Anonymous
Post 01/13/2012 11:26     Subject: To those of you who have axes to grind re: SAH vs. WOH-this post is for you!
Anonymous wrote:I am not a mom, so I really do not have a dog in this fight. FWIW I believe that you are the only one who can decide what is best for you and your family.

I do have a question for the SAHM's because this thread talks about judgment of moms both roles (SAHM/WOH.) I have a couple of friends in your position, and I haven't heard them complain about being judged by other moms but instead feel hurt because their spouses judge them for staying home. My best friend was treated like a second class citizen and slave because she had to "earn her way" on top of raising his baby.

Have you encountered this? Is this a somewhat normal phase in this transition?


My husband has never treated me like a second class citizen, nor am I expected to do all the housework. Presumably, the decision for a parent to stay home is made jointly; are these men surprised that their wives stay home with the kids? Do they know that either the kids will either be at home with a parent or in daycare? Wow. If I was any one of those women, things would change, and I don't mean that I would be adopting a second class status. Mentally sending my best to those poor ladies...
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2012 14:44     Subject: To those of you who have axes to grind re: SAH vs. WOH-this post is for you!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am not a mom, so I really do not have a dog in this fight. FWIW I believe that you are the only one who can decide what is best for you and your family.

I do have a question for the SAHM's because this thread talks about judgment of moms both roles (SAHM/WOH.) I have a couple of friends in your position, and I haven't heard them complain about being judged by other moms but instead feel hurt because their spouses judge them for staying home. My best friend was treated like a second class citizen and slave because she had to "earn her way" on top of raising his baby.

Have you encountered this? Is this a somewhat normal phase in this transition?


The only time my DH scorns me for being a SAHM is when he comes home to a messy house and finds me on DCUM.


No...my husband has never judged me for staying home (I do work part-time but the hours are odd). He knows that it is not all cupackes and rainbows around here and has even admitted that there are days he is grateful to go to work. Also, the second that my husband judges or scorns me is the second we enter marriage counseling. It is not my job to make sure the house is beautiful when he gets home. We are a team and view the housework as stuff we BOTH have to get done.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2012 14:08     Subject: Re:To those of you who have axes to grind re: SAH vs. WOH-this post is for you!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

Get it ladies? You are arguing your points back and forth like some little kids. Here is the truth. Do what the fuck you want and stop judging others. Life's too short!!

Why do so many resort to crude language or lots of !!!s? As if that makes their position even stronger? Choose your words wisely and you'll be more convincing. (This also reduces the likelihood that you might have to eat them later.)



I have to convince you that life's too short and you should enjoy it, instead of judging others for doing whatever it is they are doing?
You have issues, my friend.

Move on and do something meaningful. Go hug your kids or something.

You don't have to convince me of anything. My point is your argument loses credibility when you and others resort to foul language and excessive punctuation!!!!!!!! Clean up your language -- it's what you would have your children do.



Chill out lady and have a glass of wine. PP seemed to really get your blood pressure up. No need to take things so personally.......


STFU!!!!!!!!.............



You are very classy. Thank you for your participation.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2012 14:06     Subject: Re:To those of you who have axes to grind re: SAH vs. WOH-this post is for you!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

Get it ladies? You are arguing your points back and forth like some little kids. Here is the truth. Do what the fuck you want and stop judging others. Life's too short!!

Why do so many resort to crude language or lots of !!!s? As if that makes their position even stronger? Choose your words wisely and you'll be more convincing. (This also reduces the likelihood that you might have to eat them later.)


Pages of nasty, bitchy, ugly remarks toward eachother but you are highly offended by a curse word?
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2012 14:02     Subject: Re:To those of you who have axes to grind re: SAH vs. WOH-this post is for you!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

Get it ladies? You are arguing your points back and forth like some little kids. Here is the truth. Do what the fuck you want and stop judging others. Life's too short!!

Why do so many resort to crude language or lots of !!!s? As if that makes their position even stronger? Choose your words wisely and you'll be more convincing. (This also reduces the likelihood that you might have to eat them later.)



I have to convince you that life's too short and you should enjoy it, instead of judging others for doing whatever it is they are doing?
You have issues, my friend.

Move on and do something meaningful. Go hug your kids or something.

You don't have to convince me of anything. My point is your argument loses credibility when you and others resort to foul language and excessive punctuation!!!!!!!! Clean up your language -- it's what you would have your children do.



