Anonymous wrote:For 35 plus and divorced men, flirting and asking someone out is really high stakes stuff. Most people are at work at that stage in life, which is where you meet people. But if a man gets that wrong and gets shot down for a coffee, that can be pretty darn devastating for careers and the work environment. So most men won't engage with colleagues these days.

So that leaves online, which has its issues.

If looking for a partner, I don't think this is a man or woman issue. We don't seem to have neutral third spaces where people can meet each other organically. But the costs are much higher for men who choose to flirt these days. So any man that has professional ambitions shuts that down. The risk-reward calculation is very unfavorable. Even when they really like someone. Don't go there is what every ambitious man has internalized.

And the apps are garbage these days. So, many men are checked out. Not because they don't want to meet a partner, but because there are few healthy and interesting ways to get to know someone in a non-dating context.

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Anonymous wrote:Most men I know 35+ who are single are delusional about what they bring to the table. They are 4-6’s who think they deserve an 8-10 woman. Unless they are rich it’s just not attainable for them. When they aren’t successful they just stop trying to date. They don’t understand what their lane is and that if they stayed in it they’d find a partner. There truly is a lid for every pot.

This is largely projection from walled women. You’d be surprised how men respond to basic respect and interest from their looksmatch.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, read this forum. Read this thread.

It’s a miracle anyone dates anyone when these are the people you could encounter.

Yea, men ugly inside and outside. This forum makes it really unattractive to me as a woman to go out and date. They hate “older women” eg essentially all women of their own age group are somehow “old hags”. Yakis

This is the first question I ask at date 1: what is your dating range? If I smell crap like that even closely, I’m out with speed of light

I'm 48, truly am looking for a relationship, and say 40-52, and don't mention regularly sleeping with 22-28yos between partners.

I can still smell it afar by how they react to my body, perform, compliment me, sex safety habits etc
It’s very easy to see when a man is head over toes for me and this is a huge sexual turn on for women.

No woman will be sexually vulnerable and interested in bed with someone like women haters Papa

So you want to be worshiped for your mediocrity? Sounds like a you problem. Seek help for your insecurities.

What so funny to me is that you don’t even realize how these comments show how bad you are in bed.

Here goes the typical shaming response because your droopy body doesn't quite do it for a guy. Save it.

Keep telling on yourself.

Keep coping. Hope you find Mr. "Head over toes" lol.

I’m a different poster, but it’s easy for any women to spot.

Just as easy as your would-be paramours spotting that you've let yourself go. Stop relying on validation from men to make yourself feel better and work on yourself. It starts within, darling.

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Anonymous wrote:The lack of feminine women is a disincentive. No man wants to get involved with a nutty liberal feminist. Those who do are settling for lack of better options. Yes DCUM this means you. You'll never find out how your whipped husbands feel because they are not allowed to have their own opinions.

Please PP and all the PPs on this topic - tell us! We are eager to hear from a man who is not in a relationship and apparently doesn’t want to be in one yet reads and posts on the “relationships” section of a mommy blog.

Anonymous wrote:Imagine yourself as a balanced, 35 year old man with a job, apartment, and car.

Option 1: go home to a quiet apartment and be able to pursue hobbies and passion projects freely.

Option 2: spend a ton of money on another person who talks too much, requires expensive upkeep, removes the peace from his environment, takes time away from hobbies.

Yeah ……….

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, read this forum. Read this thread.

It’s a miracle anyone dates anyone when these are the people you could encounter.

Yea, men ugly inside and outside. This forum makes it really unattractive to me as a woman to go out and date. They hate “older women” eg essentially all women of their own age group are somehow “old hags”. Yakis

This is the first question I ask at date 1: what is your dating range? If I smell crap like that even closely, I’m out with speed of light

I'm 48, truly am looking for a relationship, and say 40-52, and don't mention regularly sleeping with 22-28yos between partners.

I can still smell it afar by how they react to my body, perform, compliment me, sex safety habits etc
It’s very easy to see when a man is head over toes for me and this is a huge sexual turn on for women.

No woman will be sexually vulnerable and interested in bed with someone like women haters Papa

So you want to be worshiped for your mediocrity? Sounds like a you problem. Seek help for your insecurities.

What so funny to me is that you don’t even realize how these comments show how bad you are in bed.

Here goes the typical shaming response because your droopy body doesn't quite do it for a guy. Save it.

Keep telling on yourself.

Keep coping. Hope you find Mr. "Head over toes" lol.

I’m a different poster, but it’s easy for any women to spot.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, read this forum. Read this thread.

It’s a miracle anyone dates anyone when these are the people you could encounter.

Yea, men ugly inside and outside. This forum makes it really unattractive to me as a woman to go out and date. They hate “older women” eg essentially all women of their own age group are somehow “old hags”. Yakis

This is the first question I ask at date 1: what is your dating range? If I smell crap like that even closely, I’m out with speed of light

I'm 48, truly am looking for a relationship, and say 40-52, and don't mention regularly sleeping with 22-28yos between partners.

