Anonymous
Post 12/23/2025 23:26     Subject: Great colleges with fewer intense strivers
Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the points of differentiating Strivers and Diligents?

Anyway the goal is the become rich and powerful. One by grinding and the other by talking


Of course you don’t. You’re an incurious striver.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2025 23:02     Subject: Great colleges with fewer intense strivers
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Anonymous wrote:I went to Duke and when I went to a top tier professional school, it was very clear how much more relaxed and comfortable in their own skin the Duke alums than people from almost every other school (while still being top achievers). We got our work done very well with much less drama than others.

Unfortunately, I think Duke has a lot more strivers now than it used to. Which is really too bad. I think a non-striver can still be happy there if they can avoid getting sucked in.


This is satire, right?


I think it's an utter lack of self awareness. I've never met a more obnoxious group as a whole than Duke grads. They are insufferable.


Please do not lump me or my college friends in with this particular Duke grad. Thank you.


I don't know you or your friends but I know a lot of Duke grads. The comment stands.


What school did you go to where everyone was so perfect? The fact that you generalize so much does not speak well of it.


Well we can't all go to Duke.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2025 22:49     Subject: Great colleges with fewer intense strivers
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Anonymous wrote:Lots of threads on the boards, but Carleton, William & Mary, and Rice all come up a lot, as well as others.


My DS is starting at Carleton in the fall. Our impression from touring and talking to alums we know is that the vibe is more collaborative and congenial than other schools with similarly intense academics.


Our DD is also headed to Carleton next fall, and much of her decision was based on similar impressions.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2025 22:48     Subject: Great colleges with fewer intense strivers
Lots of defensive strivers posting in the thread. And/or people too dumb to know what a striver is. Kind of funny. The increase in strivers is why college sucks so much these days. Good admission officers can pick them out and avoid them but there is only so much they can do.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2025 22:46     Subject: Great colleges with fewer intense strivers
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Anonymous wrote:I went to Duke and when I went to a top tier professional school, it was very clear how much more relaxed and comfortable in their own skin the Duke alums than people from almost every other school (while still being top achievers). We got our work done very well with much less drama than others.

Unfortunately, I think Duke has a lot more strivers now than it used to. Which is really too bad. I think a non-striver can still be happy there if they can avoid getting sucked in.


This is satire, right?


I think it's an utter lack of self awareness. I've never met a more obnoxious group as a whole than Duke grads. They are insufferable.


Please do not lump me or my college friends in with this particular Duke grad. Thank you.


I don't know you or your friends but I know a lot of Duke grads. The comment stands.


What school did you go to where everyone was so perfect? The fact that you generalize so much does not speak well of it.


Duke grad throwing out the insults! Well done and so in character.


Not a Duke grad. Just someone who is sick of low class losers generalizing about schools. I have several good friends who went to Duke who are some of the kindest, most down to earth people I know. I also know plenty of jerks from there. No school is perfect.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2025 22:35     Subject: Great colleges with fewer intense strivers
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I went to Duke and when I went to a top tier professional school, it was very clear how much more relaxed and comfortable in their own skin the Duke alums than people from almost every other school (while still being top achievers). We got our work done very well with much less drama than others.

Unfortunately, I think Duke has a lot more strivers now than it used to. Which is really too bad. I think a non-striver can still be happy there if they can avoid getting sucked in.


This is satire, right?


I think it's an utter lack of self awareness. I've never met a more obnoxious group as a whole than Duke grads. They are insufferable.


Please do not lump me or my college friends in with this particular Duke grad. Thank you.


I don't know you or your friends but I know a lot of Duke grads. The comment stands.


What school did you go to where everyone was so perfect? The fact that you generalize so much does not speak well of it.


Duke grad throwing out the insults! Well done and so in character.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2025 22:34     Subject: Great colleges with fewer intense strivers
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Anonymous wrote:I went to Duke and when I went to a top tier professional school, it was very clear how much more relaxed and comfortable in their own skin the Duke alums than people from almost every other school (while still being top achievers). We got our work done very well with much less drama than others.

Unfortunately, I think Duke has a lot more strivers now than it used to. Which is really too bad. I think a non-striver can still be happy there if they can avoid getting sucked in.


This is satire, right?


I think it's an utter lack of self awareness. I've never met a more obnoxious group as a whole than Duke grads. They are insufferable.


