Anonymous
11/14/2025 06:51
Subject: Hosted a playdate. Kid repeatedly asked dd to open one of her new bday gifts
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’m a PP who said repeatedly asking is always rude (but think OP is wildly over reacting) and I also am curious why they couldn’t open the gift. This happened once in that one of my daughter’s friends wanted to open and play with a gift that had been given to my son (in the back of a drawer). But I can’t picture why my daughter would not have been happy to get out her own gift to play with. I am curious what the gift was…not that I think OP is coming back.
Right? Like what was she saving it for? Or was she just digging her heels in and saying no for the sake of saying no? It’s definitely odd to have a new toy and a friend be like, let’s play with that, and to say no…. especially if asked repeatedly by the friend ! (Which, yes, is rude to keep asking but to me that’s forgivable, they’re kids. OPs kids response to me is honestly weirder than the kid who was asking.)
Some toys come in packaging that’s very challenging to open and then once you have the outer packaging open, you have to cut 2 dozen zip ties to free the toy from cardboard. Some toys require assembly. Some toys require batteries you don’t have handy or a small screwdriver to open the battery compartment to put the batteries inside. Some toys are super loud. Some toys come with lots of tiny pieces. (Do we know OP doesn’t also have a baby or toddler, making close supervision necessary due to potential choking hazard?) Some toys will break easily if not handled with care.
There could be lots of legitimate reasons why the gift hadn’t been opened yet and why OP didn’t want to get it out during a play date with a child who has poor impulse control.
Anonymous
11/13/2025 20:24
Subject: Hosted a playdate. Kid repeatedly asked dd to open one of her new bday gifts
Anonymous wrote:I’m a PP who said repeatedly asking is always rude (but think OP is wildly over reacting) and I also am curious why they couldn’t open the gift. This happened once in that one of my daughter’s friends wanted to open and play with a gift that had been given to my son (in the back of a drawer). But I can’t picture why my daughter would not have been happy to get out her own gift to play with. I am curious what the gift was…not that I think OP is coming back.
Right? Like what was she saving it for? Or was she just digging her heels in and saying no for the sake of saying no? It’s definitely odd to have a new toy and a friend be like, let’s play with that, and to say no…. especially if asked repeatedly by the friend ! (Which, yes, is rude to keep asking but to me that’s forgivable, they’re kids. OPs kids response to me is honestly weirder than the kid who was asking.)
Anonymous
11/13/2025 20:21
Subject: Hosted a playdate. Kid repeatedly asked dd to open one of her new bday gifts
I’m a PP who said repeatedly asking is always rude (but think OP is wildly over reacting) and I also am curious why they couldn’t open the gift. This happened once in that one of my daughter’s friends wanted to open and play with a gift that had been given to my son (in the back of a drawer). But I can’t picture why my daughter would not have been happy to get out her own gift to play with. I am curious what the gift was…not that I think OP is coming back.
Anonymous
11/13/2025 20:09
Subject: Hosted a playdate. Kid repeatedly asked dd to open one of her new bday gifts
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My ADHD daughter would have done that if she did not take her medication that day. She’d have known it was rude but she wouldn’t have been able to help it, if an amazing Barbie dream house new in package was sitting in the living room and her friend was like nah we aren’t going to open that up. She’d have asked more than once for sure.
Maybe ask your daughter why she was power tripping on refusing to open up a new toy that was in plain view that her friend asked to open up and play with together. Like, was she saying no just to be able to have that power of saying no? Was she planning on returning it? Keeping it as a collectible inside the box? Like, why was she so resistant to just playing with it when her guest clearly was interested in playing with it with her? Yeah the guest was being rude by asking multiple times but your daughter sounds like sort of a controlling B.
I really and truly fear for our kids if this is the attitude parents have.
My son has ADHD. I would a) discuss in advance with the hosting parents and b) not act like my kid is entitled to play with someone else's special gift. ADHD is not an excuse for crappy behavior.
Excuse, no, but sometimes it’s an explanation. What excuse does OPs daughter have for repeatedly telling her friend she wasn’t allowed to play with her toys during a play date? At age 10? I know kids like that. They enjoy saying no to their friends and watching the reaction. It’s sort of calculated and antisocial.
Anonymous
11/13/2025 15:30
Subject: Hosted a playdate. Kid repeatedly asked dd to open one of her new bday gifts
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In a few years OP is going to be back on this board asking what to do because her daughter has no friends and is a lonely loser in high school.
But she will always have her BFF mom. Nobody is better than Mom.
LOL
Anonymous
11/13/2025 15:29
Subject: Hosted a playdate. Kid repeatedly asked dd to open one of her new bday gifts
It depends on the age of the kids. In elementary school it's a zero. Middle school also a zero. High school also a zero. Adult friend? Different story.
Anonymous
11/13/2025 14:52
Subject: Hosted a playdate. Kid repeatedly asked dd to open one of her new bday gifts
You are gross OP
Anonymous
11/13/2025 13:24
Subject: Hosted a playdate. Kid repeatedly asked dd to open one of her new bday gifts
Anonymous wrote:My ADHD daughter would have done that if she did not take her medication that day. She’d have known it was rude but she wouldn’t have been able to help it, if an amazing Barbie dream house new in package was sitting in the living room and her friend was like nah we aren’t going to open that up. She’d have asked more than once for sure.
