Anonymous
12/08/2025 17:55
Subject: Annoyed with spending every Christmas Eve with my inlaws.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound selfish. There are 364 other days for "me" time. Christmas Eve is a night for families to be together.
A mother can make her own decision about where her and her children will spend Christmas Eve.
Only when it’s her turn for the holiday.
It’s always “her turn”
Her children, her turn.
They’re his children too
If the father is a 50% contributing parent, then he can negotiate.
Most fathers contribute more than 50 percent of the financial support. Even in 2025. Yes, they should have a say.
Money is only 1 thing. An important thing, yes.
Does he know their shoe size?
OP said he’s in commercial fishing, right? That’s a wildly dangerous job. He’s gone for long stretches, is knowing shoe size really all that important? Anyone can take a kid to a shoe store to get fitted. Not sure what that even has to do with anything. What’s OPs job?
+1
I have never understood this bizarre attempt at a “gotcha” question. I don’t know my kids’ shoes size off the top of my head. I have a rough estimate, but 1) their feet are still growing and 2) why on earth would I need to know their shoe size unless I am actively buying them shoes at that moment?
Anonymous
12/08/2025 17:53
Subject: Annoyed with spending every Christmas Eve with my inlaws.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound selfish. There are 364 other days for "me" time. Christmas Eve is a night for families to be together.
A mother can make her own decision about where her and her children will spend Christmas Eve.
So can the father.
He has, for 11 years. Her turn.
Anonymous
12/08/2025 17:52
Subject: Annoyed with spending every Christmas Eve with my inlaws.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound selfish. There are 364 other days for "me" time. Christmas Eve is a night for families to be together.
A mother can make her own decision about where her and her children will spend Christmas Eve.
Only when it’s her turn for the holiday.
Since OP has spent 11 consecutive Christmas Eves with her ILs, and they spend zero holidays with her family and her DH doesn't even join her when she visits them, it is now "her turn."
In 11 years, she can start going to IL's every other year.
Anonymous
12/08/2025 17:50
Subject: Annoyed with spending every Christmas Eve with my inlaws.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound selfish. There are 364 other days for "me" time. Christmas Eve is a night for families to be together.
A mother can make her own decision about where her and her children will spend Christmas Eve.
Only when it’s her turn for the holiday.
It’s always “her turn”
Her children, her turn.
They’re his children too
If the father is a 50% contributing parent, then he can negotiate.
Most fathers contribute more than 50 percent of the financial support. Even in 2025. Yes, they should have a say.
Money is only 1 thing. An important thing, yes.
Does he know their shoe size?
OP said he’s in commercial fishing, right? That’s a wildly dangerous job. He’s gone for long stretches, is knowing shoe size really all that important? Anyone can take a kid to a shoe store to get fitted. Not sure what that even has to do with anything. What’s OPs job?
I missed the part about what the husband does. The shoe size thing is a metaphor .
He can take the kids to see the alcoholics. OP enjoying a bath is not preventing that.
Anonymous
12/08/2025 17:44
Subject: Annoyed with spending every Christmas Eve with my inlaws.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound selfish. There are 364 other days for "me" time. Christmas Eve is a night for families to be together.
A mother can make her own decision about where her and her children will spend Christmas Eve.
So can the father.
Anonymous
12/08/2025 17:43
Subject: Annoyed with spending every Christmas Eve with my inlaws.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound selfish. There are 364 other days for "me" time. Christmas Eve is a night for families to be together.
A mother can make her own decision about where her and her children will spend Christmas Eve.
Only when it’s her turn for the holiday.
It’s always “her turn”
Her children, her turn.
They’re his children too
If the father is a 50% contributing parent, then he can negotiate.
Most fathers contribute more than 50 percent of the financial support. Even in 2025. Yes, they should have a say.
Money is only 1 thing. An important thing, yes.
Does he know their shoe size?
