Anonymous wrote:You should aim for at least 2 carats of a real diamond; anything larger, unless you are a very obese person, looks odd or the same.

No one's getting close enough to sniff your ring finger to detect a fake

there's a certain 1st lady where I'm continually amazed that no one knows she has a 10 carat fake D "flawless" diamond.

Of course she does. What in the heck blazing last 10 years would lead anyone to believe that ring is real.

It never was. They paid for the publicity to declare it a 1m diamond ... it was a mutual deal to lie to the media

It's a CZ it always was, and there's only one. No one's paying for a safe deposit box

Smoke and mirrors

The phrase "upgrading your engagement ring" is a euphemism for how much how much both of you you as a couple care about all your friends and family continually thinking/knowing you are wealthier than they are

A ring is a bauble. It's an asset, but not much of one. You can't live in it. You can't eat it. You can't use it to pay for anything.

I actually stopped seeing my hairdresser years ago when she was talking about how her husband's master plan was to convert all her hairdresser money into gold and silver and ammunition. For years. They have a whole room in their small house for this hoard.

I was like OK maybe I don't want to see how this one ends, and maybe we just part as friends.

Now I just clip my hair up like all the other teen Moms or whoever else just doesn't give an acorn anymore

You should aim for at least 2 carats of a real diamond; anything larger, unless you are a very obese person, looks odd or the same.

You should totally do what you want and will make you happy but you shouldn’t do it because you think other wives are judging you. That’s not a way to live. Also, maybe people just about ring size in places like NYC, but in DC people are either not judging at all (because they are too preoccupied with their own lives), or are judging on —
Where you work
Where you got your degree
Where your kids go to school
Maybe what ECs your kids do

It’s the old saw about different cities judgementalism — in la, it’s what do you drive; in NY, it’s where do you live; and in DC, it’s where do you work. In some southern/midwestern cities, it’s where do you worship or who are your parents. I don’t know what it is in Chicago — I’d like to think it’s where are you eating.

I had an engagement ring that I once wanted to sell because we were so hard up for money. I was told it was worth no more than $400 ("less expensive to make this ring myself")

My mom basically bought my engagement ring for my boyfriend to give to me with all her "jewelry connections" because she kept telling all the guys on 47th street that her husband was one of them so she should get the discount.

She had zero idea what she was doing and had no idea that she basically passed on to me a ring that everyone laughed at when they looked at it.

That was fun to figure out.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gross.

Also, 1.5 carats is big.

Also, get a job.

Also, gross.

Sounds like an older, working mom who got engaged to the last man possible with .5 carat engagement ring has entered the chat.

Signed,
Happy stay at home wife who married at 21, never worked outside the house, and has 2 vacation homes and 3 adult children now.

OMG. You do not sound like a very nice person. You sound like a grown up mean girl.

Yes I upgraded and had my engagement diamond made into a solitaire necklace.

I quit wearing mine.

Yeah, it's tacky, but lots of people do tacky things. Maybe your enjoyment of a larger lab diamond would outweigh your self consciousness about tackiness?

Anonymous wrote:

Do what makes you happy, OP. Ignore the haters - they swarm around anyone doing anything that’s not practical or thrifty.

That's true. One would expect DCUM posters to be more materialistic and less sentimental, not practical, ethical, thrifty or sentimental.

No but I don’t like large rings. It’s over the top to me. But do it if you want it.

Obviously, if you want a ring, buy a ring but tgere is no such thing as upgrading a special ring. If he goes out, buys a ring and proposes again because he lives you and can buy something you would love, that's another thing.

That being said, life is short, do what makes you happy. Its better to buy a prettier or more expensive ring compared to resenting the old one every time you look at it. Its also easier than divorcing and changing for a better looking or a higher net worth wife or husband. Love the person you married, ring is just a piece of metal and stone.

Here is my analogy.

I am very sentimental about the jewelry my kids made me when they were little, the macaroni necklace, the friendship bracelet, but I don't wear them everyday.

I'm also sentimental about the wee little diamond he proposed with and I'll never get rid of it, but I don't feel like I have to wear it everyday or never buy a prettier, better ring.

It's just a ring.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I upgraded, which is normal in my circles. DH is the one who brought it up and pushed me to do it. I love the ring!

Do what makes you happy, OP. Ignore the haters - they swarm around anyone doing anything that’s not practical or thrifty.

You must have some shallow circles

See what I mean?

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I upgraded, which is normal in my circles. DH is the one who brought it up and pushed me to do it. I love the ring!

Do what makes you happy, OP. Ignore the haters - they swarm around anyone doing anything that’s not practical or thrifty.

You must have some shallow circles