Anonymous wrote:So, they didn't know your immigration status when you got married? If it wasn't important enough for you to tell them then, why bother now?

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Anonymous wrote:OP can I ask why you're not a citizen if you've been married for 12 years? I'm just curious because it seems like it puts you into a situation with this administration

Fair question. Honestly I don't know. I have a U-visa that adjusted to a green card a few years ago. I can now file an adjustment through that. After 6 years or so you're eligible to adjust to a citizen. I know I should have done it years ago

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Anonymous wrote:OP can I ask why you're not a citizen if you've been married for 12 years? I'm just curious because it seems like it puts you into a situation with this administration

Fair question. Honestly I don't know. I have a U-visa that adjusted to a green card a few years ago. I can now file an adjustment through that. After 6 years or so you're eligible to adjust to a citizen. I know I should have done it years ago

Anonymous wrote:Reality is they’re old and someday they’re gonna need your help and when they do, you’re gonna tell them they should pull themselves up by their boot straps and that you would like to help them, but that’s socialism.

Anonymous wrote:My in laws are very maga and their beliefs on immigration are hard and have been hard. There is no grey area for them.

I was brought here as a baby and didn't have a say. When I was 19 I got a Visa working with a local women's center. That granted me a green card and I am still not a citizen but I can file for an adjustment now.

We have a fam chat and recently they were praising ice and I sent a message saying that I'm not a us citizen and I haven't always had a green card, not my choice and my reality was very different and I'd love to have a conversation with the. If they are open.

No answer. Crickets. Not even an acknowledgement of that text and we haven't heard from them since. My sil also hasn't heard from them. We've been married for 12 years.

Guess that's all it took to be removed from the "family"

Anonymous wrote:13:27, you are incredibly naive.

OP, I really like what 12:13 said. I’d add that you should tell them your visa, green card, etc. did NOT come through marriage, in case that thought entered their minds. (Not that it should matter, but to them it might matter.)

What does your spouse say?

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Anonymous wrote:My in laws are very maga and their beliefs on immigration are hard and have been hard. There is no grey area for them.

I was brought here as a baby and didn't have a say. When I was 19 I got a Visa working with a local women's center. That granted me a green card and I am still not a citizen but I can file for an adjustment now.

We have a fam chat and recently they were praising ice and I sent a message saying that I'm not a us citizen and I haven't always had a green card, not my choice and my reality was very different and I'd love to have a conversation with the. If they are open.

No answer. Crickets. Not even an acknowledgement of that text and we haven't heard from them since. My sil also hasn't heard from them. We've been married for 12 years.

Guess that's all it took to be removed from the "family"

What are they supposed to say to you?

It is OK for people to object to illegal entry. It is OK for people to support lawful deportation. That's nice that you got a chance to stay in the US, but that doesn't change the overall picture. If you had a problem with your illegal status, you should have discussed that with YOUR parents, who apparently thought the chance that you might be returned to your country was worth it.

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Anonymous wrote:So that means you are a legal immigrant with a green card. Unless they also want green card holders kicked out?

I honestly don't know. I fear they think we married for citizenship even though I never went through our marriage. Or maybe they lump me into the people they claim to hate because as a child I was here undocumented and they can't accept that. I'm truly not sure without a conversation with them. I thought we could at least have one not that they would give us the silent treatment

I'm an immigrant myself, a citizen after 20 years, and know immigration laws pretty well. Nobody gets deported for running a red light 20 years ago. This is just nonsense.

I support ICE. Fully. I'm sick and tired of illegals sucking up resources just because they can.

Your ILs are not picking up your message, because it's confrontational. They don't know immigration laws, just like you don't know immigration laws of say, Bulgaria. Not sure what you want from them? A promise you'll not get deported? They cannot give you that.

If you used any resources before becoming a citizen, it may become a problem. They don't know what to say, because no matter what they say, it seems to be a problem for you. It's not their fault you were here undocumented as a child.

