens' Hospital and most of the patients coming in were young girls (under 10) who were sexually assaulted. I don't give a shit what anyone else thinks about this. My parents watch the kids, no one else.

You must have your stats wrong (or are making them up).

I worked in prisons with sex offenders, I know how they think and how completely awful they are - yet I leave my kids with babysitters.

You probably also know, you are more likely to be abused by a family member (I.e. your father or grandfather) than a stranger. So, your parents are more likely to rape or molest your kids then the babysitter from care.com.

Have a nice day!

Ditto. I work for CPS and as paranoid as I am, I knew for my own sanity, DHs, and the stability of our marriage, we needed date nights. We don't have any family or friends who could be to to sitters so we spent a lot of time and used common sense (& the background check function on sitter websites - not fool-proof but a start) to start interviewing candidates. Found a great college student who DC still talks about missing today even though we moved and haven't used her for 1 1/2 year.

OP, have you heard of the DC Metro Dads yahoo group? Search for them in Yahoo groups, find out where they are and drag the kids along for a playdate and some social therapy for you. You cannot be the only man who feels like this! My husband and I have relatively no family in the area, my friends have kids of their own and we are a one income household by choice, so paying for a sitter/nanny/maid is not a luxury we can afford. Talk about overwhelmed! You guys need a circle of friends to help you put things into perspective and so that you can have some adult time. The Dads group is great and since they drag the kids along, you won't be violating your wife's rules. Then work on a long term solution with your marriage!

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Anonymous wrote:Try to do date nights at home after the kids are in bed. We don't do babysitters either so we only get real dates maybe once a year when family is in town.

Too many crazies, pedos, and satan worshippers around. They present themselves very well so nope, the babysitter thing won't change for me. Maybe your wife feels the same, or maybe she has her own reasons.

Sorry, but you sound like one of the crazies.

If that makes you feel better about leaving your kids with someone you know very little about then ok. Do what works for you and I will do the same.

NP here. I agree re: babysitters--I will not let complete strangers alone with my kids. Nobody comes to your home telling you they are Jerry Sandusky. I did a rotation at Childrens' Hospital and most of the patients coming in were young girls (under 10) who were sexually assaulted. I don't give a shit what anyone else thinks about this. My parents watch the kids, no one else.

You must have your stats wrong (or are making them up).

I worked in prisons with sex offenders, I know how they think and how completely awful they are - yet I leave my kids with babysitters.

You probably also know, you are more likely to be abused by a family member (I.e. your father or grandfather) than a stranger. So, your parents are more likely to rape or molest your kids then the babysitter from care.com.

Have a nice day!