Anonymous
Post 03/27/2026 15:24     Subject: Re:Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong
Anonymous wrote:Only on DCUM will you find people insisting it’s perfectly fine for a married man to go on vacation with his ex-wife, while married to a younger wife (the same man who sucks and was abusive as husband). That’s not normal, and it’s not appropriate. And the argument about “prioritizing the kids” misses the point—his 8-year-old is still a young, dependent child, not a fully grown adult like his other kids. Meanwhile, OP isn’t some secondary figure; she’s his wife, and their son is also his minor child. They’re not a “second family”—they’re his immediate family now. If he’s not getting back with his ex-wife, then there’s no reason for them to be vacationing together.


No one is saying anything about this situation is fine. The situation began when a 40 year old divorced dad of teenagers started sleeping with a high school student and then married her after she was pregnant a few months later. With that beginning nothing about all of the relationships around that situation were ever likely to be fine. This summer’s vacation plans are likely a very minor issue compared to the underlying issues
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2026 15:23     Subject: Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong
OP, are you sure you are legally married to him?
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2026 15:22     Subject: Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How did you meet and get pregnant when you were 18 and he was 40? Was he your high school teacher?

No, we met at a nightclub, right around graduation.


No, no, the art museum.


+1 How did you get into a nigh club at 17? And what was a married father of three teenagers doing in a night club?
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2026 15:21     Subject: Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong
Old guy stranger
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2026 15:21     Subject: Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How did you meet and get pregnant when you were 18 and he was 40? Was he your high school teacher?

No, we met at a nightclub, right around graduation.


So at 18 years old you met a 40 year old in a nightclub and soon after you got pregnant and married, and now this vacation thing is the first red flag you’re seeing?

Woo hooo!

Getting pregnant at graduation night club party with a stranger!!

And here we are on DCUM. Such a small world
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2026 15:18     Subject: Re:Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong
Anonymous wrote:Only on DCUM will you find people insisting it’s perfectly fine for a married man to go on vacation with his ex-wife, while married to a younger wife (the same man who sucks and was abusive as husband). That’s not normal, and it’s not appropriate. And the argument about “prioritizing the kids” misses the point—his 8-year-old is still a young, dependent child, not a fully grown adult like his other kids. Meanwhile, OP isn’t some secondary figure; she’s his wife, and their son is also his minor child. They’re not a “second family”—they’re his immediate family now. If he’s not getting back with his ex-wife, then there’s no reason for them to be vacationing together.

The thrill of banging a teenage girl has long worn off and he’s seeking an escape.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2026 15:16     Subject: Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How did you meet and get pregnant when you were 18 and he was 40? Was he your high school teacher?

No, we met at a nightclub, right around graduation.


No, no, the art museum.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2026 15:16     Subject: Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong
Anonymous wrote:I'm 27 years old with an 8 year old son. My husband is 49 and wants to take a vacation in July with his ex-wife and her three kids (25, 23, 21). He’s really close to them and says it’s normal and healthy to do things with his ex and her family. However, he doesn’t want to plan a vacation for my son and me. Instead, he wants my son to spend the summer at home while he goes off with them.
My son is really upset that he won’t be able to go on a vacation, and my husband made him cry. My husband doesn’t seem to care at all that we’re both hurt and upset. It feels like he’s putting his ex’s family above ours.

I don’t know what to do. It seems like he doesn’t care about me or my son at all. It’s so frustrating. How do you even handle something like this?


Lol.

Such bad troll math…
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2026 15:15     Subject: Re:Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong
Anonymous wrote:My husband is my sons biological father, and the three kids are also my husbands kids. I thought it was clear, sorry. OP


You got pregnant at age 18 with a 39 yo divorced dude?

Ok, whatever you say.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2026 15:12     Subject: Re:Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong
Only on DCUM will you find people insisting it’s perfectly fine for a married man to go on vacation with his ex-wife, while married to a younger wife (the same man who sucks and was abusive as husband). That’s not normal, and it’s not appropriate. And the argument about “prioritizing the kids” misses the point—his 8-year-old is still a young, dependent child, not a fully grown adult like his other kids. Meanwhile, OP isn’t some secondary figure; she’s his wife, and their son is also his minor child. They’re not a “second family”—they’re his immediate family now. If he’s not getting back with his ex-wife, then there’s no reason for them to be vacationing together.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2026 15:10     Subject: Re:Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When did you get pregnant and meet?


We met a weeks before my high school graduation. We dated for a few months, and then I got pregnant, and then we got married.

You were looking for a sugar daddy and got him. Too bad it’s not all that it’s cracked up to be. Use this as a lesson to make better life choices.


He should have made better life choices too. I get that there are 40 year old men who think it would be fun to sleep with a teenager, but the long term consequence of having to continue to make conversations with that type of teenage mom is never going to be appealing. Of course he doesn’t want teen mom or her kid on his vacation, he’s getting away from them with adults he loves for a week.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2026 14:59     Subject: Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What's the problem? It's not like he's going to sleep with his ex-wife


Who knows? She probably isn't older than her ExH, maybe a couple of years younger. She could be anywhere from 45 - 48. She could have transformed her life and looks great now. And her ex regrets being an idiot.

And really, what woman would say great, let's go on vacation as a family unit and leave the real wife and other child at home? That is weird too. Right or wrong, I say ExW wants them to be a unit again. And not to blame her. Just saying.


Idk, maybe one whose husband knocked up a high school senior two years older than your own daughter? The ex may not give a fight about being some kind of unit but hell no does she want to be around teen mom (AP?) And her kid.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2026 14:54     Subject: Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong
Anonymous wrote:What's the problem? It's not like he's going to sleep with his ex-wife


Who knows? She probably isn't older than her ExH, maybe a couple of years younger. She could be anywhere from 45 - 48. She could have transformed her life and looks great now. And her ex regrets being an idiot.

And really, what woman would say great, let's go on vacation as a family unit and leave the real wife and other child at home? That is weird too. Right or wrong, I say ExW wants them to be a unit again. And not to blame her. Just saying.
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2026 14:54     Subject: Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong
Anonymous wrote:Dont have kids with pedophiles. This vacation is the least of your worries in life.

Why would the man’s first set of kids want to associate with their pedo dad?
Anonymous
Post 03/27/2026 14:52     Subject: Re:Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When did you get pregnant and meet?


We met a weeks before my high school graduation. We dated for a few months, and then I got pregnant, and then we got married.

You were looking for a sugar daddy and got him. Too bad it’s not all that it’s cracked up to be. Use this as a lesson to make better life choices.