Anonymous wrote:I just left my biglaw job to stay at home. I was making $560k. My husband makes much more than I do and we have a lot of savings, so it wasn’t a big deal financially, but I still have a lot of angst about it. I actually love(d) my job, and it makes me sad that it will be very difficult to find a path back.

Wow. That’s a massive income to walk away from. Good luck and hope you find being a SAHM fulfilling!

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Anonymous wrote:350k stressful job 5 years ago. Spouse makes 180k and recently I get worried about the economy but not worried enough to try to get a paying job. I love my freedom and time.

Maybe this is just me, but absent very specific circumstances (tons of money in the bank already, massive inheritance, child with very severe special needs requiring a parent at home etc), I just don't get this at all. Unless it's some kind of troll post.

You would understand if you’d ever had an incredibly stressful and/or toxic job situation. It interferes with all aspects of life including physical health. It’s not worth any amount of money if you have ti give up your health, physically or mentally

So it's OK to put it all on your spouse, who earns half your salary and is now supporting the whole family? I get quitting a toxic job, but not even trying to get another one just seems like something else..

Maybe spouse is okay with it? Maybe they can afford to live well in 180k (way more than 90% live on)

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Anonymous wrote:350k stressful job 5 years ago. Spouse makes 180k and recently I get worried about the economy but not worried enough to try to get a paying job. I love my freedom and time.

Maybe this is just me, but absent very specific circumstances (tons of money in the bank already, massive inheritance, child with very severe special needs requiring a parent at home etc), I just don't get this at all. Unless it's some kind of troll post.

What is there to get?

Perhaps she wanted to be a sham, and perhaps they can live well on her spouses salary.

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Anonymous wrote:350k stressful job 5 years ago. Spouse makes 180k and recently I get worried about the economy but not worried enough to try to get a paying job. I love my freedom and time.

Maybe this is just me, but absent very specific circumstances (tons of money in the bank already, massive inheritance, child with very severe special needs requiring a parent at home etc), I just don't get this at all. Unless it's some kind of troll post.

You would understand if you’d ever had an incredibly stressful and/or toxic job situation. It interferes with all aspects of life including physical health. It’s not worth any amount of money if you have ti give up your health, physically or mentally

You need some money to live. $180k seems very, very low these days.

Just a reminder, $180K is more than double the US median household income. ($83,730). So, most of the nation survives on far less. Also, if they have a low mortgage and send their kids to public school, it's really not all that lean. In fact, it's not lean at all. My family's household income is around that. We have some family help (family money will pay for kids' college). But could also make it work without the family help.

This is true, but as this is DCUM, I was thinking about DC-area salaries. In any case, I'm glad PP has a great life, I just said I don't get it absent specific circumstances. Maybe I'm just too stressed about money.

Yes it does help that we have no student loans, mortgage or any other debt.

$180k with no mortgage, no student loans, and no other debt like car payments is a perfectly comfortable HHI for a family, almost anywhere in the U.S., especially if you avoid travel sports and private school, and your parents don't need financial support.

Indeed, but having mortgage paid off is extremely unusual for a family with kids at home (other the idea of a "SAHM" is not applicable.)

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Anonymous wrote:350k stressful job 5 years ago. Spouse makes 180k and recently I get worried about the economy but not worried enough to try to get a paying job. I love my freedom and time.

Maybe this is just me, but absent very specific circumstances (tons of money in the bank already, massive inheritance, child with very severe special needs requiring a parent at home etc), I just don't get this at all. Unless it's some kind of troll post.

You would understand if you’d ever had an incredibly stressful and/or toxic job situation. It interferes with all aspects of life including physical health. It’s not worth any amount of money if you have ti give up your health, physically or mentally

You need some money to live. $180k seems very, very low these days.

Just a reminder, $180K is more than double the US median household income. ($83,730). So, most of the nation survives on far less. Also, if they have a low mortgage and send their kids to public school, it's really not all that lean. In fact, it's not lean at all. My family's household income is around that. We have some family help (family money will pay for kids' college). But could also make it work without the family help.

This is true, but as this is DCUM, I was thinking about DC-area salaries. In any case, I'm glad PP has a great life, I just said I don't get it absent specific circumstances. Maybe I'm just too stressed about money.

Yes it does help that we have no student loans, mortgage or any other debt.

$180k with no mortgage, no student loans, and no other debt like car payments is a perfectly comfortable HHI for a family, almost anywhere in the U.S., especially if you avoid travel sports and private school, and your parents don't need financial support.

$100K 20 years ago.

My boss and management were fabulous and allowed me to shift to part time. After maternity leave, I started back at 4 hours/week. And added hours when I was ready. I did this for 2 years and then got pregnant again and start the process all over again.

I initially quit to be a stay at home mom and they allowed me to continue working on my schedule. I was able to spend lots of time with my kids as infants and volunteered into elementary school, all working part time.

I finally went back full time when my youngest went to middle school.

Now, I’m making about $200. I am fortunate and forever grateful for the opportunity to do this.

My spouse also has a great job/salary to allow me to work thus type of schedule.

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously, the proportion of posters who say biglaw is out of wack. Why is that?

My theory - former big law SAHMs love DCUM, have time, and like answering questions about money (and many other DCUM favorite topics).

Agree

Yes.

Law attracts the status obsessed women.

Anonymous wrote:I just left my biglaw job to stay at home. I was making $560k. My husband makes much more than I do and we have a lot of savings, so it wasn’t a big deal financially, but I still have a lot of angst about it. I actually love(d) my job, and it makes me sad that it will be very difficult to find a path back.

I also liked the work itself just not the whole work culture and environment.

I just left my biglaw job to stay at home. I was making $560k. My husband makes much more than I do and we have a lot of savings, so it wasn’t a big deal financially, but I still have a lot of angst about it. I actually love(d) my job, and it makes me sad that it will be very difficult to find a path back.

