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Anonymous wrote:Talk to your brother. He's a typical clueless newlywed, doesn't know about the breastfeeding, and probably doesn't care. There are many like him!

Kids make weddings so joyful and spontaneous, and I wanted all my baby relatives at my wedding! But I grudgingly accept that others might not share this love of multi-generational gatherings. It's his call, in the end.

Ok. Thanks for acknowledging that crying babies in the wedding aren't universal signs of joy.

PP you replied to. I have never attended a wedding where a baby cried. And I have attended MANY weddings, ALL of which were kid-centric.

Blows your little mind, doesn't it?

Lucky you. Our wedding video is filled with my cousin’s crying baby because neither she or her DH woukd simply get up and take the baby out.

Mine does to as mom and dad were helping or in the wedding. That baby is now an adult and a sweetheart. We laugh over it.

Weddings are for family and friends. I would not go.

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Anonymous wrote:Families in the 50s and 60s:
Brother Bob is getting married! We just got invited!

Oh great. I look forward to getting dressed up for once. Who will we get to sit for the kids?

Families now apparently:
Brother Bob is getting narried. We are invited but not the kids.

Those narcissistic #@#& are hating on us! Babies are part of the family and that's that. I am going to call and give him and his slutty self centered bride a piece of my mind! It's Huey or the highway.

In the 50s and 60s weddings were nothing like the narcissistic spectacles they are these days …

It's the clash of the narcissists. The selfish brother not inviting his self centered sister's kids. Kids at parties and weddings just sit there on a phone or iPad anyway. The parents are just too cheap to pay for sitters.

Anonymous wrote:Families in the 50s and 60s:
Brother Bob is getting married! We just got invited!

Oh great. I look forward to getting dressed up for once. Who will we get to sit for the kids?

Families now apparently:
Brother Bob is getting narried. We are invited but not the kids.

Those narcissistic #@#& are hating on us! Babies are part of the family and that's that. I am going to call and give him and his slutty self centered bride a piece of my mind! It's Huey or the highway.

In the 50s and 60s weddings were nothing like the narcissistic spectacles they are these days …

It’s really crappy but I would go to the courthouse piece because it is more energy in the long run to create and maintain a rift than just go. Dislike isn’t really a reason to create drama in my opinion.

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Anonymous wrote:Talk to your brother. He's a typical clueless newlywed, doesn't know about the breastfeeding, and probably doesn't care. There are many like him!

Kids make weddings so joyful and spontaneous, and I wanted all my baby relatives at my wedding! But I grudgingly accept that others might not share this love of multi-generational gatherings. It's his call, in the end.

Ok. Thanks for acknowledging that crying babies in the wedding aren't universal signs of joy.

PP you replied to. I have never attended a wedding where a baby cried. And I have attended MANY weddings, ALL of which were kid-centric.

Blows your little mind, doesn't it?

Lucky you. Our wedding video is filled with my cousin’s crying baby because neither she or her DH woukd simply get up and take the baby out.

Parents these days, as you can tell in threads like these, do not care at all about others around them. They are so blindly focused on themselves and their kids that they give no thought to the fact that others may want to hear the sermon, vows, or ceremony. It's new age narcissistic parenting.

NP. “These days,” nothing. Come off it. This happened at my oldest cousin’s wedding in the early 1980s. Her sister/sister’s husband didn’t take out their rowdy toddler who *knocked over a floral display near the altar.* Just stop. Entitled, lazy parents have been around since the dawn of time, and always will be around. It’s not about age or generation, it’s about entitled, selfish people being a constant in humanity.

Nope. I see it constantly around me. Parents won't take their kids out when it's appropriate. Their guilt around not spending much time with their kids during the week is not the marrying couple's problem when now they want to get their quality time at someone else's black tie evening party.