In most countries, in fact in all I know, and I've lived and had long-term residence in 10 different ones, you'd get kicked out as soon as you're found out.

I'm sure you had a better life here than in your home country, or you'd not have arrived here undocumented (and I hate this word, because you sure have documents somewhere). And if you hate it here or think you're entitled to stay no matter what and cannot, you know where your home country is.

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Anonymous wrote:My in laws are very maga and their beliefs on immigration are hard and have been hard. There is no grey area for them.

I was brought here as a baby and didn't have a say. When I was 19 I got a Visa working with a local women's center. That granted me a green card and I am still not a citizen but I can file for an adjustment now.

We have a fam chat and recently they were praising ice and I sent a message saying that I'm not a us citizen and I haven't always had a green card, not my choice and my reality was very different and I'd love to have a conversation with the. If they are open.

No answer. Crickets. Not even an acknowledgement of that text and we haven't heard from them since. My sil also hasn't heard from them. We've been married for 12 years.

Guess that's all it took to be removed from the "family"

What are they supposed to say to you?

It is OK for people to object to illegal entry. It is OK for people to support lawful deportation. That's nice that you got a chance to stay in the US, but that doesn't change the overall picture. If you had a problem with your illegal status, you should have discussed that with YOUR parents, who apparently thought the chance that you might be returned to your country was worth it.

Anonymous wrote:My in laws are very maga and their beliefs on immigration are hard and have been hard. There is no grey area for them.

I was brought here as a baby and didn't have a say. When I was 19 I got a Visa working with a local women's center. That granted me a green card and I am still not a citizen but I can file for an adjustment now.

We have a fam chat and recently they were praising ice and I sent a message saying that I'm not a us citizen and I haven't always had a green card, not my choice and my reality was very different and I'd love to have a conversation with the. If they are open.

No answer. Crickets. Not even an acknowledgement of that text and we haven't heard from them since. My sil also hasn't heard from them. We've been married for 12 years.

Guess that's all it took to be removed from the "family"

Anonymous wrote:My in laws are very maga and their beliefs on immigration are hard and have been hard. There is no grey area for them.

I was brought here as a baby and didn't have a say. When I was 19 I got a Visa working with a local women's center. That granted me a green card and I am still not a citizen but I can file for an adjustment now.

We have a fam chat and recently they were praising ice and I sent a message saying that I'm not a us citizen and I haven't always had a green card, not my choice and my reality was very different and I'd love to have a conversation with the. If they are open.

No answer. Crickets. Not even an acknowledgement of that text and we haven't heard from them since. My sil also hasn't heard from them. We've been married for 12 years.

Guess that's all it took to be removed from the "family"

Anonymous wrote:My in laws are very maga and their beliefs on immigration are hard and have been hard. There is no grey area for them.

I was brought here as a baby and didn't have a say. When I was 19 I got a Visa working with a local women's center. That granted me a green card and I am still not a citizen but I can file for an adjustment now.

We have a fam chat and recently they were praising ice and I sent a message saying that I'm not a us citizen and I haven't always had a green card, not my choice and my reality was very different and I'd love to have a conversation with the. If they are open.

No answer. Crickets. Not even an acknowledgement of that text and we haven't heard from them since. My sil also hasn't heard from them. We've been married for 12 years.

Guess that's all it took to be removed from the "family"

Anonymous wrote:There are very few people who are truly stateless. Some countries don't accept deported citizens with criminal convictions, again hopefully doesn't apply to you. This is not the majority of illegals. Refugees have documents as they need to prove where they come from one way or the other. Most people who are "undocumented" know exactly where they came from and simply don't want to go back, because they're better off here. You are making circular arguments. I also don't get this fretting about a "good immigrant" status! If you're a young person, you already got free education, are bi-lingual and can easily find employment elsewhere. Do you realize that the US holds only about 4.3% of world population? There are people living everywhere! As soon as my kids are college bound, I'm out of here! Maybe we could do "undocumented" in-state tuition in some other state, whatcha think?!