Please do not lump me or my college friends in with this particular Duke grad. Thank you.


I don't know you or your friends but I know a lot of Duke grads. The comment stands.


What school did you go to where everyone was so perfect? The fact that you generalize so much does not speak well of it.


You haven't noticed that some schools have distinctive cultures and seem to attract a certain type of person? That's been my observation. And Duke is one that I noticed a long time ago. And I'm not the only one.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2025 22:32     Subject: Great colleges with fewer intense strivers
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Anonymous wrote:I went to Duke and when I went to a top tier professional school, it was very clear how much more relaxed and comfortable in their own skin the Duke alums than people from almost every other school (while still being top achievers). We got our work done very well with much less drama than others.

Unfortunately, I think Duke has a lot more strivers now than it used to. Which is really too bad. I think a non-striver can still be happy there if they can avoid getting sucked in.


This is satire, right?


I think it's an utter lack of self awareness. I've never met a more obnoxious group as a whole than Duke grads. They are insufferable.


Funny because in corporate America Duke alums have a reputation as being the best to work with because they have people skills, unlike Ivy League nerds, bookworms and strivers. Agree that there are plenty of D-bags from Duke, but there are many who are not.

DDMF.


I mean you - presumably a Duke alum - insulted Ivy grads "nerds, bookworms and strivers." Which proves my point of how insufferable Duke grads are.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2025 22:29     Subject: Great colleges with fewer intense strivers
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I went to Duke and when I went to a top tier professional school, it was very clear how much more relaxed and comfortable in their own skin the Duke alums than people from almost every other school (while still being top achievers). We got our work done very well with much less drama than others.

Unfortunately, I think Duke has a lot more strivers now than it used to. Which is really too bad. I think a non-striver can still be happy there if they can avoid getting sucked in.


This is satire, right?


I think it's an utter lack of self awareness. I've never met a more obnoxious group as a whole than Duke grads. They are insufferable.


Please do not lump me or my college friends in with this particular Duke grad. Thank you.


I don't know you or your friends but I know a lot of Duke grads. The comment stands.


What school did you go to where everyone was so perfect? The fact that you generalize so much does not speak well of it.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2025 22:28     Subject: Great colleges with fewer intense strivers
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I went to Duke and when I went to a top tier professional school, it was very clear how much more relaxed and comfortable in their own skin the Duke alums than people from almost every other school (while still being top achievers). We got our work done very well with much less drama than others.

Unfortunately, I think Duke has a lot more strivers now than it used to. Which is really too bad. I think a non-striver can still be happy there if they can avoid getting sucked in.


This is satire, right?


I think it's an utter lack of self awareness. I've never met a more obnoxious group as a whole than Duke grads. They are insufferable.


Please do not lump me or my college friends in with this particular Duke grad. Thank you.


I don't know you or your friends but I know a lot of Duke grads. The comment stands.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2025 22:04     Subject: Great colleges with fewer intense strivers
I don't understand the points of differentiating Strivers and Diligents?

Anyway the goal is the become rich and powerful. One by grinding and the other by talking
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2025 21:34     Subject: Great colleges with fewer intense strivers
Anonymous wrote:Diligent and Striver do not mean the same thing. Many diligent students are not Strivers.


Strivers = kids who memorize and regurgitate definitions, primarily for the purpose of achieving good test scores.

Diligent = kids who take the time to understand language and recognize that words are tools which we use to communicate.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2025 21:24     Subject: Great colleges with fewer intense strivers
Anonymous wrote:Holy Cross would be a perfect choice. Colgate has too many entitled prep school kids born on third base.


Isn’t that what OP is looking for?
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2025 21:16     Subject: Great colleges with fewer intense strivers
Holy Cross would be a perfect choice. Colgate has too many entitled prep school kids born on third base.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2025 21:09     Subject: Great colleges with fewer intense strivers
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I went to Duke and when I went to a top tier professional school, it was very clear how much more relaxed and comfortable in their own skin the Duke alums than people from almost every other school (while still being top achievers). We got our work done very well with much less drama than others.

Unfortunately, I think Duke has a lot more strivers now than it used to. Which is really too bad. I think a non-striver can still be happy there if they can avoid getting sucked in.


This is satire, right?


I think it's an utter lack of self awareness. I've never met a more obnoxious group as a whole than Duke grads. They are insufferable.


Please do not lump me or my college friends in with this particular Duke grad. Thank you.