Wow, at least they “feel guilt.” All the Boomer parents who sent their kids outside all day and literally had to have PSAs of celebrities chastising “It’s 10 p.m., do you know where your kids are” certainly felt no guilt. They were too busy drinking, smoking and beating kids with belts as “discipline” to ever feel something as inconvenient as guilt.

So the pendulum has swung too far the other direction? That's not an improvement.

Being too permissive is, indeed, an improvement over literal beatings and neglect. If you say otherwise, you’re a bag of dirt.

The mental health of kids these days begs to differ. The kids aren't ok.

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Anonymous wrote:Talk to your brother. He's a typical clueless newlywed, doesn't know about the breastfeeding, and probably doesn't care. There are many like him!

Kids make weddings so joyful and spontaneous, and I wanted all my baby relatives at my wedding! But I grudgingly accept that others might not share this love of multi-generational gatherings. It's his call, in the end.

Ok. Thanks for acknowledging that crying babies in the wedding aren't universal signs of joy.

PP you replied to. I have never attended a wedding where a baby cried. And I have attended MANY weddings, ALL of which were kid-centric.

Blows your little mind, doesn't it?

Lucky you. Our wedding video is filled with my cousin’s crying baby because neither she or her DH woukd simply get up and take the baby out.

Parents these days, as you can tell in threads like these, do not care at all about others around them. They are so blindly focused on themselves and their kids that they give no thought to the fact that others may want to hear the sermon, vows, or ceremony. It's new age narcissistic parenting.

NP. “These days,” nothing. Come off it. This happened at my oldest cousin’s wedding in the early 1980s. Her sister/sister’s husband didn’t take out their rowdy toddler who *knocked over a floral display near the altar.* Just stop. Entitled, lazy parents have been around since the dawn of time, and always will be around. It’s not about age or generation, it’s about entitled, selfish people being a constant in humanity.

Nope. I see it constantly around me. Parents won't take their kids out when it's appropriate. Their guilt around not spending much time with their kids during the week is not the marrying couple's problem when now they want to get their quality time at someone else's black tie evening party.

Wow, at least they “feel guilt.” All the Boomer parents who sent their kids outside all day and literally had to have PSAs of celebrities chastising “It’s 10 p.m., do you know where your kids are” certainly felt no guilt. They were too busy drinking, smoking and beating kids with belts as “discipline” to ever feel something as inconvenient as guilt.

So the pendulum has swung too far the other direction? That's not an improvement.

Being too permissive is, indeed, an improvement over literal beatings and neglect. If you say otherwise, you’re a bag of dirt.

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Anonymous wrote:Talk to your brother. He's a typical clueless newlywed, doesn't know about the breastfeeding, and probably doesn't care. There are many like him!

Kids make weddings so joyful and spontaneous, and I wanted all my baby relatives at my wedding! But I grudgingly accept that others might not share this love of multi-generational gatherings. It's his call, in the end.

Ok. Thanks for acknowledging that crying babies in the wedding aren't universal signs of joy.

PP you replied to. I have never attended a wedding where a baby cried. And I have attended MANY weddings, ALL of which were kid-centric.

Blows your little mind, doesn't it?

Lucky you. Our wedding video is filled with my cousin’s crying baby because neither she or her DH woukd simply get up and take the baby out.

Parents these days, as you can tell in threads like these, do not care at all about others around them. They are so blindly focused on themselves and their kids that they give no thought to the fact that others may want to hear the sermon, vows, or ceremony. It's new age narcissistic parenting.

NP. “These days,” nothing. Come off it. This happened at my oldest cousin’s wedding in the early 1980s. Her sister/sister’s husband didn’t take out their rowdy toddler who *knocked over a floral display near the altar.* Just stop. Entitled, lazy parents have been around since the dawn of time, and always will be around. It’s not about age or generation, it’s about entitled, selfish people being a constant in humanity.

Nope. I see it constantly around me. Parents won't take their kids out when it's appropriate. Their guilt around not spending much time with their kids during the week is not the marrying couple's problem when now they want to get their quality time at someone else's black tie evening party.

