Anonymous wrote:OP, sit down your wife look her straight in the eye and say: "Don't ever again try to tell me I can't have my own daughter stay in my own house. Just who the hell do you think you are?". Then get up and walk out. This isn't a discussion. This isn't a debate.

Bingo!

This is so sad. They happened to my son. He wanted to stay with his dad for the summer, but the new wife said no - she said “it’s either him or me”. Mind you, he was a good kid. Just wanted more time with dad - he has me and his sisters at home.
Dad chose new wife. Son hasn’t spoken to his dad for 6 years since then.

Anonymous wrote:I have a daughter who’ll be 18 on the 26th. She wants to spend the summer here before college. She’s responsible, respectful, and has never had any issues. My wife doesn’t want her staying but won’t give a reason. My daughter had huge birthday plans, isn’t unhappy now, very hurt, and has been crying a lot.

What’s the best way to handle this?

Tell evil Stepmother to go pound sand.

This is divorce worthy.

Of course you let your daughter stay. Unless she is a drug addict or criminal.

Anonymous wrote:My husbands own biological mother did not want us to live with them for two weeks in our 20s while our newly purchased fixer upper was being re-piped and re-wired. His father was apologetic but said “your mother just won’t be happy if you’re here that long.” I guess she would have been okay hosting just her son but still.

So that's... not like this at all

OP, sit down your wife look her straight in the eye and say: "Don't ever again try to tell me I can't have my own daughter stay in my own house. Just who the hell do you think you are?". Then get up and walk out. This isn't a discussion. This isn't a debate.

Anonymous wrote:I have a daughter who’ll be 18 on the 26th. She wants to spend the summer here before college. She’s responsible, respectful, and has never had any issues. My wife doesn’t want her staying but won’t give a reason. My daughter had huge birthday plans, isn’t unhappy now, very hurt, and has been crying a lot.

What’s the best way to handle this?

First you should understand that this is how the wife will treat your family after you die, and plan accordingly. Don’t leave everything to the wife thinking that she’ll “do the right thing”.

OP the fact that your daughter wants to stay with you the summer before college is HUGE! It either means she has a close relationship with you OR it means that she thinks there are no rules at your house and she can do what she wants (and so perhaps stepmom your new wife doesn't want that.). You need to find out exactly why your new wife doesn't want this and why do you think your daughter does. Have a conversation. She's about to turn 18. You shouldn't say no to her unless she is going to be disrespectful to the rules of your house, do drugs, etc.

Anonymous wrote:Remarkable consensus for a DCUM discussion!..

One poster said the answer might be different if the house belongs to new wife. I'd still pick my daughter.

And that’s ok - just go rent something to live with your daughter in the summer

Anonymous wrote:Both the original conflict for op and now this whole thread are purely a result of the fact that op is a bad communicator.

Very much so. OP is such a loser.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she your wife’s biological daughter?

No, she’s not.

How is this even a question? Kids come first.

If my new spouse acted like this with my kids, I’d tell them to pack their bags and GTFO.

100%. Divorce the evil stepmother and her hope you're at it, make sure that your will is ironclad in providing for your daughter in case you die. Seriously. Your teenage daughter is way more of a priority than a new wife.

Remarkable consensus for a DCUM discussion!..

One poster said the answer might be different if the house belongs to new wife. I'd still pick my daughter.

Shes an adult on the 26th so sje gets to decide.

Both the original conflict for op and now this whole thread are purely a result of the fact that op is a bad communicator.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she your wife’s biological daughter?

No, she’s not.

and there you have the problem! you could have been honest in your OP post.