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Anonymous wrote:I am dating my recent gf of 6 months and she is 42. Overall, talks a big game that she is a feminist and women's rights etc but never go 50-50 on anything. I am very liberal and progressive and agree with most of the things she says about women etc but don't understand why her walk is different than her talk. I like her and have no problem spending $s as I make a lot more than her but she sometime acts like an entitled person and wants man to take care of her like in traditional setting. Not only her, but she is also teaching her young daughter to not go 50-50 on anything with her bf and counts a small thing such as driving to see him for 50 miles as enough contribution that he should take care of all the expenses for the weekend such as hotel, food, going out for drinks, etc. Is she really a feminist if her beliefs and values are in such a way that she can't even afford her own self?

You're dating someone with a child. Where is the father?

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Anonymous wrote:Call her out on her bs she can't have her cake and eat it too.

Neither can OP. His ugly a$$ cannot do better than her, and she knows it.

LOl! Do you know how OP looks or you are also one of the fake feminist?

Nope. I have common sense. Why else would he put up with this?

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Anonymous wrote:Call her out on her bs she can't have her cake and eat it too.

Neither can OP. His ugly a$$ cannot do better than her, and she knows it.

LOl! Do you know how OP looks or you are also one of the fake feminist?

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not anti-feminist and (I’ll look for the link) where someone explains the non measurable items women contribute to when thinking about 50/50.

From women make $.67 to your dollar, cost of birth control, the safety issues women face dating and bringing you around her daughter, grocery shopping, eating at her home, the cost of her clothing/makeup/staying fit, the amount of unequal care they offer, on and on and on. Dating is very expensive for women financially, emotionally, etc.

I was just quoted $1500 for an IUd insertion. Not to mention the side effects, extreme pain, removal, etc.

Men really underestimate the BS we go through so they can get laid.

So, you don’t want sex for yourself?

Weird. I had an IUD inserted so I could have a piece of mind when I have sex.

And your lover gets peace of mind too from your IUD. Yet you are the only one bearing the burden of the costs and the risk. That is stupid.

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Anonymous wrote:Call her out on her bs she can't have her cake and eat it too.

Neither can OP. His ugly a$$ cannot do better than her, and she knows it.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not anti-feminist and (I’ll look for the link) where someone explains the non measurable items women contribute to when thinking about 50/50.

From women make $.67 to your dollar, cost of birth control, the safety issues women face dating and bringing you around her daughter, grocery shopping, eating at her home, the cost of her clothing/makeup/staying fit, the amount of unequal care they offer, on and on and on. Dating is very expensive for women financially, emotionally, etc.

Are you saying she wouldn’t buy clothing and makeup and stay fit if she wasn’t dating? Men, here is a red flag for you.

And what exactly are the safety costs around her daughter? If you are not comfortable, do not bring a guy home.

DP. Are you saying that a person shpuldn't ask for rent contributions from a roomate/friend living in their apartment because they would have bought the apartment even if they did not have roomates?

It does not matter if she would buy clothing and make up if they were not dating. The person she is dating is benefitting from her buying these things. He should offer to pay for some of them.

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Anonymous wrote:I am dating my recent gf of 6 months and she is 42. Overall, talks a big game that she is a feminist and women's rights etc but never go 50-50 on anything. I am very liberal and progressive and agree with most of the things she says about women etc but don't understand why her walk is different than her talk. I like her and have no problem spending $s as I make a lot more than her but she sometime acts like an entitled person and wants man to take care of her like in traditional setting. Not only her, but she is also teaching her young daughter to not go 50-50 on anything with her bf and counts a small thing such as driving to see him for 50 miles as enough contribution that he should take care of all the expenses for the weekend such as hotel, food, going out for drinks, etc. Is she really a feminist if her beliefs and values are in such a way that she can't even afford her own self?

No. Neither are you for that matter.

It's ok if OP is not a feminist because he is not claiming to be one. Issue is that his GF is a hypocrite and just takes advantage to whatever she could get and cherry pick everything for her benefits. She has to be a good human first before her values and fight for feminism come into play.

Try to find a single feminist, just one, that is not a hypocrite.

This depends entirely on how you define feminism. Some simply take it to mean what's best fort the woman in any given situation conflict and advocate as such. Through that lens, the positions aren't really hypocritical.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds a bit similar cases when women go on and on about 50/50 with babies, but the moment the father dares to have an opinion or method different from her's it all of a sudden about a "mother's special intuition" and the "special mother bond" and on and on, which, in practice, means she will make all of the important decisions and her judgment and emotions trumps her husband's. Really, women just want what they want.

Anonymous wrote:I am dating my recent gf of 6 months and she is 42. Overall, talks a big game that she is a feminist and women's rights etc but never go 50-50 on anything. I am very liberal and progressive and agree with most of the things she says about women etc but don't understand why her walk is different than her talk. I like her and have no problem spending $s as I make a lot more than her but she sometime acts like an entitled person and wants man to take care of her like in traditional setting. Not only her, but she is also teaching her young daughter to not go 50-50 on anything with her bf and counts a small thing such as driving to see him for 50 miles as enough contribution that he should take care of all the expenses for the weekend such as hotel, food, going out for drinks, etc. Is she really a feminist if her beliefs and values are in such a way that she can't even afford her own self?

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not anti-feminist and (I’ll look for the link) where someone explains the non measurable items women contribute to when thinking about 50/50.

From women make $.67 to your dollar, cost of birth control, the safety issues women face dating and bringing you around her daughter, grocery shopping, eating at her home, the cost of her clothing/makeup/staying fit, the amount of unequal care they offer, on and on and on. Dating is very expensive for women financially, emotionally, etc.

I was just quoted $1500 for an IUd insertion. Not to mention the side effects, extreme pain, removal, etc.

Men really underestimate the BS we go through so they can get laid.

So, you don’t want sex for yourself?

Weird. I had an IUD inserted so I could have a piece of mind when I have sex.

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Anonymous wrote:My ex-wife, the product of waspy boarding schools and a cushy upbringing, became a vocal "anti-white-patriarchy" progressive who believes women got and still get a raw deal.

Her raw deal included making $100k with summers off while contributing ZERO to mortgage, utilities, car payments / insurance, phone costs, college savings, vacation flights, hotels, college savings, tech equipment, kids' gear, and 95% of restaurant dinners. Yep, I made more -- but < $250k.

Maybe she is an outlier, but I'm not so sure.

Why did you marry her?

Because she presented herself as strong independent woman. During courtship, I felt obliged to pay for meals and trips. But silly me, it never occurred to me that she wouldn't step up to "partner" status once married. A strong, feminist adult dependent

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not anti-feminist and (I’ll look for the link) where someone explains the non measurable items women contribute to when thinking about 50/50.

From women make $.67 to your dollar, cost of birth control, the safety issues women face dating and bringing you around her daughter, grocery shopping, eating at her home, the cost of her clothing/makeup/staying fit, the amount of unequal care they offer, on and on and on. Dating is very expensive for women financially, emotionally, etc.

Are you saying she wouldn’t buy clothing and makeup and stay fit if she wasn’t dating? Men, here is a red flag for you.

And what exactly are the safety costs around her daughter? If you are not comfortable, do not bring a guy home.

Anonymous wrote:Call her out on her bs she can't have her cake and eat it too.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Her daughters are 24 and 20 and not young. Older one has a low paying job after a college degree and her mother expects me to cover some of the frivolous expenses for her daughter and I said NO.