Here's a different take on this topic.

I am 13 yrs younger than DH. We are pretty happy, although I have to admit that in recent years I've felt the age gap between us a bit more. This is because of physical problems he's starting to have, while I'm still in very good health.

My BIL is married to his 4th wife who is 30 years his junior. I don't get what they see in each other, but they seem happy. Who knows? Daddy issues? Maybe...$$$ reasons, yeah, I think so.

My SIL is several years younger than her DH. A few years back he developed progressive MS and is now confined to a wheelchair. Being the younger spouse didn't help in their case. MY SIL is very healthy and fit, BTW.

Conclusion: People marry who they marry for a whole host of reasons, and nobody can predict what will happen in their marriage. One size doesn't fit all.

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Anonymous wrote:A big screw you to everyone who keeps suggesting that if you marry someone 10+ older than you then you did so due to daddy issues or for the $.

my DH and I are 15 years apart. By no means did I marry him for the money. he maks a modest salary. my dad and I have a great relationship. he is what you would call salt of the earth.

Is the age difference ideal? No - but only in the event that DH someday may have declining health issues that are not yet on my radar. Is that a reason not to marry someone? I could get hit by a bus tomorrow!

DH and I have an outstanding relationship - we're best friends and the age difference is a non-issue.

Except that for him, the age difference is probably of the utmost importance! It's how he knows he's still "got it", loooooong after women his own age have faded, the sad sacks!! He sure showed them, with his perky little girly-wife! Who 'da MAN?!!

I'm not sure how you think saying something like this makes you come off, but the reality is, you sound extremely bitter.

I am two years older than DH. He has said that he always wanted to marry someone either his age it older.

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Anonymous wrote:funny how some of the young brides think they're truly in love with their older spouses

until their husbands hit an age where their health declines, that is . . .

Trust me when I say it ain't pretty. My mother, who was significantly younger than my father, nursed him at home for over 6 years, paying out of pocket for nursing assistants, meds, and medical supplies. Years later, and a million gone, she wished she had invested in long-term healthcare. Furthermore, during that stage of life, when she was free to travel, she was stuck at home.

tragic ending

So you say you're in love now, but I'd like to see how you'd handle a situation similar to the one above.

My mother is 10 years younger than my father and has also been suffering because of his declining health.

I'm very sorry to hear that and wish you and your parents the best. I used to tell Mom to go out, especially when the nursing assistants were there. Take her out as much as possible - to lunch, out shopping, to a movie, etc.

I'm 5 years younger than DH.

MIL is 2 years younger than her DH.

My mom is 9 years younger than my dad.

Anonymous wrote:A big screw you to everyone who keeps suggesting that if you marry someone 10+ older than you then you did so due to daddy issues or for the $.

my DH and I are 15 years apart. By no means did I marry him for the money. he maks a modest salary. my dad and I have a great relationship. he is what you would call salt of the earth.

Is the age difference ideal? No - but only in the event that DH someday may have declining health issues that are not yet on my radar. Is that a reason not to marry someone? I could get hit by a bus tomorrow!

DH and I have an outstanding relationship - we're best friends and the age difference is a non-issue.

Except that for him, the age difference is probably of the utmost importance! It's how he knows he's still "got it", loooooong after women his own age have faded, the sad sacks!! He sure showed them, with his perky little girly-wife! Who 'da MAN?!!

8 years, 8 years and 8 years!

I'm 11 months younger than DH. My mom is 15 days younger than my dad. DH's dad is 2 or 3 years older than his mom.

Anonymous wrote:A big screw you to everyone who keeps suggesting that if you marry someone 10+ older than you then you did so due to daddy issues or for the $.

my DH and I are 15 years apart. By no means did I marry him for the money. he maks a modest salary. my dad and I have a great relationship. he is what you would call salt of the earth.

Is the age difference ideal? No - but only in the event that DH someday may have declining health issues that are not yet on my radar. Is that a reason not to marry someone? I could get hit by a bus tomorrow!

DH and I have an outstanding relationship - we're best friends and the age difference is a non-issue.

+1. I am the PP whose DH is 13 years older. I have a great relationship with my dad and had a wonderful childhood. In fact, I ASKED my DH to marry ME. 5 years later we still are happily married and are best friends

DH is 13 years older than me. MIL and FIL are the same age

A big screw you to everyone who keeps suggesting that if you marry someone 10+ older than you then you did so due to daddy issues or for the $.

my DH and I are 15 years apart. By no means did I marry him for the money. he maks a modest salary. my dad and I have a great relationship. he is what you would call salt of the earth.

Is the age difference ideal? No - but only in the event that DH someday may have declining health issues that are not yet on my radar. Is that a reason not to marry someone? I could get hit by a bus tomorrow!

DH and I have an outstanding relationship - we're best friends and the age difference is a non-issue.

Anonymous wrote:funny how some of the young brides think they're truly in love with their older spouses

until their husbands hit an age where their health declines, that is . . .

Trust me when I say it ain't pretty. My mother, who was significantly younger than my father, nursed him at home for over 6 years, paying out of pocket for nursing assistants, meds, and medical supplies. Years later, and a million gone, she wished she had invested in long-term healthcare. Furthermore, during that stage of life, when she was free to travel, she was stuck at home.

tragic ending

So you say you're in love now, but I'd like to see how you'd handle a situation similar to the one above.

Anything can happen to either spouse at any time. Cancer and chronic, debilitating illnesses (e.g. MS) can be diagnosed at any age.