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Anonymous wrote:Right when they turn 3. It will take a couple of days

I agree. People who start 18 months spend months trying to train a baby not physically ready.

Disposable diapers made waiting so long a thing. For centuries and in most parts of the world, no one is waiting until 3. This is a relatively new thing based on capitalism/waste. The better the diapers get, the longer people think it takes for their kids to be ready to use a toilet.

For centuries most/many people didn't even have toilets and plenty of kids just peed on themselves until they could control it. They learned to poop in a trough somewhere. Some cultures used to toilet train by simply carrying their children around all the time everywhere (in slings or baskets) and then noticing they were peeing and pulling them away to pee on the ground. In lots of cultures children ran around naked or close to naked until puberty started. It's actually a very recent phenomenon to have indoor plumbing and the kind of culture/environment where "toilet training" is even a thing, and the idea of it being something a parent teaches their child alone in a house without other adults reinforcing or helping is even more recent. People also used to beat kids regularly, which is incredibly cruel and caused all kinds of mental health issues but also was a very effective way to get kids to stop certain behaviors we didn't like, like peeing on the floor. Please stop acting like the last 80 years are the entirety of human history.

In 2025 in the United States, a child toilet training at 3 is perfectly normal and will in no way inhibit their development or make it hard for them to function in society.

Tell your kid that when they are embarrassed to be pooping in a swim diaper in the pool when the other kids are using the bathroom.

3 year olds don't care, so you won't have to explain this to them. Only judgmental middle aged women who think toilet training is the epitome of parenting care, and 3 year olds rarely care what people like that think.

You sure about that? Personally, I was reading, swimming, going to my little preschool, riding my little bike, and doing all kinds of stuff at age 3 that did not include peeing/pooping in a diaper in front of other people. I am glad my mom did not think I was a blob with no sense of what others were doing at that age.

Wearing a pull up on a long car ride, on an airplane, or overnight is one thing. Just not even using a bathroom until the age of 3 is not necessarily something your kid won't notice/care about.

Lady, we get it, you were a very advanced toddler. I’m sorry that’s all you have to cling to at this point in your life.

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Anonymous wrote:Right when they turn 3. It will take a couple of days

I agree. People who start 18 months spend months trying to train a baby not physically ready.

Disposable diapers made waiting so long a thing. For centuries and in most parts of the world, no one is waiting until 3. This is a relatively new thing based on capitalism/waste. The better the diapers get, the longer people think it takes for their kids to be ready to use a toilet.

For centuries most/many people didn't even have toilets and plenty of kids just peed on themselves until they could control it. They learned to poop in a trough somewhere. Some cultures used to toilet train by simply carrying their children around all the time everywhere (in slings or baskets) and then noticing they were peeing and pulling them away to pee on the ground. In lots of cultures children ran around naked or close to naked until puberty started. It's actually a very recent phenomenon to have indoor plumbing and the kind of culture/environment where "toilet training" is even a thing, and the idea of it being something a parent teaches their child alone in a house without other adults reinforcing or helping is even more recent. People also used to beat kids regularly, which is incredibly cruel and caused all kinds of mental health issues but also was a very effective way to get kids to stop certain behaviors we didn't like, like peeing on the floor. Please stop acting like the last 80 years are the entirety of human history.

In 2025 in the United States, a child toilet training at 3 is perfectly normal and will in no way inhibit their development or make it hard for them to function in society.

Tell your kid that when they are embarrassed to be pooping in a swim diaper in the pool when the other kids are using the bathroom.

3 year olds don't care, so you won't have to explain this to them. Only judgmental middle aged women who think toilet training is the epitome of parenting care, and 3 year olds rarely care what people like that think.

You sure about that? Personally, I was reading, swimming, going to my little preschool, riding my little bike, and doing all kinds of stuff at age 3 that did not include peeing/pooping in a diaper in front of other people. I am glad my mom did not think I was a blob with no sense of what others were doing at that age.

Wearing a pull up on a long car ride, on an airplane, or overnight is one thing. Just not even using a bathroom until the age of 3 is not necessarily something your kid won't notice/care about.

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Anonymous wrote:I trained both my boys before age 2. About 20-21 months.

We used o crap but your daughter might be a bit old for that method. That method is intended for 20-30 months of age. Girls are often trained at 18-24 months and many people wait later for boys.

