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Anonymous wrote:I find it mildly horrifying that you would critique gifts. Maybe just be grateful people thought of you and donate the gifts you don't like?

I am grateful people came to my wedding, or sent gifts or congratulations. I'm not about to parse their taste or financial contribution, or lack thereof. That would be rude.

My thoughts exactly. We had a few people not give us gifts at all. I am still glad they were there to celebrate with us!

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Anonymous wrote:We recently moved from DC to Chicago. This is the first move we've had in 21 years so we went through all the attic stuff to purge first and came across some truly atrocious wedding presents we got back in 2022. These included the following massive Waterford Crystal glass Globe. It's literally the size of a basketball. Why anyone would think this was an appropriate gift for a 25 year old couple with a registry and zero kitchen goods is beyond me. Even more perplexing is the gift was from my spouse's childhood best friend who actually knows us.

https://www.etsy.com/listing/1527250653/stunning-waterford-crystal-times-square

Another was this repulsive and incredibly cheap colored bowl given to us by a very wealthy family that used it as a collective gift from 6 of the family member's that came. Six guests pooling together for a $40 gift???

https://go-leasing24.info/articles/a-practical-guide-for-individuals.html

What was the worst gift you got?

You're a spoiled, entitled brat. The first gift is the generic but nice gift that someone gives who has no idea what to get. Waterford was king of presents a decade or so ago. I buy old Waterford pieces to use for crafting because everyone gave everyone the lower tier vases and bowls as gifts and there are so many for sale on ebay that I basically just pay for shipping. It was nice and fairly expensive in the day and that could look nice sitting on a shelf. If that's your worst, you need to get a life.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you don't want it, get rid of it. Otherwise, it's tacky to complain about gifts.

It is?

I work with a lady who tells a funny story about getting a crappy wedding gift like a colored bowl from Ikea only to find a note at the bottom of the box saying "Merry Christmas Tom!"

It was a regift and a shitty one at that. Calling out behavior like that isnt tacky. It's the price you pay for being cheap.

Yes. I don’t need to read the rest of your post. The answer is yes. Full stop.

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Anonymous wrote:We got a very large book set — dozens of volumes, on a topic that neither of us was interested in. At the time we were both starting graduate school and in a life phase where we would be moving a lot and living in apartments. It was many many boxes to move. No one will take it for donation, and I can get rid of it on Craigslist. I sprained my wrist when it was delivered trying to life if off our front stoop because it weighs so much. The same set is available digitally in a searchable lightweight format, which is why literally no one wants it. The kicker is that I know it was not a regift and it cost a lot of money. It was such a waste. We have paid to move it 3 times, still have it and use it for things like lifting up a computer monitor or weighting down items. I just feel bad throwing it in the trash. I think the gift giver is just the type that thinks everyone likes what he likes and didn’t realize this was really a niche present — he didn’t want to be boring and just get something off the registry and genuinely thought this was a great gift.

What was the topic ?

Anonymous wrote:8x10 painting of Jesus

Anonymous wrote:I find it mildly horrifying that you would critique gifts. Maybe just be grateful people thought of you and donate the gifts you don't like?

I am grateful people came to my wedding, or sent gifts or congratulations. I'm not about to parse their taste or financial contribution, or lack thereof. That would be rude.

Anonymous wrote:Not me, but one of my good friends got a set of nesting Tupperware bowls with the three most useful sizes obviously missing.

Anonymous wrote:We got a very large book set — dozens of volumes, on a topic that neither of us was interested in. At the time we were both starting graduate school and in a life phase where we would be moving a lot and living in apartments. It was many many boxes to move. No one will take it for donation, and I can get rid of it on Craigslist. I sprained my wrist when it was delivered trying to life if off our front stoop because it weighs so much. The same set is available digitally in a searchable lightweight format, which is why literally no one wants it. The kicker is that I know it was not a regift and it cost a lot of money. It was such a waste. We have paid to move it 3 times, still have it and use it for things like lifting up a computer monitor or weighting down items. I just feel bad throwing it in the trash. I think the gift giver is just the type that thinks everyone likes what he likes and didn’t realize this was really a niche present — he didn’t want to be boring and just get something off the registry and genuinely thought this was a great gift.

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Anonymous wrote:Very tacky post.

Lots of people just don't understand or care much about gifting. I remember my narcissistic money-hoarding mother -- who would probably be described as "old money" by most DCUM folks who was living with my stepfather at the time who was blessed with a relatively high UMC income -- buying a stack of $9.99 Mikasa serving plates at Big Lots "for wedding gifts." Embarrassing as all hell, but it probably wouldn't shock anyone to hear that they virtually never got invited to anything so not a huge risk of them giving them all out. One or two of them probably made it to some couple, though.

But yes, it's much tackier to complain about a gift than to cluelessly give a cheap and/or inappropriate one.

Or maybe not cluelessly. My annoying cousin who dragged us all to Disneyland on a Wednesday for her "Dapper Day" cosplay wedding had a "cash only registry." I purposefully sent her a non-returnable gift from Etsy.

Anonymous wrote:If you don't want it, get rid of it. Otherwise, it's tacky to complain about gifts.