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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe TMZ is covering this… Sounds like court documents say he stopped paying the mortgage, stopped private school payments and did not pay child support in the last few months.

https://t.co/1mS3cPhIDS

For better or for worse, TMZ is covering politics now.

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Anonymous wrote:I believe his wife was a dentist. The best thing you can do is get out as fast as you can after you file if you're afraid for your life. File a restraining order and take the kids. Men are predators who will kill you while pregnant or going through a divorce. Virginia judges are not pro-women.

It’s against the law to leave with your kids.

And look what happened! I'm not saying he can't see the kids but he was abusive towards the mom and killed her. Those kids saw abuse in the home. They are now a witness to extreme violence. Sad.

Sadly, abusing your wife has no impact on custody in Fairfax County until it becomes extreme violence.

Abuse, by definition, means extreme violence. So I'm not sure what you're trying to say.

Emotional abuse doesn’t count. Sexual coercion and marital rape doesn’t count. Getting throw against a wall and spit on doesn’t count. It is not until dad shoots mom, or MAYBE kicks her ass in front of the kids and there is a police report and a medical report that a Fairfax County judge will entertain a custodial split that favors mom.

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Anonymous wrote:I believe his wife was a dentist. The best thing you can do is get out as fast as you can after you file if you're afraid for your life. File a restraining order and take the kids. Men are predators who will kill you while pregnant or going through a divorce. Virginia judges are not pro-women.

It’s against the law to leave with your kids.

And look what happened! I'm not saying he can't see the kids but he was abusive towards the mom and killed her. Those kids saw abuse in the home. They are now a witness to extreme violence. Sad.

Sadly, abusing your wife has no impact on custody in Fairfax County until it becomes extreme violence.

Abuse, by definition, means extreme violence. So I'm not sure what you're trying to say.

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Anonymous wrote:I believe his wife was a dentist. The best thing you can do is get out as fast as you can after you file if you're afraid for your life. File a restraining order and take the kids. Men are predators who will kill you while pregnant or going through a divorce. Virginia judges are not pro-women.

It’s against the law to leave with your kids.

And look what happened! I'm not saying he can't see the kids but he was abusive towards the mom and killed her. Those kids saw abuse in the home. They are now a witness to extreme violence. Sad.

Sadly, abusing your wife has no impact on custody in Fairfax County until it becomes extreme violence.

Abuse, by definition, means extreme violence. So I'm not sure what you're trying to say.

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Anonymous wrote:I believe his wife was a dentist. The best thing you can do is get out as fast as you can after you file if you're afraid for your life. File a restraining order and take the kids. Men are predators who will kill you while pregnant or going through a divorce. Virginia judges are not pro-women.

It’s against the law to leave with your kids.

And look what happened! I'm not saying he can't see the kids but he was abusive towards the mom and killed her. Those kids saw abuse in the home. They are now a witness to extreme violence. Sad.

Sadly, abusing your wife has no impact on custody in Fairfax County until it becomes extreme violence.

Abuse, by definition, means extreme violence. So I'm not sure what you're trying to say.

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Anonymous wrote:It is reported they were in the middle of a messy divorce. So awful.

Ugh. Another layer of awful.

In Virginia, you must be separated for a year in order to get divorced and you can live in the same house while being separated (if you move you it can be seen by the court as abandoning your claim to the house, happened to my cousin). Reports are that the couple had started this process so I am not surprised they were both still living in the house.

Fairfax made an accusation against his wife earlier this year that she had physically assaulted him. Apparently she had cameras in the house and after reviewing the footage the police determined the assault claim wasn't valid and there was a scheduled upcoming court date re this incident which could be what triggered the current awful events.

There were 2 teen sons in the house. This is absolutely awful.

I hope this is a wake up call to change the law re: leaving the home. It forces women into staying in a potentially very dangerous situation.

That and the 1 year separation. What is the purpose??
Tragic.

Maryland recently shortened their one year separation requirement to six months if there are no children in the marriage. I think the rationale is that the state has an interest in wanting couples to be sure they need to get a divorce before they do? Not supporting this.

The part they need to change is about "home abandonment." Fine, make people wait, but don't penalize their assets for leaving to do so.

Can someone point me to the Virginia law(s) that make it financially risky to move out of the house before the divorce is finalized? What an insane game of gotcha for a couple in a contentious divorce. I hate everything about this story.

I don’t know the law but a friend of mine moved out of the marital home while her ex was away on a business trip and he claimed she had abandoned the home (as in abandoned her financial claim to the home) and the judge agreed, so the ex got the house and didn’t have to buy her out. This was 10 years ago in NOVA.

Seeing Virginia lawmakers posting thoughts and prayers-style messages together with a domestic violence hotline makes my blood boil. Do something meaningful. Pass legislation that facilitates a woman’s safe exit from a bad marriage without requiring her to forfeit her assets, for starters.

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Anonymous wrote:I believe his wife was a dentist. The best thing you can do is get out as fast as you can after you file if you're afraid for your life. File a restraining order and take the kids. Men are predators who will kill you while pregnant or going through a divorce. Virginia judges are not pro-women.

It’s against the law to leave with your kids.

And look what happened! I'm not saying he can't see the kids but he was abusive towards the mom and killed her. Those kids saw abuse in the home. They are now a witness to extreme violence. Sad.

Sadly, abusing your wife has no impact on custody in Fairfax County until it becomes extreme violence.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe TMZ is covering this… Sounds like court documents say he stopped paying the mortgage, stopped private school payments and did not pay child support in the last few months.

https://t.co/1mS3cPhIDS

And if he was convicted of something like filing a false police report, there goes his bar license and his ability to pay for anything going forward (including a roof over his own head.)

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe TMZ is covering this… Sounds like court documents say he stopped paying the mortgage, stopped private school payments and did not pay child support in the last few months.

https://t.co/1mS3cPhIDS

And if he was convicted of something like filing a false police report, there goes his bar license and his ability to pay for anything going forward (including a roof over his own head.)

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe TMZ is covering this… Sounds like court documents say he stopped paying the mortgage, stopped private school payments and did not pay child support in the last few months.

https://t.co/1mS3cPhIDS

This poor woman was probably so stressed out the last few months of her life.

Exactly. She had to take care of everything and deal with him too.

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe TMZ is covering this… Sounds like court documents say he stopped paying the mortgage, stopped private school payments and did not pay child support in the last few months.

https://t.co/1mS3cPhIDS

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe TMZ is covering this… Sounds like court documents say he stopped paying the mortgage, stopped private school payments and did not pay child support in the last few months.

https://t.co/1mS3cPhIDS

This poor woman was probably so stressed out the last few months of her life.

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe TMZ is covering this… Sounds like court documents say he stopped paying the mortgage, stopped private school payments and did not pay child support in the last few months.

https://t.co/1mS3cPhIDS

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Anonymous wrote:I believe his wife was a dentist. The best thing you can do is get out as fast as you can after you file if you're afraid for your life. File a restraining order and take the kids. Men are predators who will kill you while pregnant or going through a divorce. Virginia judges are not pro-women.

It’s against the law to leave with your kids.

And look what happened! I'm not saying he can't see the kids but he was abusive towards the mom and killed her. Those kids saw abuse in the home. They are now a witness to extreme violence. Sad.

Sadly, abusing your wife has no impact on custody in Fairfax County until it becomes extreme violence.

This is true because I'm the above poster. Married to a doctor that abused me. It was hell and I was afraid he would kill me. I now live in a gated community and I have a sophisticated alarm system.

I hope Virginia laws can be changed.

I'm sorry that happened to you. I'm glad you're safe now.