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Anonymous wrote:I do think there is a perception that, once grown/married, a girl will typically remain closer to her family and a boy is more likely to be closer to his wife's family. I am not sure why that stereotype exists, but that is the perception. So I think some people prematurely grieve a future they think is less likely to exist if they have a boy.

There won't be enough men for these women to marry when they grow up. So no need to worry about grandkids in the future so many girl moms are envisioning. Just a daughter they hope will take care of them in old age.

Anonymous wrote:I do think there is a perception that, once grown/married, a girl will typically remain closer to her family and a boy is more likely to be closer to his wife's family. I am not sure why that stereotype exists, but that is the perception. So I think some people prematurely grieve a future they think is less likely to exist if they have a boy.

Anonymous wrote:Boys more likely to violent, commit crimes, end up in prison, be autistic or ADHD, lower executive function than girls, and more severe mental illnesses.

People can only afford one kid. 9 out of 10 moms would prefer it to be a girl. Moms of boys have little time for female-focused activities and self care. Moms of girls do all those things with their daughters. It’s a totally different child raising experience.

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Anonymous wrote:I wanted boys. I subconsciously beloved that boys were just better, easier, and more desirable.

I was stressed about raising a girl in this anti-woman world. But it has been amazing and I’m so lucky to have her.

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Anonymous wrote:Boys more likely to violent, commit crimes, end up in prison, be autistic or ADHD, lower executive function than girls, and more severe mental illnesses.

People can only afford one kid. 9 out of 10 moms would prefer it to be a girl. Moms of boys have little time for female-focused activities and self care. Moms of girls do all those things with their daughters. It’s a totally different child raising experience.

I never did female focused activities and self care with my mother. Do you even have kids?

We have two young boys. The boy moms all end up finding each other because it’s just simply insane. I don’t know one boy mom who isn’t frazzled.

Maybe it gets better when the boys are age 10+?

Anonymous wrote:Boys more likely to violent, commit crimes, end up in prison, be autistic or ADHD, lower executive function than girls, and more severe mental illnesses.

People can only afford one kid. 9 out of 10 moms would prefer it to be a girl. Moms of boys have little time for female-focused activities and self care. Moms of girls do all those things with their daughters. It’s a totally different child raising experience.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Boys more likely to violent, commit crimes, end up in prison, be autistic or ADHD, lower executive function than girls, and more severe mental illnesses.

People can only afford one kid. 9 out of 10 moms would prefer it to be a girl. Moms of boys have little time for female-focused activities and self care. Moms of girls do all those things with their daughters. It’s a totally different child raising experience.

I never did female focused activities and self care with my mother. Do you even have kids?

We have two young boys. The boy moms all end up finding each other because it’s just simply insane. I don’t know one boy mom who isn’t frazzled.

Maybe it gets better when the boys are age 10+?

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Anonymous wrote:Boys more likely to violent, commit crimes, end up in prison, be autistic or ADHD, lower executive function than girls, and more severe mental illnesses.

People can only afford one kid. 9 out of 10 moms would prefer it to be a girl. Moms of boys have little time for female-focused activities and self care. Moms of girls do all those things with their daughters. It’s a totally different child raising experience.

I never did female focused activities and self care with my mother. Do you even have kids?

Anonymous wrote:https://www.vox.com/future-perfect/416809/sexism-girl-preference-sex-ratios-discrimination-ivf

Interesting piece. Have seen this pop up now and then.

Speaking to younger families/couples anecdotally I find this to be true also.

Thoughts?

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Anonymous wrote:I think the perception is that girls are easier to manage behaviorally. Im not saying that it’s true, but that is what people think.

It’s is hard to broad brush a whole gender but this is the answer. People think girls will be calmer and easier. Depending on the family and cultural dynamics, mothers likely think girls will eventually help them with female dominated labor. Helping with cooking and cleaning, eventually elder care for grandparents. My close friend is going through this now. Her grandfather is living with her parents and needs a lot of help. She stops by every weekend to give her mother a break, her two brothers only really come around for holidays. In my own family it is the women that organize and cook every single holiday meal.

I know that this isn’t the case for every family, but I think this dynamic is common.

I don't know anyone my age (30s) who is interested in having girls so that they can do more labor or elder care? i personally wanted girls because I'm girly. I guess I dreamed of doing little girl hair, playing dolls again, and raising strong women. I didn't know anything about boys. I have 2 DD, 1 DS. I'm raising all 3 to know how to decorate for holidays and cook holiday meals. I don't believe in women doing more chores. My DH does 50% of the chores around here and is our main cook, so I don' think my kids will think that men shouldn't do work.

Anonymous wrote:Boys more likely to violent, commit crimes, end up in prison, be autistic or ADHD, lower executive function than girls, and more severe mental illnesses.

People can only afford one kid. 9 out of 10 moms would prefer it to be a girl. Moms of boys have little time for female-focused activities and self care. Moms of girls do all those things with their daughters. It’s a totally different child raising experience.

Anonymous wrote:Most women want a daughter unless they are part of a subculture or ethnicity that views males as superior.

Anonymous wrote:I wanted boys. I subconsciously beloved that boys were just better, easier, and more desirable.