Anonymous wrote:

I go through my son's clothes and throw away the really stained ones. If i wouldn't let him go out in it, I don't donate it. It's a matter of respect for me. When we do our sorting for a homeless shelter, we throw away clothes that are stained or worn out. We've had donations from people that were flat out offensive (undies that weren't washed, etc.).

I just think it's extremely unkind to assume that someone else should be happy with your trash. It's not the spirit in which you should give. I'm not talking about canned food, etc. here. When someone is hungry any food is better than nothing.

Lady, you do sound pretentious and following this thread more than just a little defensive. Your "I am better than the rest of you thoughtless slubs" is what got you the snarky reply. Own it.

Own what exactly? I stand behind every word I said. The way you interpreted what I said is your problem.

I go through my son's clothes and throw away the really stained ones. If i wouldn't let him go out in it, I don't donate it. It's a matter of respect for me. When we do our sorting for a homeless shelter, we throw away clothes that are stained or worn out. We've had donations from people that were flat out offensive (undies that weren't washed, etc.).

I just think it's extremely unkind to assume that someone else should be happy with your trash. It's not the spirit in which you should give. I'm not talking about canned food, etc. here. When someone is hungry any food is better than nothing.

Lady, you do sound pretentious and following this thread more than just a little defensive. Your "I am better than the rest of you thoughtless slubs" is what got you the snarky reply. Own it.

Anonymous wrote:

I go through my son's clothes and throw away the really stained ones. If i wouldn't let him go out in it, I don't donate it

Bitch here. PP sounds a little holier than thou especially in light of the other pretentious posts on this thread. I called her on it.

That is the problem with forums. You can't always detect "tone" when reading a post.

Lady, you couldn't possibly know where I come from and what I've been through. I urge you to consider not being a bitch next time, especially when it comes to charitable giving. It's just not cool.

Anonymous wrote:
another poster from a poor family with a lot of kids. Why is that?

I come from a family with a lot of children. All from the same parents. Catholic. My dad had a Master's in Accounting. Awesome salary for the times. Then he had a heart attack at age 39. The company kept him employed for 2 years afterwards, while he was recovering. He fully recovered, and his company made it clear that although he could stay employed with them, he would no longer advance in the company. So he decided to get a job at another company. Which he did. And they went bankrupt. No more job.

My mom went to work, and through her hard work, she kept us in our home and always fed. Occasionally we had to get a box from the food pantry. I honestly don't know if we got any other assistance. No more "nice" clothes. But we still had 2 cars, a tv, and all the other "things" that "poor" people "shouldn't" have according to posters on this board. My dad worked odd jobs here and there. No one wanted to hire a middle aged man. Too much "experience".

It took years, but eventually my dad found a good job, my mom got promoted at her sales job, etc, etc. We were able to afford nice things again. I went on to college...

Had my family had less children, my dad's loss of a job would still have had a huge impact on the family. The number of children, although not completley relevant, had nothing to do with his work ethic or job status.

Don't be so judgemental. Bad things happen to good people all the time.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of the posters here are really clueless. When you are struggling to provide 3 meals a day for your children, buying organic is NOT a priority. When we went through difficult times during my childhood, my mom was not looking to buy $10 Rao's sauce and high end pasta. Luckily, she was an amazing cook so we did not eat many processed goods but she scoured the sales and certainly could not afford some of the specialty items we eat today.

Many people here seem unaware of the dynamics of a poor family. Often there are single family households and no money for child care so the older siblings care for the younger ones. When my mother worked late, I often had to prepare dinner for my younger siblings. I certainly had no clue how to turn beans into a meal when I was 10 years old. So, yes I think canned goods in general are easier to prepare for children responsible for dinner. With that being said, I do think there are better options than Spaghettios that are still relatively inexpensive.

Pardon my ignorance, but did your mother not have time to teach you to cook? How could she expect you to be responsible for feeding your younger siblings without instruction?

