Anonymous
03/14/2026 21:44
Subject: Re:In a marriage, how many years do you expect to be sexually active?
Anonymous wrote:"My spouse and I are in our fifties. I finally got to where I just couldn't deal with sex no matter how much I loved him. I gave him the option of seeking sex elsewhere. He has. He's happy and so am I. We think this will work for us. We both know it's possible it could end the marriage. We both hope it won't. If it does, it does."
I'm curious about what this PP experienced that made her feel she couldn't deal with sex any longer despite still being in love with her DH. Are we talking physical or medical problems or something else? It must be really severe if it was bad enough that you'd give a hall pass.
DP but often I feel the same as that PP. It’s because sex is just not enjoyable most of the time for me, because of menopause changes.
Anonymous
03/14/2026 21:13
Subject: In a marriage, how many years do you expect to be sexually active?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:70. Together 50 years. Still regularly sexually active. 6x month? Don't track it. No ed drugs ever. No hrt ever. More lube than pre menopause.
Hope it continues. Have no expectations for anything at this age. Just gratitude for what I have.
Really unbelievable.
This is not the norm.
Glad this is somebody's story.
No HRT? Yeah right.
May not be the norm, but as we celebrate our 46th year anniversary next month, ours is verbatim as op.
Anonymous
03/14/2026 19:22
Subject: In a marriage, how many years do you expect to be sexually active?
Anonymous wrote:I’m 50, married 26 years. He’s the absolute best man in every way but if he said he was done (or if I felt I could say I’m done) I would be SO RELIEVED. I’ve heard this can change with HRT so maybe I’ll feel differently someday. We’re only 3-4 times/month. But right now I’d be good with never. oh The thought of still doing it in my 60s in inconceivable.
You should tell that husband of yours that
Anonymous
03/14/2026 19:11
Subject: Re:In a marriage, how many years do you expect to be sexually active?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:"My spouse and I are in our fifties. I finally got to where I just couldn't deal with sex no matter how much I loved him. I gave him the option of seeking sex elsewhere. He has. He's happy and so am I. We think this will work for us. We both know it's possible it could end the marriage. We both hope it won't. If it does, it does."
I'm curious about what this PP experienced that made her feel she couldn't deal with sex any longer despite still being in love with her DH. Are we talking physical or medical problems or something else? It must be really severe if it was bad enough that you'd give a hall pass.
It was a combo of a sexual abuse history and menopause that totally killed whatever sex drive I had to begin with.
Why would he marry you knowing you had an SA history? I don’t understand this at all.
Hi there. 40% of women and 25% of men experience SA or assault in their lives. I sincerely hope you and the people you love never have to experience it. My husband has loved me very well over the last three decades. And I've loved him well too. We're lucky to have each other. I hope you have the same. Peace to you.
Anonymous
03/14/2026 13:51
Subject: In a marriage, how many years do you expect to be sexually active?
Till the end
The frequency will change but I don't see us stopping entirely
The frequency will change but I don't see us stopping entirely
Anonymous
03/14/2026 13:31
Subject: In a marriage, how many years do you expect to be sexually active?
We are both 64 (married 43 years) and have sex 3-4 times a week.
Usually oral but piv about once a week.
Usually oral but piv about once a week.
Anonymous
03/14/2026 11:05
Subject: In a marriage, how many years do you expect to be sexually active?
I wish I knew what I know and just enjoy while you can, it's like youth!
If you thought 3x,2x or 1x per week is bad 😞; there is monthly, yearly and then zero!
Enjoy because your desire is there for the person you want to be with, fleeting moments!
Not a lifetime. Of course there is the 1 percent outliner where they get to do it all the time, days and nights! They get so sick 🤢 and tired 😩 too much of the good. stuff.
If you thought 3x,2x or 1x per week is bad 😞; there is monthly, yearly and then zero!
Enjoy because your desire is there for the person you want to be with, fleeting moments!
Not a lifetime. Of course there is the 1 percent outliner where they get to do it all the time, days and nights! They get so sick 🤢 and tired 😩 too much of the good. stuff.
Anonymous
03/14/2026 11:00
Subject: In a marriage, how many years do you expect to be sexually active?
Anonymous wrote:Why would sex be any different than any other physical activity? No one should expect to do it two times a year and have it be great - practice is important and I think that is run for both partners.
Are you actually asking this? Do you not actually understand how arousal works?
Go get a sex doll, babe. If you are just looking for a hole to put your dick in, that is going to work better than a human woman with a human body that you don't understand and will never try to understand. Save everyone the trouble. Maybe save up to by a AI sex robot girlfriend. Best of luck to you. Stay away from human women please.