Wow, at least they “feel guilt.” All the Boomer parents who sent their kids outside all day and literally had to have PSAs of celebrities chastising “It’s 10 p.m., do you know where your kids are” certainly felt no guilt. They were too busy drinking, smoking and beating kids with belts as “discipline” to ever feel something as inconvenient as guilt.

So the pendulum has swung too far the other direction? That's not an improvement.

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Anonymous wrote:Talk to your brother. He's a typical clueless newlywed, doesn't know about the breastfeeding, and probably doesn't care. There are many like him!

Kids make weddings so joyful and spontaneous, and I wanted all my baby relatives at my wedding! But I grudgingly accept that others might not share this love of multi-generational gatherings. It's his call, in the end.

Ok. Thanks for acknowledging that crying babies in the wedding aren't universal signs of joy.

PP you replied to. I have never attended a wedding where a baby cried. And I have attended MANY weddings, ALL of which were kid-centric.

Blows your little mind, doesn't it?

Lucky you. Our wedding video is filled with my cousin’s crying baby because neither she or her DH woukd simply get up and take the baby out.

Parents these days, as you can tell in threads like these, do not care at all about others around them. They are so blindly focused on themselves and their kids that they give no thought to the fact that others may want to hear the sermon, vows, or ceremony. It's new age narcissistic parenting.

NP. “These days,” nothing. Come off it. This happened at my oldest cousin’s wedding in the early 1980s. Her sister/sister’s husband didn’t take out their rowdy toddler who *knocked over a floral display near the altar.* Just stop. Entitled, lazy parents have been around since the dawn of time, and always will be around. It’s not about age or generation, it’s about entitled, selfish people being a constant in humanity.

Nope. I see it constantly around me. Parents won't take their kids out when it's appropriate. Their guilt around not spending much time with their kids during the week is not the marrying couple's problem when now they want to get their quality time at someone else's black tie evening party.

Wow, at least they “feel guilt.” All the Boomer parents who sent their kids outside all day and literally had to have PSAs of celebrities chastising “It’s 10 p.m., do you know where your kids are” certainly felt no guilt. They were too busy drinking, smoking and beating kids with belts as “discipline” to ever feel something as inconvenient as guilt.

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Anonymous wrote:Talk to your brother. He's a typical clueless newlywed, doesn't know about the breastfeeding, and probably doesn't care. There are many like him!

Kids make weddings so joyful and spontaneous, and I wanted all my baby relatives at my wedding! But I grudgingly accept that others might not share this love of multi-generational gatherings. It's his call, in the end.

Ok. Thanks for acknowledging that crying babies in the wedding aren't universal signs of joy.

PP you replied to. I have never attended a wedding where a baby cried. And I have attended MANY weddings, ALL of which were kid-centric.

Blows your little mind, doesn't it?

Lucky you. Our wedding video is filled with my cousin’s crying baby because neither she or her DH woukd simply get up and take the baby out.

Parents these days, as you can tell in threads like these, do not care at all about others around them. They are so blindly focused on themselves and their kids that they give no thought to the fact that others may want to hear the sermon, vows, or ceremony. It's new age narcissistic parenting.

NP. “These days,” nothing. Come off it. This happened at my oldest cousin’s wedding in the early 1980s. Her sister/sister’s husband didn’t take out their rowdy toddler who *knocked over a floral display near the altar.* Just stop. Entitled, lazy parents have been around since the dawn of time, and always will be around. It’s not about age or generation, it’s about entitled, selfish people being a constant in humanity.

Nope. I see it constantly around me. Parents won't take their kids out when it's appropriate. Their guilt around not spending much time with their kids during the week is not the marrying couple's problem when now they want to get their quality time at someone else's black tie evening party.

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Anonymous wrote:Talk to your brother. He's a typical clueless newlywed, doesn't know about the breastfeeding, and probably doesn't care. There are many like him!