Maybe ask your daughter why she was power tripping on refusing to open up a new toy that was in plain view that her friend asked to open up and play with together. Like, was she saying no just to be able to have that power of saying no? Was she planning on returning it? Keeping it as a collectible inside the box? Like, why was she so resistant to just playing with it when her guest clearly was interested in playing with it with her? Yeah the guest was being rude by asking multiple times but your daughter sounds like sort of a controlling B.
I really and truly fear for our kids if this is the attitude parents have.
My son has ADHD. I would a) discuss in advance with the hosting parents and b) not act like my kid is entitled to play with someone else's special gift. ADHD is not an excuse for crappy behavior.
Anonymous
11/13/2025 13:21
Subject: Hosted a playdate. Kid repeatedly asked dd to open one of her new bday gifts
My ADHD daughter would have done that if she did not take her medication that day. She’d have known it was rude but she wouldn’t have been able to help it, if an amazing Barbie dream house new in package was sitting in the living room and her friend was like nah we aren’t going to open that up. She’d have asked more than once for sure.
Maybe ask your daughter why she was power tripping on refusing to open up a new toy that was in plain view that her friend asked to open up and play with together. Like, was she saying no just to be able to have that power of saying no? Was she planning on returning it? Keeping it as a collectible inside the box? Like, why was she so resistant to just playing with it when her guest clearly was interested in playing with it with her? Yeah the guest was being rude by asking multiple times but your daughter sounds like sort of a controlling B.
Maybe ask your daughter why she was power tripping on refusing to open up a new toy that was in plain view that her friend asked to open up and play with together. Like, was she saying no just to be able to have that power of saying no? Was she planning on returning it? Keeping it as a collectible inside the box? Like, why was she so resistant to just playing with it when her guest clearly was interested in playing with it with her? Yeah the guest was being rude by asking multiple times but your daughter sounds like sort of a controlling B.
Anonymous
11/13/2025 13:15
Subject: Hosted a playdate. Kid repeatedly asked dd to open one of her new bday gifts
Anonymous wrote:In a few years OP is going to be back on this board asking what to do because her daughter has no friends and is a lonely loser in high school.
But she will always have her BFF mom. Nobody is better than Mom.
Anonymous
11/13/2025 08:41
Subject: Hosted a playdate. Kid repeatedly asked dd to open one of her new bday gifts
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You can always tell the kids that have permissive parents--very little is off limits.
Toys at a play date not meant to be played with? What kind of weirdo does that?
My sentiments exactly. My kids have ALWAYS hidden toys they don’t want to share in their closet. Yes, ideally they’d share everything, and we’re working on that. I’d never let my kids leave a toy OUT that couldn’t be shared. OP, you created this problem.
Anonymous
11/13/2025 08:28
Subject: Hosted a playdate. Kid repeatedly asked dd to open one of her new bday gifts
It's a pleasant surprise when a kid isn't rude at my house! I just file away the information. If they are a good friend to my kid and my kid enjoys their company that's what I care about. Especially for my oldest who doesn't make friends easily. So none of this would bother me honestly
Anonymous
11/13/2025 08:27
Subject: Hosted a playdate. Kid repeatedly asked dd to open one of her new bday gifts
In a few years OP is going to be back on this board asking what to do because her daughter has no friends and is a lonely loser in high school.
Anonymous
11/13/2025 07:01
Subject: Hosted a playdate. Kid repeatedly asked dd to open one of her new bday gifts
Anonymous wrote:Asking for anything repeatedly is rude, yes I agree OP. There! You got the validation you wanted that kid stinks and your kids are better, probably because you are a better parent.
But normal people know that even 10 year olds are sometimes a little rude, especially if there’s a situation that really makes them struggle. The kids who never have junk food always scavenge like crazy at all play dates. It’s basically binge eating disorder that they have been taught. There are multiple kids who have come to our house like this. We don’t lock up treats or chips because my kids don’t need that to control themselves so I had to learn it’s too much for other kids.
But you know what? My kids have other things they are working on. If none of the behavior bothered my child, I just plan better next time. I don’t know why people are thought kind hosts for adults but are completely unable to adapt to a kids struggles without deciding they are the worst.
OP I hope your kids don’t develop anxiety about having to act perfectly at other people’s houses in order to avoid judgment like yours… that doesn’t exist elsewhere.
Anonymous
11/13/2025 06:56
Subject: Hosted a playdate. Kid repeatedly asked dd to open one of her new bday gifts
Asking for anything repeatedly is rude, yes I agree OP. There! You got the validation you wanted that kid stinks and your kids are better, probably because you are a better parent.
But normal people know that even 10 year olds are sometimes a little rude, especially if there’s a situation that really makes them struggle. The kids who never have junk food always scavenge like crazy at all play dates. It’s basically binge eating disorder that they have been taught. There are multiple kids who have come to our house like this. We don’t lock up treats or chips because my kids don’t need that to control themselves so I had to learn it’s too much for other kids.
But you know what? My kids have other things they are working on. If none of the behavior bothered my child, I just plan better next time. I don’t know why people are thought kind hosts for adults but are completely unable to adapt to a kids struggles without deciding they are the worst.
But normal people know that even 10 year olds are sometimes a little rude, especially if there’s a situation that really makes them struggle. The kids who never have junk food always scavenge like crazy at all play dates. It’s basically binge eating disorder that they have been taught. There are multiple kids who have come to our house like this. We don’t lock up treats or chips because my kids don’t need that to control themselves so I had to learn it’s too much for other kids.
But you know what? My kids have other things they are working on. If none of the behavior bothered my child, I just plan better next time. I don’t know why people are thought kind hosts for adults but are completely unable to adapt to a kids struggles without deciding they are the worst.