Anonymous wrote:Side question....Is age 62 considered "early retirement"? I always thought early retirement was in the 50s but due to less favorable economics, is early 60s the new "early retirement" zone? Just curious what others are thinking?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm in my early 50s and in a job I like overall, but it's a very draining role, the commute isn't great, I'm getting bored with the work and the options for moving up the chain and seeing more significant raises are limited. I could stick it out for another five years, ideally more like 8-10, but it's getting to be a lot. Over the past year, a few of my older colleagues resigned before hitting 60. One retired early out of nowhere and management didn't throw him a retirement party, so I didn't have a chance to ask him what's next. Another left early after being with the org for about 15 years and was vested in the pension but still left earlier than most in the plan.
So, for those who've done it, how do you get to the point of making it happen? Did you assess your finances and accept a lower-paying or part time job for peace of mind and being ok with giving up the good salary? Or did you methodically plan for retiring early and sock away a lot of money since your first job?
Lived within our means (mostly). Incurred only "good debt" (mortgage; and didn't buy in the range we were approved for). Saved like crazy, invested, aggressively funded 529. We still had a lot of luxury (mostly vacations) but did not do fancy cars, fancy clothes (basic stuff no Prada, Gucci, Chanel, etc.), don't buy a lot of jewelry. Those just aren't important to us.
We also had some luck, honestly, buying our home in 2002 before prices skyrocketed. Also our starter home became our forever home and we remodeled. So we paid it off in about 20 years.
Having said that, I have money insecurities having grown up poor. So I'm still working, it's just for myself whenever I want. I'm 53.
How did you buy a house in DMV at 29??
Anonymous wrote:I'm in my early 50s and in a job I like overall, but it's a very draining role, the commute isn't great, I'm getting bored with the work and the options for moving up the chain and seeing more significant raises are limited. I could stick it out for another five years, ideally more like 8-10, but it's getting to be a lot. Over the past year, a few of my older colleagues resigned before hitting 60. One retired early out of nowhere and management didn't throw him a retirement party, so I didn't have a chance to ask him what's next. Another left early after being with the org for about 15 years and was vested in the pension but still left earlier than most in the plan.
So, for those who've done it, how do you get to the point of making it happen? Did you assess your finances and accept a lower-paying or part time job for peace of mind and being ok with giving up the good salary? Or did you methodically plan for retiring early and sock away a lot of money since your first job?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Retired at 54. I didn’t expect to do this, but as a Fed, the perfect storm- Trump, Musk, DOGE, etc, made my decision to take an early retirement pretty easy. Sure, I am leaving money on the table - kind of, but no longer have a 45 mile commute each way and I have more time for family and doing things I enjoy. Also, I don’t have participate in Fed/corporate mumbo jumbo of endless meetings and pointless taskers that only exist to placate an ever growing team of middle manager bureaucrats.
How was I able to do it? I just did it. I have a small pension, healthcare from Fed retirement, spouse works and I like to think we somewhat live within our means. We enjoy our life, but stayed in our starter home and have a decent amount of savings.
you are a SAHM not retired.
I don’t work.
I am not seeking work.
I have a pension.
How is this not retired?
In a similar boat here—Fed who took early retirement recently at 56 and have no plans to work again, one kid still at home. Not sure why the SAHM vs fully-retired distinction is important to anyone.
I felt comfortable retiring because:
Older kids are done with college and plenty in 529s for college for teen or grad school for older kids.
Paid off house.
Plenty of savings, plus small pension and Fed health insurance.
DH will work for another few years.
We are not big spenders, though look forward to fun travel once DH retires and youngest is no longer at home.
A SAHM lives off husband's income... that's not "retiring from work".
No, sorry, this is not how retirement is defined.
“Early retirement “ enabled by another wage earner paying your bills is SAH.
Not really. The SAH partner enables the other wage earner to earn while other aspects of life is handled. Also, SAH partner does not have separate bills. Household bills are usually fixed costs that is incurred regardless of if there is a SAH partner or not.
OMG get over yourself. Unless you have toddlers at home, its very chill life. Its not like single people can’t figure out how to buy groceries and fold a towel.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Retired at 54. I didn’t expect to do this, but as a Fed, the perfect storm- Trump, Musk, DOGE, etc, made my decision to take an early retirement pretty easy. Sure, I am leaving money on the table - kind of, but no longer have a 45 mile commute each way and I have more time for family and doing things I enjoy. Also, I don’t have participate in Fed/corporate mumbo jumbo of endless meetings and pointless taskers that only exist to placate an ever growing team of middle manager bureaucrats.
How was I able to do it? I just did it. I have a small pension, healthcare from Fed retirement, spouse works and I like to think we somewhat live within our means. We enjoy our life, but stayed in our starter home and have a decent amount of savings.
you are a SAHM not retired.
I don’t work.
I am not seeking work.
I have a pension.
How is this not retired?