Kids make weddings so joyful and spontaneous, and I wanted all my baby relatives at my wedding! But I grudgingly accept that others might not share this love of multi-generational gatherings. It's his call, in the end.

Ok. Thanks for acknowledging that crying babies in the wedding aren't universal signs of joy.

PP you replied to. I have never attended a wedding where a baby cried. And I have attended MANY weddings, ALL of which were kid-centric.

Blows your little mind, doesn't it?

Lucky you. Our wedding video is filled with my cousin’s crying baby because neither she or her DH woukd simply get up and take the baby out.

Parents these days, as you can tell in threads like these, do not care at all about others around them. They are so blindly focused on themselves and their kids that they give no thought to the fact that others may want to hear the sermon, vows, or ceremony. It's new age narcissistic parenting.

NP. “These days,” nothing. Come off it. This happened at my oldest cousin’s wedding in the early 1980s. Her sister/sister’s husband didn’t take out their rowdy toddler who *knocked over a floral display near the altar.* Just stop. Entitled, lazy parents have been around since the dawn of time, and always will be around. It’s not about age or generation, it’s about entitled, selfish people being a constant in humanity.

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Anonymous wrote:Talk to your brother. He's a typical clueless newlywed, doesn't know about the breastfeeding, and probably doesn't care. There are many like him!

Kids make weddings so joyful and spontaneous, and I wanted all my baby relatives at my wedding! But I grudgingly accept that others might not share this love of multi-generational gatherings. It's his call, in the end.

Ok. Thanks for acknowledging that crying babies in the wedding aren't universal signs of joy.

PP you replied to. I have never attended a wedding where a baby cried. And I have attended MANY weddings, ALL of which were kid-centric.

Blows your little mind, doesn't it?

Lucky you. Our wedding video is filled with my cousin’s crying baby because neither she or her DH woukd simply get up and take the baby out.

Parents these days, as you can tell in threads like these, do not care at all about others around them. They are so blindly focused on themselves and their kids that they give no thought to the fact that others may want to hear the sermon, vows, or ceremony. It's new age narcissistic parenting.

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Anonymous wrote:Talk to your brother. He's a typical clueless newlywed, doesn't know about the breastfeeding, and probably doesn't care. There are many like him!

Kids make weddings so joyful and spontaneous, and I wanted all my baby relatives at my wedding! But I grudgingly accept that others might not share this love of multi-generational gatherings. It's his call, in the end.

Ok. Thanks for acknowledging that crying babies in the wedding aren't universal signs of joy.

PP you replied to. I have never attended a wedding where a baby cried. And I have attended MANY weddings, ALL of which were kid-centric.

Blows your little mind, doesn't it?

Lucky you. Our wedding video is filled with my cousin’s crying baby because neither she or her DH woukd simply get up and take the baby out.

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Anonymous wrote:Why can’t you attend a local dinner? I worked FT and pumped at the office.

If she's not on a schedule yet it's a lot harder at 3 months. Leaving a baby who's just a bit older, even 4 or 5 months is much easier than at 3 months.

NP. OK, you’re getting a bit extreme. It’s local. OP could even pop by and say hello, kiss kiss, and leave. Or simply stay for one hour and leave. Let’s not pretend like breastfeeding is a death sentence against getting to spend one or two hours with family for a local milestone occasion. You show up, give a heartfelt hug to the bride and groom, leave when you have to.

Really, people. Stop reaching.

OP should absolutely not worry about getting a sitter or even considering an international trip. But there’s literally no excuse not to at least stop by a LOCAL dinner.

Anonymous wrote:Why can’t you attend a local dinner? I worked FT and pumped at the office.

If she's not on a schedule yet it's a lot harder at 3 months. Leaving a baby who's just a bit older, even 4 or 5 months is much easier than at 3 months.

Why can’t you attend a local dinner? I worked FT and pumped at the office.