OP said he’s in commercial fishing, right? That’s a wildly dangerous job. He’s gone for long stretches, is knowing shoe size really all that important? Anyone can take a kid to a shoe store to get fitted. Not sure what that even has to do with anything. What’s OPs job?
Anonymous
12/08/2025 17:42
Subject: Annoyed with spending every Christmas Eve with my inlaws.
Anonymous wrote:OP is full of shit. She didn't say anything about the in laws being a bunch of druggies and alcoholics until she didn't get the support she was after on this thread.
Her nuclear family gets Christmas Day to themselves every year. Her poor husband is off fishing for "months at a time." Let the man see his family on Christmas Eve. Jesus.
Her staying home is not preventing the husband from doing anything.
Anonymous
12/08/2025 17:39
Subject: Annoyed with spending every Christmas Eve with my inlaws.
Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound selfish. There are 364 other days for "me" time. Christmas Eve is a night for families to be together.
+1
Anonymous
12/08/2025 17:38
Subject: Annoyed with spending every Christmas Eve with my inlaws.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound selfish. There are 364 other days for "me" time. Christmas Eve is a night for families to be together.
A mother can make her own decision about where her and her children will spend Christmas Eve.
Only when it’s her turn for the holiday.
It’s always “her turn”
Her children, her turn.
They’re his children too
If the father is a 50% contributing parent, then he can negotiate.
Most fathers contribute more than 50 percent of the financial support. Even in 2025. Yes, they should have a say.
Money is only 1 thing. An important thing, yes.
Does he know their shoe size?
Anonymous
12/08/2025 17:36
Subject: Annoyed with spending every Christmas Eve with my inlaws.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound selfish. There are 364 other days for "me" time. Christmas Eve is a night for families to be together.
A mother can make her own decision about where her and her children will spend Christmas Eve.
Only when it’s her turn for the holiday.
It’s always “her turn”
Her children, her turn.
They’re his children too
If the father is a 50% contributing parent, then he can negotiate.
Most fathers contribute more than 50 percent of the financial support. Even in 2025. Yes, they should have a say.
Anonymous
12/08/2025 17:34
Subject: Annoyed with spending every Christmas Eve with my inlaws.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound selfish. There are 364 other days for "me" time. Christmas Eve is a night for families to be together.
A mother can make her own decision about where her and her children will spend Christmas Eve.
Only when it’s her turn for the holiday.
It’s always “her turn”
Her children, her turn.
They’re his children too
If the father is a 50% contributing parent, then he can negotiate.
Anonymous
12/08/2025 17:31
Subject: Annoyed with spending every Christmas Eve with my inlaws.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound selfish. There are 364 other days for "me" time. Christmas Eve is a night for families to be together.
A mother can make her own decision about where her and her children will spend Christmas Eve.
Only when it’s her turn for the holiday.
It’s always “her turn”
Her children, her turn.
Ok. I’m sure that will go over like a lead balloon in her home while still married.
Anonymous
12/08/2025 17:31
Subject: Annoyed with spending every Christmas Eve with my inlaws.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound selfish. There are 364 other days for "me" time. Christmas Eve is a night for families to be together.
A mother can make her own decision about where her and her children will spend Christmas Eve.
Only when it’s her turn for the holiday.
It’s always “her turn”
Her children, her turn.
They’re his children too
Anonymous
12/08/2025 17:29
Subject: Annoyed with spending every Christmas Eve with my inlaws.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound selfish. There are 364 other days for "me" time. Christmas Eve is a night for families to be together.
A mother can make her own decision about where her and her children will spend Christmas Eve.
Only when it’s her turn for the holiday.
It’s always “her turn”
Her children, her turn.
Anonymous
12/08/2025 17:26
Subject: Annoyed with spending every Christmas Eve with my inlaws.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound selfish. There are 364 other days for "me" time. Christmas Eve is a night for families to be together.
A mother can make her own decision about where her and her children will spend Christmas Eve.
Only when it’s her turn for the holiday.