Anonymous wrote:Where does Maret fall on this snobby/elitist spectrum?

Very elitist.

Where does Maret fall on this snobby/elitist spectrum?

There is a correlation between how often a school is mentioned as being desirable on DCUM and its level of snobby/elitist.

Know the information bubble you are in and adjust accordingly. The schools are all about the same academically.

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Anonymous wrote:Burke-
Not snobby or elitist

What?! Yes, it is. It is more subtle than a school like Field or NCS, but it is absolutely snobby and elitist. My kid was there 6 - 8; left for high school. Public is such a better environment.

I feel like this is an admission the Burke is not snobby or elitist.

I mean, if you’re comparing it to public school I think any private school could be called snobby and elitist. There are people there paying $$$ to send their kid to a school other than their public school. Of course certain public schools are also called snobby and elitist.

There are also lots of families at Burke with a kid at Burke and siblings in public school.

We toured Holton and NCS.

The Holton vibe: super flashy cheese. Striper married real estate bro types.
The NCS vibe: know your place in society. The fathers are “daddy’s boys”.

And both schools have a whole bunch of normal families who bought into “private schools are better than public” and just want to make sure their kids get a good education.

Anonymous wrote:St. Peter School in Capitol Hill is very snobby.

I only toured St Peter’s, but the mom who led our tour group went out of her way to mention repeatedly the fact her husband was elected partner recently at his BigLaw firm, her multiple vacations to Mustique, the excellent returns on her stock portfolio, and her recommendations for “hidden gem” clothing stores on the Eastern Shore. She wore a black headband and pearls, and made a crack about my wearing blue jeans to the introductory school tour in the morning. It was like watching a perimenopausal Gretchen Wieners in action.

Why do these richtards have to pretend to be religiously affiliated all the time. It's a slap in the face to people who actually live humble lives.

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Anonymous wrote:Avoid the Cathedral schools! We are at Beauvoir and are counting the days until graduation. Absolutely miserable and snobby parent community. The worst are the STA and NCS alum parents.

THIS!!!

Same person, over and over. We get it - your kid didn't in to NCS. Please get some help !

Anonymous wrote:Look at the student parking lot. Are the students all driving the exact same vehicles? I’m weary of the schools full of jeeps and broncos with the overconsumption of rubber ducks on the dashboard. Not only are those giant vehicles expensive, but why are the kids all trying to be clones? That feels very country club versus a schooo community where kids can be themselves and all kinds of diversity is celebrated.

Lot of Subarus in my sons school oddly enough.

Anonymous wrote:Avoid the Cathedral schools! We are at Beauvoir and are counting the days until graduation. Absolutely miserable and snobby parent community. The worst are the STA and NCS alum parents.

THIS!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Outwardly flashy social climbing types where people are sizing each other up for what they drive, where they live, etc

People with real wealth don’t compete with social climbers. The climbers are in crab barrels with their own kind and they are hella tired. Will someone please grab them a glass of water?

It depends.

People with inherited or generational wealth tend to be pretty low key about it.
They grew up around it and it's nothing special to them.
They did nothing to really earn it so they can't really be proud of it.

For the nouveau riche, they frequently worked hard or got extremely lucky or both and are living a significantly higher standard of living than they grew up with.

Agree with this. And I would put the "crab barrel" person in the second category. Comments like that suggest a lot of insecurity.

I grew up around wealth and have kids in three private schools mentioned here. In general I think the word "snobby" is very subjective and usually suggests that the person using it feels uncomfortable around wealth. I honestly don't feel like I hear it used very often. And in general I think people who act in a stereotypical "snobby" way are probably insecure themselves and trying to put on some sort of image. So please do not be intimidated by those people! Just avoid them in general. They are not better than you, obviously.

Every single private school has down to earth parents - find those people! Many of them will be extremely wealthy but you won't even know it. Those are the people to get to know. Money doesn't have to affect your personality.

It does not have to do with wealth. You can be wealthy and not a snob or elitist.

Most "snobs" or "elitists" are actually still trying to desperately use school for connections or to climb the ladder for themselves and then for their sons. It creates an unhealthy atmosphere and affects the kids friendships.

A local boys school comes to mind with having a larger percentage of these types. Climbing and networking is their main goal in life. Once you leave the environment and meet others that are not like that you realize just how bad it was.

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Anonymous wrote:Outwardly flashy social climbing types where people are sizing each other up for what they drive, where they live, etc

People with real wealth don’t compete with social climbers. The climbers are in crab barrels with their own kind and they are hella tired. Will someone please grab them a glass of water?

It depends.

People with inherited or generational wealth tend to be pretty low key about it.
They grew up around it and it's nothing special to them.
They did nothing to really earn it so they can't really be proud of it.

For the nouveau riche, they frequently worked hard or got extremely lucky or both and are living a significantly higher standard of living than they grew up with.

Agree with this. And I would put the "crab barrel" person in the second category. Comments like that suggest a lot of insecurity.

I grew up around wealth and have kids in three private schools mentioned here. In general I think the word "snobby" is very subjective and usually suggests that the person using it feels uncomfortable around wealth. I honestly don't feel like I hear it used very often. And in general I think people who act in a stereotypical "snobby" way are probably insecure themselves and trying to put on some sort of image. So please do not be intimidated by those people! Just avoid them in general. They are not better than you, obviously.

Every single private school has down to earth parents - find those people! Many of them will be extremely wealthy but you won't even know it. Those are the people to get to know. Money doesn't have to affect your personality.

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Anonymous wrote:Sidwell is the worst offender

It’s high up on the list.

Sidwell is so high up on that list. I brought my kids to a party this weekend where everyone was talking about which family members had gone or were current students there. I'm not usually anti-elitist, but it felt very good to NOT be able to participate in any of that.

Signed,

Proud Mom of Kids at a Very Different Private!

Anonymous wrote:Sidwell is the worst offender

It’s high up on the list.

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Anonymous wrote:All schools with beautifully manicured grounds that someone might mention as "elite" are going to draw more than their share of snobs after the cachet, whereas schools in run-down storefronts or colocated in aesthetically displeasing church buildings are going to have fewer.

Which school is at a store front?

Off the top of my head, Vision Montessori.

A few others are in slightly more office-parky situations: Ideaventions (one of the best schools for smart kids in the local area), Fusion Academy - Reston, Al Fatih Academy, Merit.