Anonymous
05/24/2011 16:24
Subject: Re:pregnant at 47
In this day in age it is amazing how many people say stupid things to those of us struggling with infertility. Poster 10:01 (who makes it clear she is not the OP, cause I think she is over at the expectant Mom forum) you wrote a beautiful post and bring up lots of good points for those of us that WANT our own biological child.
Anonymous
05/22/2011 19:25
Subject: pregnant at 47
Reminding me that I need to start a thread about stupid things people say.
Anonymous
05/22/2011 19:14
Subject: Re:pregnant at 47
Thank you 10:01 poster! I am so sick of judgmental comments from all of my fertile friends especially the one about adoption. They think it's just like going to a store and picking out a baby you like to bring home. Also, when I say that I want to have a biological child who has my eyes and my husband's smarts, I feel guilty for some reason. Now having read your post, I see I don't have to be.
Anonymous
05/22/2011 18:11
Subject: pregnant at 47
Nah, it's cool. We need a ticker that says "this post has been removed for violating the no-asshole rule" or something. I actually reported it - so thanks mod!!
Anonymous
05/22/2011 17:49
Subject: pregnant at 47
You both are quite kind. But if the mod has removed the offending posts, it only makes sense to delete mine too. If only because it looks like I'm fussing at nothing! 
Anonymous
05/22/2011 11:33
Subject: pregnant at 47
Anonymous wrote:(I would like to make it clear, I'm not the OP.)
And what if the legitimate answer is, "I'd like to have a biological child?" That's a "legitimate answer" that has sustained the human race. How about another legitimate answer: "I don't have to justify my reproductive choices to strangers on internet message board."
Your declaration that your idle insult is a "legitimate question" does not make it so. Are you going to the expectant mothers thread and asking the women there "why don't you just adopt?" People who can have children without assistance never have to justify their decisions. But people who need the help of assisted reproductive technology do. Why is that?
I have also never heard of anyone in the "why don't you adopt" crowd who mentions that they are also an adoptive parent themselves. That's because people who really HAVE adopted are by and large sensitive and loving, understand that the process is not like "baby-shopping," and tend not to ask stupid questions. They love their children but they realize that the adoption path may not be for everyone, even though it is a beautiful way to build a family.
There are, indeed, many children in the world who need homes. It should not be the "job" of the infertile to take care of all of them; all of us have a role to play. So, PP...how many children have you adopted?
You should be a lawyer. Well said.
Anonymous
05/22/2011 10:22
Subject: pregnant at 47
Anonymous wrote:(I would like to make it clear, I'm not the OP.)
And what if the legitimate answer is, "I'd like to have a biological child?" That's a "legitimate answer" that has sustained the human race. How about another legitimate answer: "I don't have to justify my reproductive choices to strangers on internet message board."
Your declaration that your idle insult is a "legitimate question" does not make it so. Are you going to the expectant mothers thread and asking the women there "why don't you just adopt?" People who can have children without assistance never have to justify their decisions. But people who need the help of assisted reproductive technology do. Why is that?
I have also never heard of anyone in the "why don't you adopt" crowd who mentions that they are also an adoptive parent themselves. That's because people who really HAVE adopted are by and large sensitive and loving, understand that the process is not like "baby-shopping," and tend not to ask stupid questions. They love their children but they realize that the adoption path may not be for everyone, even though it is a beautiful way to build a family.
There are, indeed, many children in the world who need homes. It should not be the "job" of the infertile to take care of all of them; all of us have a role to play. So, PP...how many children have you adopted?
Thank you.
Anonymous
05/22/2011 10:01
Subject: pregnant at 47
(I would like to make it clear, I'm not the OP.)
And what if the legitimate answer is, "I'd like to have a biological child?" That's a "legitimate answer" that has sustained the human race. How about another legitimate answer: "I don't have to justify my reproductive choices to strangers on internet message board."
Your declaration that your idle insult is a "legitimate question" does not make it so. Are you going to the expectant mothers thread and asking the women there "why don't you just adopt?" People who can have children without assistance never have to justify their decisions. But people who need the help of assisted reproductive technology do. Why is that?
I have also never heard of anyone in the "why don't you adopt" crowd who mentions that they are also an adoptive parent themselves. That's because people who really HAVE adopted are by and large sensitive and loving, understand that the process is not like "baby-shopping," and tend not to ask stupid questions. They love their children but they realize that the adoption path may not be for everyone, even though it is a beautiful way to build a family.
There are, indeed, many children in the world who need homes. It should not be the "job" of the infertile to take care of all of them; all of us have a role to play. So, PP...how many children have you adopted?
And what if the legitimate answer is, "I'd like to have a biological child?" That's a "legitimate answer" that has sustained the human race. How about another legitimate answer: "I don't have to justify my reproductive choices to strangers on internet message board."
Your declaration that your idle insult is a "legitimate question" does not make it so. Are you going to the expectant mothers thread and asking the women there "why don't you just adopt?" People who can have children without assistance never have to justify their decisions. But people who need the help of assisted reproductive technology do. Why is that?
I have also never heard of anyone in the "why don't you adopt" crowd who mentions that they are also an adoptive parent themselves. That's because people who really HAVE adopted are by and large sensitive and loving, understand that the process is not like "baby-shopping," and tend not to ask stupid questions. They love their children but they realize that the adoption path may not be for everyone, even though it is a beautiful way to build a family.
There are, indeed, many children in the world who need homes. It should not be the "job" of the infertile to take care of all of them; all of us have a role to play. So, PP...how many children have you adopted?
Anonymous
05/21/2011 02:56
Subject: Re:pregnant at 47
there is Dr. Geeta Nargund in UK, saw some info on IVF connections.
Anonymous
05/13/2011 04:07
Subject: Re:pregnant at 47
PP thanks I will check out babyandbump, I wish I could go to the U.S.
Anonymous
05/12/2011 16:32
Subject: Re:pregnant at 47
Anonymous wrote:I saw a link about NCIVF on fertility friends in UK, I'm currently at the Lister clinic but they do not offer this IVF option. Does anyone know of a clinic in Europe or UK that does have it and will allow women over 40 to cycle?
Some time ago I visited this website (babyandbump.com), where I saw many posts about IVFs (I believe including NCIVF I believe) from ladies in the U.K. So I would post this question there. Good luck!
Anonymous
05/12/2011 16:19
Subject: Re:pregnant at 47
not sure about anywhere else but Dominion Fertility in DC area or new hope in NYC.
Anonymous
05/12/2011 04:29
Subject: Re:pregnant at 47
I saw a link about NCIVF on fertility friends in UK, I'm currently at the Lister clinic but they do not offer this IVF option. Does anyone know of a clinic in Europe or UK that does have it and will allow women over 40 to cycle?
Anonymous
05/11/2011 16:15
Subject: pregnant at 47
Hi OP. First CONGRATS ! Second, did you do anything special, acupuncture, herbs, exercise, etc? If so, please feel free to pass along recommendations if you found anything particularly helpful. Thanks!
! Second, did you do anything special, acupuncture, herbs, exercise, etc? If so, please feel free to pass along recommendations if you found anything particularly helpful. Thanks!
Anonymous
05/11/2011 15:06
Subject: pregnant at 47
Wow! That is a great success story given your age. It gives me hope to try this before throwing in the towel on IVF in general.