Chill out lady and have a glass of wine. PP seemed to really get your blood pressure up. No need to take things so personally.......


STFU!!!!!!!!.............
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2012 13:53     Subject: Re:To those of you who have axes to grind re: SAH vs. WOH-this post is for you!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

Get it ladies? You are arguing your points back and forth like some little kids. Here is the truth. Do what the fuck you want and stop judging others. Life's too short!!

Why do so many resort to crude language or lots of !!!s? As if that makes their position even stronger? Choose your words wisely and you'll be more convincing. (This also reduces the likelihood that you might have to eat them later.)



I have to convince you that life's too short and you should enjoy it, instead of judging others for doing whatever it is they are doing?
You have issues, my friend.

Move on and do something meaningful. Go hug your kids or something.

You don't have to convince me of anything. My point is your argument loses credibility when you and others resort to foul language and excessive punctuation!!!!!!!! Clean up your language -- it's what you would have your children do.



Chill out lady and have a glass of wine. PP seemed to really get your blood pressure up. No need to take things so personally.......
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2012 13:52     Subject: To those of you who have axes to grind re: SAH vs. WOH-this post is for you!
Anonymous wrote:I am not a mom, so I really do not have a dog in this fight. FWIW I believe that you are the only one who can decide what is best for you and your family.

I do have a question for the SAHM's because this thread talks about judgment of moms both roles (SAHM/WOH.) I have a couple of friends in your position, and I haven't heard them complain about being judged by other moms but instead feel hurt because their spouses judge them for staying home. My best friend was treated like a second class citizen and slave because she had to "earn her way" on top of raising his baby.

Have you encountered this? Is this a somewhat normal phase in this transition?


The only time my DH scorns me for being a SAHM is when he comes home to a messy house and finds me on DCUM.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2012 13:50     Subject: To those of you who have axes to grind re: SAH vs. WOH-this post is for you!
I just wish I could be a SAHM and still run my house as well as the full time WOHM moms I know do!! lol.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2012 13:17     Subject: To those of you who have axes to grind re: SAH vs. WOH-this post is for you!
I am not a mom, so I really do not have a dog in this fight. FWIW I believe that you are the only one who can decide what is best for you and your family.

I do have a question for the SAHM's because this thread talks about judgment of moms both roles (SAHM/WOH.) I have a couple of friends in your position, and I haven't heard them complain about being judged by other moms but instead feel hurt because their spouses judge them for staying home. My best friend was treated like a second class citizen and slave because she had to "earn her way" on top of raising his baby.

Have you encountered this? Is this a somewhat normal phase in this transition?
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2012 12:42     Subject: Re:To those of you who have axes to grind re: SAH vs. WOH-this post is for you!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

Get it ladies? You are arguing your points back and forth like some little kids. Here is the truth. Do what the fuck you want and stop judging others. Life's too short!!

Why do so many resort to crude language or lots of !!!s? As if that makes their position even stronger? Choose your words wisely and you'll be more convincing. (This also reduces the likelihood that you might have to eat them later.)



I have to convince you that life's too short and you should enjoy it, instead of judging others for doing whatever it is they are doing?
You have issues, my friend.

Move on and do something meaningful. Go hug your kids or something.

You don't have to convince me of anything. My point is your argument loses credibility when you and others resort to foul language and excessive punctuation!!!!!!!! Clean up your language -- it's what you would have your children do.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2012 12:31     Subject: Re:To those of you who have axes to grind re: SAH vs. WOH-this post is for you!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

Get it ladies? You are arguing your points back and forth like some little kids. Here is the truth. Do what the fuck you want and stop judging others. Life's too short!!

Why do so many resort to crude language or lots of !!!s? As if that makes their position even stronger? Choose your words wisely and you'll be more convincing. (This also reduces the likelihood that you might have to eat them later.)



I have to convince you that life's too short and you should enjoy it, instead of judging others for doing whatever it is they are doing?
You have issues, my friend.

Move on and do something meaningful. Go hug your kids or something.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2012 12:24     Subject: Re:To those of you who have axes to grind re: SAH vs. WOH-this post is for you!
Anonymous wrote:

Get it ladies? You are arguing your points back and forth like some little kids. Here is the truth. Do what the fuck you want and stop judging others. Life's too short!!

Why do so many resort to crude language or lots of !!!s? As if that makes their position even stronger? Choose your words wisely and you'll be more convincing. (This also reduces the likelihood that you might have to eat them later.)