In a similar boat here—Fed who took early retirement recently at 56 and have no plans to work again, one kid still at home. Not sure why the SAHM vs fully-retired distinction is important to anyone.
I felt comfortable retiring because:
Older kids are done with college and plenty in 529s for college for teen or grad school for older kids.
Paid off house.
Plenty of savings, plus small pension and Fed health insurance.
DH will work for another few years.
We are not big spenders, though look forward to fun travel once DH retires and youngest is no longer at home.
A SAHM lives off husband's income... that's not "retiring from work".
That’s a weird way to look at it. I retired from work with a pension, affordable health insurance that covers DH and our 3 children, more than $2.5 million in my TSP plus non-Federal IRA, and significant brokerage funds that I’ve contributed to through the years along with DH. We’ve reallocated how we pay for some of our bills, but I’m still contributing to our net worth in retirement.
Not sure that it’s relevant that we still have a child at home either. Seems like you just want to use “SAHM” as an insult.
My wife is a SAHM for 25 years now. She is not retired. She is a Homemaker and Mom a full time job.
lol if your wife worked for 15 years and has been staying home for 25 years, she must be at least 62. So kids looonnnnngggg gone from the house. And you're still drinking the koolaid that she "is" an active mom as a full time job? If you think being a 62 year old empty nester is the hardest job in the world, i have a bridge to sell you.
Kinda empty nestors since Fall of 2025 when youngest went to college and around same time second youngest moved out. So an empty nestor I guess since Fall of 2025. It was only three years ago I had three kids at home. I know a few child brides on this thread but kids generally dont move out till parents are around 67.
The house I live in was bought from a retiring couple. They had three kids. Youngest kid just gaduated Gergetown Law School and was moving to NYC. His wife who was SAHM was retiring with him and both were 65. My daughters friends who are doctors two of their kids are doing medical shool route. BTW the last one moves out they will be 70ish.
if I became single I might just start aging. Why downsize just refill the house up.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Retired at 54. I didn’t expect to do this, but as a Fed, the perfect storm- Trump, Musk, DOGE, etc, made my decision to take an early retirement pretty easy. Sure, I am leaving money on the table - kind of, but no longer have a 45 mile commute each way and I have more time for family and doing things I enjoy. Also, I don’t have participate in Fed/corporate mumbo jumbo of endless meetings and pointless taskers that only exist to placate an ever growing team of middle manager bureaucrats.
How was I able to do it? I just did it. I have a small pension, healthcare from Fed retirement, spouse works and I like to think we somewhat live within our means. We enjoy our life, but stayed in our starter home and have a decent amount of savings.
you are a SAHM not retired.
I don’t work.
I am not seeking work.
I have a pension.
How is this not retired?
In a similar boat here—Fed who took early retirement recently at 56 and have no plans to work again, one kid still at home. Not sure why the SAHM vs fully-retired distinction is important to anyone.
I felt comfortable retiring because:
Older kids are done with college and plenty in 529s for college for teen or grad school for older kids.
Paid off house.
Plenty of savings, plus small pension and Fed health insurance.
DH will work for another few years.
We are not big spenders, though look forward to fun travel once DH retires and youngest is no longer at home.
A SAHM lives off husband's income... that's not "retiring from work".
No, sorry, this is not how retirement is defined.
“Early retirement “ enabled by another wage earner paying your bills is SAH.
Not really. The SAH partner enables the other wage earner to earn while other aspects of life is handled. Also, SAH partner does not have separate bills. Household bills are usually fixed costs that is incurred regardless of if there is a SAH partner or not.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm in my early 50s and in a job I like overall, but it's a very draining role, the commute isn't great, I'm getting bored with the work and the options for moving up the chain and seeing more significant raises are limited. I could stick it out for another five years, ideally more like 8-10, but it's getting to be a lot. Over the past year, a few of my older colleagues resigned before hitting 60. One retired early out of nowhere and management didn't throw him a retirement party, so I didn't have a chance to ask him what's next. Another left early after being with the org for about 15 years and was vested in the pension but still left earlier than most in the plan.
So, for those who've done it, how do you get to the point of making it happen? Did you assess your finances and accept a lower-paying or part time job for peace of mind and being ok with giving up the good salary? Or did you methodically plan for retiring early and sock away a lot of money since your first job?
Lived within our means (mostly). Incurred only "good debt" (mortgage; and didn't buy in the range we were approved for). Saved like crazy, invested, aggressively funded 529. We still had a lot of luxury (mostly vacations) but did not do fancy cars, fancy clothes (basic stuff no Prada, Gucci, Chanel, etc.), don't buy a lot of jewelry. Those just aren't important to us.
We also had some luck, honestly, buying our home in 2002 before prices skyrocketed. Also our starter home became our forever home and we remodeled. So we paid it off in about 20 years.
Having said that, I have money insecurities having grown up poor. So I'm still working, it's just for myself whenever I want. I'm 53.
