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Anonymous wrote:It can both be true that these parents are too fussy/conservative and that DD needs to develop a filter.

I agree with that. I just disagree with the notion that this is a good time to apply that filter. She should be very direct with the intent of getting direct responses back. MAGAs know their beliefs are abhorrent to most educated individuals and will sometimes try to hide them when they will face unpleasant consequences.

PP and true, just considering OP's other examples I think DD needs to work on a filter. But I agree tolerating abhorrent beliefs is a firm no.

What examples? The always-pregnant mother? The crazy neighbor? Neither seems that bad if they're true.

Telling a new neighbor to their face that they're "so insane" is really not normal behavior. If your new neighbor is actually insane (which isn't established here) you develop the smile, nod, and avoid tactic. You don't poke bears.

That's not healthy at all. If they're crazy, you should say so.

Why? What is the point?

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Anonymous wrote:The fact the OP is expressing their concern about "uninhibited" remarks in the context of conservative parents is a huge red flag. And then basically doubles down by suggesting that old people don't need to earn respect. These days, old people are more likely to be awful human beings than young people. You should be appropriately polite for the circumstance, but respect only comes after it's earned.

Respect should be a starting point not an end point.

Disagree. Respect is meaningless if it comes for free. You need to earn it- whether you're 10, 22, or 60.

No. This is the difference between the civilized and uncivilized. You probably freak out for being 'disrespected' if someone bumps into you on the sidewalk. That's not civilized behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:It can both be true that these parents are too fussy/conservative and that DD needs to develop a filter.

I agree with that. I just disagree with the notion that this is a good time to apply that filter. She should be very direct with the intent of getting direct responses back. MAGAs know their beliefs are abhorrent to most educated individuals and will sometimes try to hide them when they will face unpleasant consequences.

PP and true, just considering OP's other examples I think DD needs to work on a filter. But I agree tolerating abhorrent beliefs is a firm no.

What examples? The always-pregnant mother? The crazy neighbor? Neither seems that bad if they're true.

Telling a new neighbor to their face that they're "so insane" is really not normal behavior. If your new neighbor is actually insane (which isn't established here) you develop the smile, nod, and avoid tactic. You don't poke bears.

That's not healthy at all. If they're crazy, you should say so.

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Anonymous wrote:The fact the OP is expressing their concern about "uninhibited" remarks in the context of conservative parents is a huge red flag. And then basically doubles down by suggesting that old people don't need to earn respect. These days, old people are more likely to be awful human beings than young people. You should be appropriately polite for the circumstance, but respect only comes after it's earned.

Respect should be a starting point not an end point.

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Anonymous wrote:It can both be true that these parents are too fussy/conservative and that DD needs to develop a filter.

I agree with that. I just disagree with the notion that this is a good time to apply that filter. She should be very direct with the intent of getting direct responses back. MAGAs know their beliefs are abhorrent to most educated individuals and will sometimes try to hide them when they will face unpleasant consequences.

PP and true, just considering OP's other examples I think DD needs to work on a filter. But I agree tolerating abhorrent beliefs is a firm no.

What examples? The always-pregnant mother? The crazy neighbor? Neither seems that bad if they're true.

Telling a new neighbor to their face that they're "so insane" is really not normal behavior. If your new neighbor is actually insane (which isn't established here) you develop the smile, nod, and avoid tactic. You don't poke bears.

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Anonymous wrote:The fact the OP is expressing their concern about "uninhibited" remarks in the context of conservative parents is a huge red flag. And then basically doubles down by suggesting that old people don't need to earn respect. These days, old people are more likely to be awful human beings than young people. You should be appropriately polite for the circumstance, but respect only comes after it's earned.

Respect should be a starting point not an end point.

Disagree. Respect is meaningless if it comes for free. You need to earn it- whether you're 10, 22, or 60.

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Anonymous wrote:The fact the OP is expressing their concern about "uninhibited" remarks in the context of conservative parents is a huge red flag. And then basically doubles down by suggesting that old people don't need to earn respect. These days, old people are more likely to be awful human beings than young people. You should be appropriately polite for the circumstance, but respect only comes after it's earned.

I think your statement generalizing old people likely being awful pretty much proves that your argument is false. What a horrible, ageist assumption to make and even worse if you generally believe that.

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Anonymous wrote:It can both be true that these parents are too fussy/conservative and that DD needs to develop a filter.

I agree with that. I just disagree with the notion that this is a good time to apply that filter. She should be very direct with the intent of getting direct responses back. MAGAs know their beliefs are abhorrent to most educated individuals and will sometimes try to hide them when they will face unpleasant consequences.

PP and true, just considering OP's other examples I think DD needs to work on a filter. But I agree tolerating abhorrent beliefs is a firm no.

What examples? The always-pregnant mother? The crazy neighbor? Neither seems that bad if they're true.

Anonymous wrote:The fact the OP is expressing their concern about "uninhibited" remarks in the context of conservative parents is a huge red flag. And then basically doubles down by suggesting that old people don't need to earn respect. These days, old people are more likely to be awful human beings than young people. You should be appropriately polite for the circumstance, but respect only comes after it's earned.

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Anonymous wrote:The fact the OP is expressing their concern about "uninhibited" remarks in the context of conservative parents is a huge red flag. And then basically doubles down by suggesting that old people don't need to earn respect. These days, old people are more likely to be awful human beings than young people. You should be appropriately polite for the circumstance, but respect only comes after it's earned.

Respect should be a starting point not an end point.

Anonymous wrote:The fact the OP is expressing their concern about "uninhibited" remarks in the context of conservative parents is a huge red flag. And then basically doubles down by suggesting that old people don't need to earn respect. These days, old people are more likely to be awful human beings than young people. You should be appropriately polite for the circumstance, but respect only comes after it's earned.

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Anonymous wrote:It can both be true that these parents are too fussy/conservative and that DD needs to develop a filter.

I agree with that. I just disagree with the notion that this is a good time to apply that filter. She should be very direct with the intent of getting direct responses back. MAGAs know their beliefs are abhorrent to most educated individuals and will sometimes try to hide them when they will face unpleasant consequences.

PP and true, just considering OP's other examples I think DD needs to work on a filter. But I agree tolerating abhorrent beliefs is a firm no.

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Anonymous wrote:It can both be true that these parents are too fussy/conservative and that DD needs to develop a filter.

I agree with that. I just disagree with the notion that this is a good time to apply that filter. She should be very direct with the intent of getting direct responses back. MAGAs know their beliefs are abhorrent to most educated individuals and will sometimes try to hide them when they will face unpleasant consequences.