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Anonymous wrote:350k stressful job 5 years ago. Spouse makes 180k and recently I get worried about the economy but not worried enough to try to get a paying job. I love my freedom and time.

Maybe this is just me, but absent very specific circumstances (tons of money in the bank already, massive inheritance, child with very severe special needs requiring a parent at home etc), I just don't get this at all. Unless it's some kind of troll post.

You would understand if you’d ever had an incredibly stressful and/or toxic job situation. It interferes with all aspects of life including physical health. It’s not worth any amount of money if you have ti give up your health, physically or mentally

You need some money to live. $180k seems very, very low these days.

Just a reminder, $180K is more than double the US median household income. ($83,730). So, most of the nation survives on far less. Also, if they have a low mortgage and send their kids to public school, it's really not all that lean. In fact, it's not lean at all. My family's household income is around that. We have some family help (family money will pay for kids' college). But could also make it work without the family help.

This is true, but as this is DCUM, I was thinking about DC-area salaries. In any case, I'm glad PP has a great life, I just said I don't get it absent specific circumstances. Maybe I'm just too stressed about money.

Yes it does help that we have no student loans, mortgage or any other debt.

That’s amazing. I’d quit my job in a heartbeat if we had our forever home without a mortgage (or the ability to pay it off in a second without blinking).

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Anonymous wrote:350k stressful job 5 years ago. Spouse makes 180k and recently I get worried about the economy but not worried enough to try to get a paying job. I love my freedom and time.

Maybe this is just me, but absent very specific circumstances (tons of money in the bank already, massive inheritance, child with very severe special needs requiring a parent at home etc), I just don't get this at all. Unless it's some kind of troll post.

You would understand if you’d ever had an incredibly stressful and/or toxic job situation. It interferes with all aspects of life including physical health. It’s not worth any amount of money if you have ti give up your health, physically or mentally

You need some money to live. $180k seems very, very low these days.

Just a reminder, $180K is more than double the US median household income. ($83,730). So, most of the nation survives on far less. Also, if they have a low mortgage and send their kids to public school, it's really not all that lean. In fact, it's not lean at all. My family's household income is around that. We have some family help (family money will pay for kids' college). But could also make it work without the family help.

This is true, but as this is DCUM, I was thinking about DC-area salaries. In any case, I'm glad PP has a great life, I just said I don't get it absent specific circumstances. Maybe I'm just too stressed about money.

Yes it does help that we have no student loans, mortgage or any other debt.

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Anonymous wrote:350k stressful job 5 years ago. Spouse makes 180k and recently I get worried about the economy but not worried enough to try to get a paying job. I love my freedom and time.

Maybe this is just me, but absent very specific circumstances (tons of money in the bank already, massive inheritance, child with very severe special needs requiring a parent at home etc), I just don't get this at all. Unless it's some kind of troll post.

You would understand if you’d ever had an incredibly stressful and/or toxic job situation. It interferes with all aspects of life including physical health. It’s not worth any amount of money if you have ti give up your health, physically or mentally

You need some money to live. $180k seems very, very low these days.

Go away, troll

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Anonymous wrote:350k stressful job 5 years ago. Spouse makes 180k and recently I get worried about the economy but not worried enough to try to get a paying job. I love my freedom and time.

Maybe this is just me, but absent very specific circumstances (tons of money in the bank already, massive inheritance, child with very severe special needs requiring a parent at home etc), I just don't get this at all. Unless it's some kind of troll post.

You would understand if you’d ever had an incredibly stressful and/or toxic job situation. It interferes with all aspects of life including physical health. It’s not worth any amount of money if you have ti give up your health, physically or mentally

You need some money to live. $180k seems very, very low these days.

Just a reminder, $180K is more than double the US median household income. ($83,730). So, most of the nation survives on far less. Also, if they have a low mortgage and send their kids to public school, it's really not all that lean. In fact, it's not lean at all. My family's household income is around that. We have some family help (family money will pay for kids' college). But could also make it work without the family help.

This is true, but as this is DCUM, I was thinking about DC-area salaries. In any case, I'm glad PP has a great life, I just said I don't get it absent specific circumstances. Maybe I'm just too stressed about money.

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Anonymous wrote:350k stressful job 5 years ago. Spouse makes 180k and recently I get worried about the economy but not worried enough to try to get a paying job. I love my freedom and time.

Maybe this is just me, but absent very specific circumstances (tons of money in the bank already, massive inheritance, child with very severe special needs requiring a parent at home etc), I just don't get this at all. Unless it's some kind of troll post.

You would understand if you’d ever had an incredibly stressful and/or toxic job situation. It interferes with all aspects of life including physical health. It’s not worth any amount of money if you have ti give up your health, physically or mentally

You need some money to live. $180k seems very, very low these days.

Just a reminder, $180K is more than double the US median household income. ($83,730). So, most of the nation survives on far less. Also, if they have a low mortgage and send their kids to public school, it's really not all that lean. In fact, it's not lean at all. My family's household income is around that. We have some family help (family money will pay for kids' college). But could also make it work without the family help.

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Anonymous wrote:350k stressful job 5 years ago. Spouse makes 180k and recently I get worried about the economy but not worried enough to try to get a paying job. I love my freedom and time.

Maybe this is just me, but absent very specific circumstances (tons of money in the bank already, massive inheritance, child with very severe special needs requiring a parent at home etc), I just don't get this at all. Unless it's some kind of troll post.

You would understand if you’d ever had an incredibly stressful and/or toxic job situation. It interferes with all aspects of life including physical health. It’s not worth any amount of money if you have ti give up your health, physically or mentally

You need some money to live. $180k seems very, very low these days.

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