Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn’t she propose to him?

Clearly, he would have said no.

And then she would have had her answer without all this wasted head fu<<<kkery

Anyone crossing 25 while dating for couple of years, should've a clear discussion about their commitment and future.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she’s in college, they should be talking about a mutual timeline. Out of college, they should have a plan after two years. If he didn’t like her enough to propose after two years and clear communication, then they both dodged a bulletin. It’s a win for everyone. Each is free to keep looking for a better fit. My DH and I met after 30, so we’re were married in under a year. Still blissfully happy many years later. Of its a good fit, both partners will be thrilled to be together and take that next step.

24 year olds with aspirations of careers and grad school should not push a two year time table. There are too many moving pieces in their lives to slot in marriage on top of it all.

If they get engaged with a ring and announcement, it would show his commitment and effort. They don't have to immediately marry and have kids.

Your daughter is smart. I dont think this is a good site to come to for advice on this. I wouldn't let some guy waste my fertility if my goal is kids and a family. By late 20s women who want a traditional family shouldn't stay with a guy longer than 3 years.

If you can’t lock it down after 2 years (!) it’s time to move on.

In 2026, women still feel like they have a shelf life. What a mind F.

Anonymous wrote:Imagine the week leading up to Valentine’s Day. Must have been pure misery for both of them. And now they will always have that memory associated with that day.

Yeesh.

She probably said BY Valentine’s Day but regardless he was wasting her time. She won’t get it back. Good to move on

Imagine the week leading up to Valentine’s Day. Must have been pure misery for both of them. And now they will always have that memory associated with that day.

Yeesh.

Anonymous wrote:Why didn’t she propose to him?

Clearly, he would have said no.

Anonymous wrote:If she’s in college, they should be talking about a mutual timeline. Out of college, they should have a plan after two years. If he didn’t like her enough to propose after two years and clear communication, then they both dodged a bulletin. It’s a win for everyone. Each is free to keep looking for a better fit. My DH and I met after 30, so we’re were married in under a year. Still blissfully happy many years later. Of its a good fit, both partners will be thrilled to be together and take that next step.

24 year olds with aspirations of careers and grad school should not push a two year time table. There are too many moving pieces in their lives to slot in marriage on top of it all.

Anonymous wrote:Ultimatums are a very bad way to start a marriage. Been there done that.

Maybe it's just prioritizing her wants over his, which is something that women don't do.

If she’s in college, they should be talking about a mutual timeline. Out of college, they should have a plan after two years. If he didn’t like her enough to propose after two years and clear communication, then they both dodged a bulletin. It’s a win for everyone. Each is free to keep looking for a better fit. My DH and I met after 30, so we’re were married in under a year. Still blissfully happy many years later. Of its a good fit, both partners will be thrilled to be together and take that next step.

Ultimatums are a very bad way to start a marriage. Been there done that.

Any woman who sits around waiting for a proposal loses my respect. Marriage is a partnership. We aren't in the 1300s. Both people should talk it through and decide if and when they want to get married. Women are competent adults who are more than capable of equal adults partnerships. This focus on getting a ring to take pictures of for instagram is nonsense. Have a conversation, decide together if marriage is what you want and if you are on the same timeline and then make decisions for your own life. This sitting around pining for a ring and a man to hold it out in front of him just makes women look pathetic.

Anonymous wrote:Time for her to move on if he doesn't want a commitment. No need to waste your 20s on these guys if you know what you want.

This. Time wasting losers should not get two years in your 20s!! What a waste.