No the PP, but I'll break it down for you. My dad lost his job when I was 8. My mother had previously been a SAHM. She went to work. She delivered papers in the morning, worked a sales job from 9-5, and then worked at 7-11 in the evening so our family could make ends meet. Meanwhile, us kids are essentially fending for ourselves at home. We knew the basics of cooking, and knew how to read a cook book, but realistically, when you are a kid, coming home from school, trying to get homework done... cooking a nutritous meal out of whole ingrediants that will take hours to make is a no-go. Give me the can of spaghetti-os, dinner is ready in 5 min, clean up takes 2 minutes.

Anonymous wrote:If it's my old clothes or unused products, I give what I use. If I'm buying it, it just makes sense to buy cheaper. I think people would appreciate having 3 bottles of shampoo, rather than just 1, for example.

That's my feeling also. I would rather give more in quantity to help more people than higher quality and only help say one person.

Why? I don't believe the poor are less educated about birth control than better off families. I do not understand why a family has 4 kids if they are really poor, unless it's with different spouses.

You do know that the vast majority of Americans are just one catastrophe away from being poor. After my dad died our lives changed dramatically.

BTW, how long could most posters on DCUM live on their savings if they lost their job and couldn't find another one. Under you logic, no one should ever have any children, much less multiple children, unless they are independently wealthy and under no circumstance could ever become "poor."

Anonymous wrote:
Pardon my ignorance, but did your mother not have time to teach you to cook? How could she expect you to be responsible for feeding your younger siblings without instruction?


You are ignorant and entitled and it shows.


So anger is always better.

Actually, I am not all angry. Just stating the facts as I see them. I was a poor kid whose sibling did the cooking. We didn't accept charity and barely scraped by. I know what my mom did for us and not having the time or energy to teach us how to cook beans didn't make her a bad mom as was implied. Nor does it make any mom who must accept charity a bad mom. Be thankful your mom had the luxury and time to teach you to cook. Some moms are working 2 jobs to make ends meet and are just doing the best they can. Too bad that best isn't good enough for the entitled masses.

I go through my son's clothes and throw away the really stained ones. If i wouldn't let him go out in it, I don't donate it

Bitch here. PP sounds a little holier than thou especially in light of the other pretentious posts on this thread. I called her on it.

That is the problem with forums. You can't always detect "tone" when reading a post.

Why? I don't believe the poor are less educated about birth control than better off families. I do not understand why a family has 4 kids if they are really poor, unless it's with different spouses.

You do know that people don't always start out poor when they have children. Illness. Death. Loss of job. The list goes on.

Anonymous wrote:

Pardon my ignorance, but did your mother not have time to teach you to cook? How could she expect you to be responsible for feeding your younger siblings without instruction?

You are ignorant and entitled and it shows.

So anger is always better.

If it's my old clothes or unused products, I give what I use. If I'm buying it, it just makes sense to buy cheaper. I think people would appreciate having 3 bottles of shampoo, rather than just 1, for example.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

another poster from a poor family with a lot of kids. Why is that?

4 kids may be a lot now but it certainly wasn't when I was a kid.

BTW, your post is really offensive.

Why? I don't believe the poor are less educated about birth control than better off families. I do not understand why a family has 4 kids if they are really poor, unless it's with different spouses.

NP here and I don't understand what your bullshit has to do with the discussion at hand.

Anonymous wrote:

another poster from a poor family with a lot of kids. Why is that?

4 kids may be a lot now but it certainly wasn't when I was a kid.

BTW, your post is really offensive.

Why? I don't believe the poor are less educated about birth control than better off families. I do not understand why a family has 4 kids if they are really poor, unless it's with different spouses.

Anonymous wrote:

Pardon my ignorance, but did your mother not have time to teach you to cook? How could she expect you to be responsible for feeding your younger siblings without instruction?

You are ignorant and entitled and it shows.

Could you please explain?