Anonymous wrote:I'm in my early 50s and in a job I like overall, but it's a very draining role, the commute isn't great, I'm getting bored with the work and the options for moving up the chain and seeing more significant raises are limited. I could stick it out for another five years, ideally more like 8-10, but it's getting to be a lot. Over the past year, a few of my older colleagues resigned before hitting 60. One retired early out of nowhere and management didn't throw him a retirement party, so I didn't have a chance to ask him what's next. Another left early after being with the org for about 15 years and was vested in the pension but still left earlier than most in the plan.
So, for those who've done it, how do you get to the point of making it happen? Did you assess your finances and accept a lower-paying or part time job for peace of mind and being ok with giving up the good salary? Or did you methodically plan for retiring early and sock away a lot of money since your first job?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Retired at 54. I didn’t expect to do this, but as a Fed, the perfect storm- Trump, Musk, DOGE, etc, made my decision to take an early retirement pretty easy. Sure, I am leaving money on the table - kind of, but no longer have a 45 mile commute each way and I have more time for family and doing things I enjoy. Also, I don’t have participate in Fed/corporate mumbo jumbo of endless meetings and pointless taskers that only exist to placate an ever growing team of middle manager bureaucrats.
How was I able to do it? I just did it. I have a small pension, healthcare from Fed retirement, spouse works and I like to think we somewhat live within our means. We enjoy our life, but stayed in our starter home and have a decent amount of savings.
you are a SAHM not retired.
I don’t work.
I am not seeking work.
I have a pension.
How is this not retired?
In a similar boat here—Fed who took early retirement recently at 56 and have no plans to work again, one kid still at home. Not sure why the SAHM vs fully-retired distinction is important to anyone.
I felt comfortable retiring because:
Older kids are done with college and plenty in 529s for college for teen or grad school for older kids.
Paid off house.
Plenty of savings, plus small pension and Fed health insurance.
DH will work for another few years.
We are not big spenders, though look forward to fun travel once DH retires and youngest is no longer at home.
A SAHM lives off husband's income... that's not "retiring from work".
No, sorry, this is not how retirement is defined.
“Early retirement “ enabled by another wage earner paying your bills is SAH.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Retired at 54. I didn’t expect to do this, but as a Fed, the perfect storm- Trump, Musk, DOGE, etc, made my decision to take an early retirement pretty easy. Sure, I am leaving money on the table - kind of, but no longer have a 45 mile commute each way and I have more time for family and doing things I enjoy. Also, I don’t have participate in Fed/corporate mumbo jumbo of endless meetings and pointless taskers that only exist to placate an ever growing team of middle manager bureaucrats.
How was I able to do it? I just did it. I have a small pension, healthcare from Fed retirement, spouse works and I like to think we somewhat live within our means. We enjoy our life, but stayed in our starter home and have a decent amount of savings.
you are a SAHM not retired.
I don’t work.
I am not seeking work.
I have a pension.
How is this not retired?
In a similar boat here—Fed who took early retirement recently at 56 and have no plans to work again, one kid still at home. Not sure why the SAHM vs fully-retired distinction is important to anyone.
I felt comfortable retiring because:
Older kids are done with college and plenty in 529s for college for teen or grad school for older kids.
Paid off house.
Plenty of savings, plus small pension and Fed health insurance.
DH will work for another few years.
We are not big spenders, though look forward to fun travel once DH retires and youngest is no longer at home.
A SAHM lives off husband's income... that's not "retiring from work".
That’s a weird way to look at it. I retired from work with a pension, affordable health insurance that covers DH and our 3 children, more than $2.5 million in my TSP plus non-Federal IRA, and significant brokerage funds that I’ve contributed to through the years along with DH. We’ve reallocated how we pay for some of our bills, but I’m still contributing to our net worth in retirement.
Not sure that it’s relevant that we still have a child at home either. Seems like you just want to use “SAHM” as an insult.
To be fair, your case is not what that PP was referring to. Other than bragging, you didn't add anything b/c it's not relevant
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I "retired" at 40. I had worked for 15 years before that. DH is still working at 58.
- Started married life debt free. No college debt.
- We did not pay for anything in our wedding. Parents paid for everything.
- We were in STEM fields that paid us a decent amount.
- Parents did not depend on us financially in retirement.
- Bought our new SFH in an inexpensive neighborhood.
- 2 kids only. Only had 3 yrs each of childcare cost for them. We had grandparents helping out for childcare.
- Kids went to magnet public schools for free.
- Kids got merit tuition in college. We paid minimal amount for room and board only.
There were other financial and life decisions we made, and also lots of luck...that made it possible for me to retire early. My DH can retire now if he wants, but he is still working.
In your case, you are a SHAM. I'd not consider you "retired." You quit working to raise kids and that's "okay" but you are certainly not retired from workforce. You quit!