The closer you get to age 3 the harder it gets. You want to train when they are still in the pleasing stage. 3 is notoriously hard.

3 is mostly hard if you powerstruggled earlier and failed. If you wait till 3 it’s usually a breeze.

Or you could wait til middle school and tell them you're going to take their phone away if they don't use the toilet.

Except the vast majority of kids are trained before they start school, and training at 3 has no long term impact on a kid's life. Kids who aren't trained by the time school starts usually have other issues.

I honestly feel bad for people who think potty training 6-12 months earlier than other kids is some parenting badge of honor. Seriously, who cares?

My kids went to preschool a few mornings a week when they were 2 and they had to be potty trained. I don't think I knew any moms who waited to send their kids to any sort of program until kindergarten. Do people with late trained kids opt out of preschool or just wait until later because of potty training?

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Anonymous wrote:Oldest was 3 years 8 months. Youngest was 3 years 2 months. I didn’t push it, and they trained in a day. Parenting is hard enough without creating your own battles. They are now both normal teenagers.

Does this mean they did not attend preschool?

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Anonymous wrote:Right when they turn 3. It will take a couple of days

I agree. People who start 18 months spend months trying to train a baby not physically ready.

My 18 month old boy was super easy. It took no time at all. He was walking at 11 months so maybe that had something to do with it. None of this is an accomplishment on my part. He was just easy.

My second child- not easy at a much later age. Not easy at all.

My youngest girl walked at 9 months old ran and climbed stairs a couple of weeks later. She toilet trained a 3.5 years old. There’s no correlation. Babies work hard on rolling over, crawling, walking, but for some reason so many of them are fine having a load in their diaper.

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Anonymous wrote:Right when they turn 3. It will take a couple of days

I agree. People who start 18 months spend months trying to train a baby not physically ready.

My 18 month old boy was super easy. It took no time at all. He was walking at 11 months so maybe that had something to do with it. None of this is an accomplishment on my part. He was just easy.

My second child- not easy at a much later age. Not easy at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Right when they turn 3. It will take a couple of days

I agree. People who start 18 months spend months trying to train a baby not physically ready.

Disposable diapers made waiting so long a thing. For centuries and in most parts of the world, no one is waiting until 3. This is a relatively new thing based on capitalism/waste. The better the diapers get, the longer people think it takes for their kids to be ready to use a toilet.

For centuries most/many people didn't even have toilets and plenty of kids just peed on themselves until they could control it. They learned to poop in a trough somewhere. Some cultures used to toilet train by simply carrying their children around all the time everywhere (in slings or baskets) and then noticing they were peeing and pulling them away to pee on the ground. In lots of cultures children ran around naked or close to naked until puberty started. It's actually a very recent phenomenon to have indoor plumbing and the kind of culture/environment where "toilet training" is even a thing, and the idea of it being something a parent teaches their child alone in a house without other adults reinforcing or helping is even more recent. People also used to beat kids regularly, which is incredibly cruel and caused all kinds of mental health issues but also was a very effective way to get kids to stop certain behaviors we didn't like, like peeing on the floor. Please stop acting like the last 80 years are the entirety of human history.

In 2025 in the United States, a child toilet training at 3 is perfectly normal and will in no way inhibit their development or make it hard for them to function in society.

Tell your kid that when they are embarrassed to be pooping in a swim diaper in the pool when the other kids are using the bathroom.

3 year olds don't care, so you won't have to explain this to them. Only judgmental middle aged women who think toilet training is the epitome of parenting care, and 3 year olds rarely care what people like that think.

Anonymous wrote:18 mo but it's never too late

Anonymous wrote: OP, your child is still 2-not yet 3-well within the normal range to not be potty trained yet.

I'd back off (especially since you said you are at the point of tantrums about sitting on the pottty) and just keep the potty available (in the bathroom or wherever you have it). Keep encouraging-but not forcing or causing tantrums. My guess is that your dc is going to be ready in the not distant future. Also keep in mind that sometimes, parents brag that their young child is 'potty trained' when in reality, they have managed to put a few pees in the potty, but still poop in the diaper.

My oldest was nearly 3 before he trained-I was frustrated. But it all clicked one day and he fully trained in a few days. He's an electrical engineer now so I guess he's smart enough lol.