Anonymous wrote:Dear God people just send a thank you note for receiving a gift. To defend not sending a note is ridiculous. I've been to multiple 3 year old parties this year where gifts were not opened at the party. I also did not receive a thank you note. No, I was not waiting for one but would it have killed the mom or dad to acknowledge the gift we gave? I've also sent some expensive wedding gifts via mail and have not received a note. Did they get it? Did it get lost? I have no idea. Just be polite and stop justifiying your rude behaviour because your too lazy to be grateful.

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Anonymous wrote:Dear God people just send a thank you note for receiving a gift. To defend not sending a note is ridiculous. I've been to multiple 3 year old parties this year where gifts were not opened at the party. I also did not receive a thank you note. No, I was not waiting for one but would it have killed the mom or dad to acknowledge the gift we gave? I've also sent some expensive wedding gifts via mail and have not received a note. Did they get it? Did it get lost? I have no idea. Just be polite and stop justifiying your rude behaviour because your too lazy to be grateful.

This x 10000. Can't believe so many people defend bad manners, especially when the task in question - writing a quick thank you note - is so easy to accomplish. Not writing thank you notes is lazy and poor form, period. You can't defend it.

And for those who said they interview candidates for jobs and don't care if they get a note, you're in the minority. I work for a top firm and believe me, especially for internships, thank you notes (or e-mails) are tracked and circulated among the partners making the hiring decisions. So it's not just about thanking Susie-Q for her birthday gift - it's a basic life skill.

Aother hiring manager who does not care whether I get a thank you note. The only way makes a difference to me is if the interviewee uses the note to give me some new information or demonstrate some skill-based reason I should hire them. But if a strong candidate didn't send one, I wouldn't notice--and I would happily hire him/her.

I don't do it because I'm supposed to. I do it because it's how I was taught to express appreciation for a kind gesture or gift. If you were taught otherwise, I don't care and you don't need to do what I was taught to do and am teaching my children to do. It's important to me but that doesn't mean it has to be important to everyone else.

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Anonymous wrote:Dear God people just send a thank you note for receiving a gift. To defend not sending a note is ridiculous. I've been to multiple 3 year old parties this year where gifts were not opened at the party. I also did not receive a thank you note. No, I was not waiting for one but would it have killed the mom or dad to acknowledge the gift we gave? I've also sent some expensive wedding gifts via mail and have not received a note. Did they get it? Did it get lost? I have no idea. Just be polite and stop justifiying your rude behaviour because your too lazy to be grateful.

This x 10000. Can't believe so many people defend bad manners, especially when the task in question - writing a quick thank you note - is so easy to accomplish. Not writing thank you notes is lazy and poor form, period. You can't defend it.

And for those who said they interview candidates for jobs and don't care if they get a note, you're in the minority. I work for a top firm and believe me, especially for internships, thank you notes (or e-mails) are tracked and circulated among the partners making the hiring decisions. So it's not just about thanking Susie-Q for her birthday gift - it's a basic life skill.

Anonymous wrote:I hate receiving thank you cards. Never know what to do. To be polite do I need to write a thank you note acknowledging the thank you card. It seems rude to not say I received it.

I wish there were no such thing as cards of any kind. I hate writing them and I hate receiving them. Doing something just because you are supposed too - like written lipservice, comes across as fake.

Anonymous wrote:I agree it's just a waste of paper, postage, etc. But in my opinion it's the right thing to teach kids. My kids have been writing their own thank you notes for about 2 years. They also like to receive thank notes in the mail from friends whose parties they attended.

If people want to be rude, that's fine. If people think I'm support USPS, with my $5.00 worth of stamps, than so be it~

Anonymous wrote:I hate receiving thank you cards. Never know what to do. To be polite do I need to write a thank you note acknowledging the thank you card. It seems rude to not say I received it.

I wish there were no such thing as cards of any kind. I hate writing them and I hate receiving them. Doing something just because you are supposed too - like written lipservice, comes across as fake.

Dear God, people, just get over your obsession with receiving a thank you note. To defend your righteousness at not receiving a note is both ingracious and ridiculous. I've been to multiple 3 yr old parties where gifts were not opened at the party. I also did not receive a thank you note. No, I was not waiting for one, especially when my gift and presence were acknowledged when they they thanked me for coming to the party and planning such a nice time for me and my family. I've also sent some expensive wedding gifts via email and have not received a note. This, of course, is very different than a three year old's party and certainly seems negligent to me. That said, because I am polite, I would make certain that the gift was received and give the newlywed the benefit of the doubt, as that is what truly gracious people do. Just be polite and stop justifying your rude and selfishness because you are too self centered to appreciate a verbal thank you from a three year old at her party and would rather keep score using your definition of what is polite rather than appreciate the honor of being around to celebrate life events with those you love.