I can still smell it afar by how they react to my body, perform, compliment me, sex safety habits etc
It’s very easy to see when a man is head over toes for me and this is a huge sexual turn on for women.

No woman will be sexually vulnerable and interested in bed with someone like women haters Papa

So you want to be worshiped for your mediocrity? Sounds like a you problem. Seek help for your insecurities.

What so funny to me is that you don’t even realize how these comments show how bad you are in bed.

Here goes the typical shaming response because your droopy body doesn't quite do it for a guy. Save it.

Keep telling on yourself.

Keep coping. Hope you find Mr. "Head over toes" lol.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, read this forum. Read this thread.

It’s a miracle anyone dates anyone when these are the people you could encounter.

Yea, men ugly inside and outside. This forum makes it really unattractive to me as a woman to go out and date. They hate “older women” eg essentially all women of their own age group are somehow “old hags”. Yakis

This is the first question I ask at date 1: what is your dating range? If I smell crap like that even closely, I’m out with speed of light

I'm 48, truly am looking for a relationship, and say 40-52, and don't mention regularly sleeping with 22-28yos between partners.

I can still smell it afar by how they react to my body, perform, compliment me, sex safety habits etc
It’s very easy to see when a man is head over toes for me and this is a huge sexual turn on for women.

No woman will be sexually vulnerable and interested in bed with someone like women haters Papa

So you want to be worshiped for your mediocrity? Sounds like a you problem. Seek help for your insecurities.

What so funny to me is that you don’t even realize how these comments show how bad you are in bed.

Here goes the typical shaming response because your droopy body doesn't quite do it for a guy. Save it.

Keep telling on yourself.

Keep coping. Hope you find Mr. "Head over toes" lol.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder why so many engage with obvious trolls. This is a post designed for engagement. The women-hating trolls come out to poke middle aged women (the highest readership here), and then middle aged women keep the conversation going by defending against obvious troll stuff. Why? It just makes this a miserable place.

First time on DCUM?

No, the opposite, I am a long time user, like I joined when I was pregnant and that kid is in college. I’m constantly surprised that people, including you as your comment suggests, just accept the cesspool as a natural state of things.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, read this forum. Read this thread.

It’s a miracle anyone dates anyone when these are the people you could encounter.

Yea, men ugly inside and outside. This forum makes it really unattractive to me as a woman to go out and date. They hate “older women” eg essentially all women of their own age group are somehow “old hags”. Yakis

This is the first question I ask at date 1: what is your dating range? If I smell crap like that even closely, I’m out with speed of light

I'm 48, truly am looking for a relationship, and say 40-52, and don't mention regularly sleeping with 22-28yos between partners.

I can still smell it afar by how they react to my body, perform, compliment me, sex safety habits etc
It’s very easy to see when a man is head over toes for me and this is a huge sexual turn on for women.

No woman will be sexually vulnerable and interested in bed with someone like women haters Papa

So you want to be worshiped for your mediocrity? Sounds like a you problem. Seek help for your insecurities.

What so funny to me is that you don’t even realize how these comments show how bad you are in bed.

Here goes the typical shaming response because your droopy body doesn't quite do it for a guy. Save it.

Keep telling on yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, read this forum. Read this thread.

It’s a miracle anyone dates anyone when these are the people you could encounter.

Yea, men ugly inside and outside. This forum makes it really unattractive to me as a woman to go out and date. They hate “older women” eg essentially all women of their own age group are somehow “old hags”. Yakis

This is the first question I ask at date 1: what is your dating range? If I smell crap like that even closely, I’m out with speed of light

I'm 48, truly am looking for a relationship, and say 40-52, and don't mention regularly sleeping with 22-28yos between partners.

I can still smell it afar by how they react to my body, perform, compliment me, sex safety habits etc
It’s very easy to see when a man is head over toes for me and this is a huge sexual turn on for women.

No woman will be sexually vulnerable and interested in bed with someone like women haters Papa

So you want to be worshiped for your mediocrity? Sounds like a you problem. Seek help for your insecurities.

What so funny to me is that you don’t even realize how these comments show how bad you are in bed.

Here goes the typical shaming response because your droopy body doesn't quite do it for a guy. Save it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, read this forum. Read this thread.

It’s a miracle anyone dates anyone when these are the people you could encounter.

Yea, men ugly inside and outside. This forum makes it really unattractive to me as a woman to go out and date. They hate “older women” eg essentially all women of their own age group are somehow “old hags”. Yakis

This is the first question I ask at date 1: what is your dating range? If I smell crap like that even closely, I’m out with speed of light

I'm 48, truly am looking for a relationship, and say 40-52, and don't mention regularly sleeping with 22-28yos between partners.

I can still smell it afar by how they react to my body, perform, compliment me, sex safety habits etc
It’s very easy to see when a man is head over toes for me and this is a huge sexual turn on for women.

No woman will be sexually vulnerable and interested in bed with someone like women haters Papa

So you want to be worshiped for your mediocrity? Sounds like a you problem. Seek help for your insecurities.

What so funny to me is that you don’t even realize how these comments show how bad you are in bed.